I'm 18 years old and pregnant with my first child at 17 weeks today. My partner is quite a bit older then me, he has a criminal record and has been to prison once in the past. He is changed now and regrets his decision what he made in the past but the reason he went to prison was nothing too serious, yes I know he still shouldn't of made it. ive seen all his court papers and convictions.
He has children with a previous partner witch social service was involved with, he was allowed to see and be with his children until he broke up with the ex who made a stop to that. but nothing to do with the social services.
When I went to the hospital at 12 weeks pregnant shortly after social service was involved with me and my unborn baby. They wanted me to leave the father of the baby and said if I do not they will go to court and try get my baby token off me when I give birth to it. Clearly I said I will leave my partner if it means I keep my baby but I asked for help with somewhere to live because I can not stay with friend as they all have full houses and same with family, plus my mum hasn't got no where to live as well so she staying with a friend(just about).
They agreed to help me find somewhere to live and within the area my friends and family are so I have support.
A few weeks later my social worker phoned me and said he has three refuges that I could go to and that are near by.... They wasn't near by, they was 2-3 hours away. I didn't want to go somewhere I do not no and I didn't want to go somewhere I have no support from people I know. I tried to explain this to the social worker, he then said to me "do you think your friends are going to be there for you once your have this baby? you are going to be a mother now you don't need friends no more" witch clearly made me really upset and hurt because I feel like he don't care about what I need and trying to isolate me from things I know.
I asked the social worker if we could plan something so the baby's father is the baby's life and if the father could prove himself that he was changed and want to be in the baby's life. Even if it means me and the father goes to parenting classes or that they can come visit his place everyday or when ever they want just to prove there's no danger but he has not got back to me. He has not gave me any options for my babys father to be in his/hers life or even contacted him.
Does anyone know what to do in this situation?
Is there any way the baby father can be a part of its life?
I really don't think the social worker is helping, he doesn't get back to me when I try contact him and I always have to chase him up to find out what is going on.
I have a child conference meeting when I am 20 weeks pregnant. that's only 3 weeks away. I am just wanting to know what I can do, I am worried and scared. I feel like I am not enjoying this pregnancy at all because all I have done is stress out over social workers.
When I was younger I had a bad experiences with social service, they put me in care for no reason, no reason of my mums to. They even admitted to that after I was back living with my mum. I am finding it hurt to trust what they say even more because of there not helping now. I feel like they just want to take my baby 