Please help calm. Facing prison sentence

[WienerDiva]

I'm due in court tomorrow for attempting to pervert the course of justice.

It happened six months ago and I'm pleading guilty so no trial etc.

No previous and I'm a person "of good character". But my goodness I'm bloody petrified.

I probably won't sleep tonight and I'll I keep thinking about is my dd.

Very pleased for you OP.

I hope that this is a real watershed moment for you and the strength you've now developed stands you in good stead to really make changes for the better.

Happy for you OP!

Best of British with everything going forwards.

I am happy for you.

Hopefully you can do some constructive unpaid work in a positive mindset. People I see doing community work actually seem to enjoy it out in the open on a nice day and summer is near.

The tag and curfew I would not find a problem as I am busy at home.

Probably best not to disclose any more.

So glad it turned out well for you. I was holding my breath as the courts can come down very hard on charges of perverting the course of justice. I wouldn’t have posted this before your outcome but I knew a woman who lied for her partner as you did, this to get him off a drink driving charge and she was found guilty of PCJ and sentenced to a year in prison. She also lost her job as a senior nurse and was removed from the nursing register by the NMC. So you were very lucky. The things women do for men eh?

What a terrifying experience for you. Glad you didn’t get sent to prison. Onwards and upwards!

Glad you have avoided prison 💕

I work in a charity shop. We regularly get CS people in always described as new volunteers and always hugely valued and appreciated. We bought our last one a box of chocolates when he finished and told him we would miss him

Hope you get a place as nice as us 💕

I am very relieved you are not in prison OP, but to my mind that is quite a heavy sentence.

I very very much hope that your professional plans will still be possible. I really mean that.

The more women who know about this the better. There was a woman only recently whose DP (sic) was co-ercing her to take speeding points and it has got complicated.

Good luck OP.

Yes, as AlexAmbudextra said, people don’t realise how serious this can be. Chris Huhne and and Vicky Pryce both went to prison.

Oh Lovely

Relieved for you but still harsh. Loads of support here.

Huge hug

Seems harsh to me.
We need more women judges or judges who understand abusive relationships at least.

In reality what does the tag & curfew mean? Excuse my ignorance...

swampytiggaa lovely to hear. more kindness is needed in this world.

Tedd it means an electronic tag will be worn on the ankle to monitor curfew times set by the court.

Wiener I'm so glad you avoided prison, the tag and curfew does seem a bit harsh though on top of the rest of the sentence.

That seems pretty harsh to me, but I'm no expert. I'm sorry about the tag and curfew, but very glad you'll be home with your DD tonight.

So glad to read your update OP, had my fingers crossed for you all morning. As PP's have said, it's over, put it behind you and keep moving forwards. Sending an unmumsnetty hug in celebration of your freedom

That's great OP! You must be so relieved, lots of wine for you tonight!

I can't fathom why they thought tagging you was necessary though It does seem a fairly harsh sentence.

Good news, so glad you’re still able to be with dd. Hope that you’re recovery from the previous relationship goes well, all the best. Xx

People keep saying it’s a harsh sentence. It really isn’t when you’re looking at a PCJ charge. Custodial sentences are very common. OP was thankfully very lucky.

Relieved it's not custodial but does seem harsh.

I know you have a fab partner now, but it might be worth doing the freedom programme.

So glad to hear this outcome! Enjoy the rest of your day OP and your future with dd and your wonderful new dp

I'm so pleased for you!

Make sure that you take full advantage of the probation service, they have great resources and are not at all scary or judgy! They can help with counselling and all sorts. The time will go really quickly.

Keep looking forwards, not back. Easy said, I know. It's been a traumatic experience for you, but it's done now. Love your daughter, show her what a strong woman you are and she will grow up to be the same.

@WienerDiva I'm so glad you'll be going home. It really seems like you learned from your mistake, you know you did wrong and I don't think you deserve prison. So pleased you're going home to your daughter x

Struggling to understand why so many people are whooping for the op, a convicted criminal whose actions caused actual harm. Confusing. 🙄

Nb but I fully agree that the op should not get a custodial sentence and am glad she didn't

Yeah that's right- go and piss on op's chips,
Don't you think she's been through enough?

Convicted criminal! You make her sound like a serial killer.
Op has a dd with SN, they would both have suffered had she been sent to prison.

She is being punished already. Hasn't got off with a slap on the wrist so your catty comment is mean in my opinion.

So pleased and relieved for you OP! I’ve only just read this thread and was so upset to think that a mum could go to prison and leave their child behind because of some manipulative piece of shit. When I think about the parasites out there and what they get away with it makes my blood boil to hear situations like this. You must’ve been through so much already but now you can look forward with your DD