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Please help calm. Facing prison sentence

433 replies

WienerDiva · 01/05/2019 22:41

I'm due in court tomorrow for attempting to pervert the course of justice.

It happened six months ago and I'm pleading guilty so no trial etc.

No previous and I'm a person "of good character". But my goodness I'm bloody petrified.

I probably won't sleep tonight and I'll I keep thinking about is my dd.

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JapaneseNotWeed · 02/05/2019 17:30

@Bishalisha no it shouldn't do. I'm in the process of qualifying as a beauty therapist, I'll set up my own salon in my parents' home.

Good luck OP. Justice was done today. Smile

Life is about lessons, experience and rules are there for the benefit all of us.

Mishappening · 02/05/2019 17:38

What a difficult experience for you. So glad you are safely at home with your DD.

Lesson is.....you deserve better when it comes to men!!! Hang onto your self-respect and never accept second best!!

Lots of good luck for the future. Flowers

Redshoeblueshoe · 02/05/2019 17:46

I'm so pleased you are home tonight Flowers

KarenTheCashRegister · 02/05/2019 18:20

Must be a relief to be home with your DD tonight.

SadVoiceofExperience · 02/05/2019 18:54

@WienerDiva - I assume your tag is not on yet. They will come to your place AFTER your curfew starts. They won't be intrusive, but you might want to make sure your DC are tucked up in their room, out of the way. It could be any of the next few nights. They were generally nice people, from my experience.

Check if your garden is included, if it isn't, you will have to get your solicitor to apply for it to be included - this could take a few days. Even if your solicitor thinks it is included, it might not be, solicitors can be a bit clueless on this. There is usually no reason for your garden not to be included, particularly as you have children and your curfew is relatively early.

If you live in a 2 storey house they will want to put your machine in an upstairs room that will have reach over the whole house. You need a power point which is safe from being unplugged, so tucked away is better, with somewhere for the unit to be placed, which will have a phone on it. They will occasionally ring you on the phone, so make sure it is somewhere you can get to easily.

If depression hits, and it could do so in the next few days, try to leave your house at least once every two days. If you don’t they will ring your unit to make sure that you are okay, and that the unit is working. It might also prompt a visit by them to make sure your tag is still on you (and not sitting on the unit).

Get yourself some loose trousers, the tag is quite noticeable, and you don’t want tight jeans/trousers. Sadly you will have it on through the summer, but it is water proof so you can go into a paddling pool etc with it.

Flowers
grumpyyetgorgeous · 02/05/2019 18:54

Glad you're home with your dd. That seems like quite a severe punishment but you've accepted it and faced up to your part in what happened. Good for you. The time on the tag will fly. All the best

WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 19:01

@SadVoiceofExperience

I'm a bit worried about the parameters of where I'll be allowed.

I live in an old county house that used to be a hotel. So I'm not sure how it's going to work.

They have said they'll be here tonight if not tomorrow night. I'll be alright one way or another. It's not forever. As long as I can get to my veg patch I'll be happy.

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WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 19:05

I don't think I mind too much my dd seeing what the consequences are of breaking the law.

She's going to see it eventually anyway.

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floraloctopus · 02/05/2019 19:10

you are sounding much more positive about it than I would be able to OP. Make sure you have somebody to talk to if you get down in the next few days, you've been through a lot.

Tolleshunt · 02/05/2019 19:13

I think you were treated quite harshly, but I'm glad you didn't get a custodial sentence.

Onwards and upwards, OP.

AvengersAssemble · 02/05/2019 19:18

I'm actually surprised how everyone is so happy a criminal has not been sent to prison? You now have a criminal record OP, this will limit quite a few opportunity's because of your record.

What you did and your EX was disgusting, yet you have gotten a clap on the back of MNetters for not being sent to prison. I'm astounded

floraloctopus · 02/05/2019 19:23

Avengers for somebody who is apparently a nurse you are showing very little compassion. RTFT. Yes, the OP has been found guilty of a criminal offence and deserves punishment but she hasn't said she doesn't and has been concerned because of the impact on her daughter. The whole thing is not as cut and dried as you seem to think, if it was then the OP wouldn't be getting the support that she is getting.

JapaneseNotWeed · 02/05/2019 19:24

Avengers justice was done today and you are not it, so back off. The judge is right here.

Nobody needs ever to be happy with someone going to prison. The more people who go to prison, the worse a reflection on our society for sure.

I have detected from the outset something uncomfortable about this thread, but that is what it is. OP I hope you have truly learnt from your experiences today, and that you conduct your life and business from your parents family home with due regard to society, which is all of us.

Parky04 · 02/05/2019 19:30

We all make mistakes. Quite rightly you were not sent to jail. Live and learn and all the best for the future.

pink412 · 02/05/2019 19:30

Between the two options of prison or tag/UPW I think this is the better of the two.

aprarl · 02/05/2019 19:30

Oh back the fuck off and stop being so needlessly goady, Avengers. A close family member of mine is in the police and has been hurt in the line of duty before, it's a daily terror of mine.

But I still feel for a poor mum who was bullied by an abusive man, and I'm glad she wasn't pointlessly locked away. Let's not forget the actual criminal here please, and what he's caused for the OP.

Tolleshunt · 02/05/2019 19:34

Avengers if I were you, I would give some thought to the idea that maybe the rest of us are more intelligent than to plump mindlessly for knee-jerk, overly-harsh and compassionless Daily Mail-type moralising judgements we are not actually qualified to make.

WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 19:35

I'd like to think the majority are applauding that my dd with SN has her mum home.

I'm not a menace to society. I have no previous convictions.

The judge decided what a suitable punishment for me would be. If you'd like I'm happy for you to have the details and you can write to him if you so wish?

I absolutely deserve what I got. Would I have deserved prison too? Maybe.

The criminal justice system believes in punishing the criminal not their children.

My dd only attended the funeral of her paternal grandmother on Monday.

The probation service deemed me a very low risk of reoffending.

The prison service is already over subscribed.

All these factors concluded I was not to be sent to prison.

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Janleverton · 02/05/2019 19:44

I’m so pleased that you are home and haven’t been given a custodial sentence. It would have been an absolute waste of money and a disproportionate sentence for you to be imprisoned - not in the public interest. The judge will have had a full range of sentencing options and this is a firm punishment. Onwards and upwards.

ChiaraRimini · 02/05/2019 19:52

ThanksThanksThanks OP
Please do the Freedom programme (if you can, not available in my area) or other work to avoid abusers like your ex in the future.
YOUR actions did not harm a police officer (so minor didn't come up in court. The actions of the twat who was driving did that. Don't listen to the arseholes. You have shown us here that you have learnt from your mistakes x

NoParticularPattern · 02/05/2019 20:09

Ah the goady fuckers are back. Excellent news, we were all very worried you’d come over all reasonable and decided to do one. It’s an excellent suggestion for the future though, just in case you ever feel like not being an enormous penis.

I’m so pleased you didn’t get a custodial sentence OP. I don’t doubt that you and DD are very happy to be together tonight! I think your sentence is possibly a little harsh, it then I don’t know the ins and outs of the whole case so it’s obviously difficult to judge. You’re right, a judge saw the facts, decided on your appropriate punishment and you have duly accepted that. The way some people seem to have it you’re some sort of copper killing menace. Anyway I’m glad you’re at home and have a plan of action!

TheRollingCrone · 02/05/2019 20:13

So glad you're home with your girl Wiener [fowers]

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 02/05/2019 20:47

OP 🌸🌸 I’m delighted for you

Hepzibar · 02/05/2019 21:27

@AvengersAssemble OP hasn't been sent to prison because she is not a danger to society and it would serve no purpose.

She has committed a crime an been given the correct sentence.

She has admitted the crime, is remorseful and been punished accordingly.

Would you really have her sent to prison?

OP made a costly mistake and no one knows it more than she does.

Good luck ok, glad it worked out well. You'll sleep well tonight

Acis · 02/05/2019 21:29

Avengers, no-one, OP included, is excusing what she did. However, that does not mean we can't be pleased that she didn't get a prison sentence which would achieve precisely nothing. The vast majority of people convicted of criminal offences get non-custodial sentences, so I don't understand why you seem to think a conviction should automatically lead to a prison sentence.

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