Can social services split a 15 year old and newborn sibling up?

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Can social services split a 15 year old and newborn sibling up?
My partner is trying to get his 15 year old son to live with us through social services, he used to live with his mum but now living with his grandparents at the moment.
I'm pregnant with a little boy, social services have told me to leave my partner before the baby is born or they will take my little boy.
If my partner does manage to get his 15 year old, would there be more chance of keeping our family together? me, my partner, his son and our newborn.

Ah sorry, I misread and assumed you knew why SS were threatening to remove the child.

No idea, but sadly, I'm sure it's for something very serious.

If anything social services would be MORE inclined to take your child. Not only do they consider your unborn child to be at risk you are supporting your child to get custody of another child who would also be put at risk.

Staying because “you want to be a family unit” only shows that you are putting your wants above your child’s needs.

SS will have made explicitly clear why op needs to leave partner

So you would risk the safety of both children, OP?

You need to leave, and stay left. My DSDs were removed from their mother's care because of her new partner. DH has residency and SS said at the time that if he didn't apply for it the children would be placed into care. They don't do this lightly OP, please take notice.

You have asked the opposite of the right question.

You need to listen to what the professionals are telling you.

Your partner will put your baby at risk of significant harm.

You need to start believing that and making your baby your number one priority.

And whatever you do dont co register the birth.

Op please don't stay with this man. You're worth so much more

please come back OP I feel theres alot more this than you have said.

We can help if you need it you are very young still please make the right decision this will affect you for the rest of your life!

Are you scared to leave? scared you will have nowhere to go. Dont worry about living arrangements SS or your midwife will help you and sort it out you will not be homeless with your baby.

Do you have any family support? am thinking not. I know its hard and am speaking from experience I have no family really. Use this to your advantage. Go just leave set up a nice little life far away with just you and your baby. You will meet lots of new people if you go to mum and baby groups or sure start centre classes all of which again a health visitor or midwife will tell you about and support you through it.

Even when baby is old enough you can get a job or go to college you will get free funded nursery hours this another way to meet new people and start building your life.

I seen on another thread you were worried about the cost of a baby and everything that goes with it. Buy everything 2nd hand apart from mattresses but they are quite cheap for a baby anyway. Newborn clothes on EBay go really cheap you dont need lots of outfits just 12 vests and 12 babygrows will do.

Please come back OP.

I doubt the OP will be back because she's not interested in hearing anything that doesn't match her own view - rather like the advice she is trying to avoid from Social Services. It's not 'I'm doing this', it's 'how can I get round this'? You can't.

Social services wouldn't advise this if it wasn't serious. You need to listen to them.

Wow I can only imagine if they insist that you move away from your partner to have your baby, that they have very serious concerns about him. Please listen to them and let them help you.

Leave your partner. Run, dont walk. You will lose your child if you dont. You have a duty to your baby, not your boyfriend.

The OP is 18 years old. Barely an adult herself.

It breaks my heart to read of the OP's situation.
I have an 18 year old DD, the OP is in need of help in this difficult situation.

OP please come back, there is support here and in real life- you can make a happy future for you and your baby. X

As a pp said, if they remove your son and you change nothing they will take your next baby too.
They will do it for the children's safety, and chances are any future children you have will not be brought up with your son.
So not only will your baby be separated from his older half brother, he and any future children you have will grow up apart from each other.

Is that what you want? You would choose to stay with your dp if it means that your baby son is removed? If so, know that is the choice you are making and for the love of god don't get pregnant again. Because they will take that one too.

If you want to keep your baby, LEAVE. As soon as possible - not later as a last resort when you haven't managed to find a loophole, because it may be too late by then.

You must prioritise your baby over every other person involved here.

When you have a baby, you need to prioritise your child over everything. Your love life/relationship is nothing in comparison. Dont be one of those silly girls that fucks up their life over a man. You would also be fucking over your own child. Is that really who you are?

As others said do come back if you can op.
There lots of support here, people can help you.