I’m posting for one advice as I a, getting yes,f really worried about this.
Basically finding of fact ensuring for D V has been ordered by the court. There are allegations now being seriously investigated by the police.
My ex has been awarded supervised contact once a fortnight. The supervisory element of the role is that it is his parents who will supervise him NOT a contact centre.
Before I explain why this worries me greatly for a number of reasons, I am pains to point out I don’t have a problem with his parents seeing them (unlike their bullying abusive father) it is that they are not capable or competent in undertaking this responsibility. I feel it should be in a Contact Centre for their Benefit as much as my children’s.
-They are scared of their son and will do whatever he tells them. They believe all the poisonous lies told about my mental health which was struck off as a concern in court this week. It was all made up by him.
- They are not physically or emotionally able to attend to the children’s needs. They can’t do much and are really remiss with health and safety. My children are young but fast and really strong and stubborn. I am terrified there will be an awful accident.
- Prior to my leaving their son they had seen the children twice once in February and once in May. Our youngest child in particular doesn’t really know them at all and cries whenever left with them for a few seconds.
- They will let him do what he wants with the children. One of y bug issues of concern is their father is careless and reckless and negligent with things like car seats, hydration, appropriate clothing, feeding them, letting them roam. (They are 3 and 1 years of age)
How can I make my concerns known. There has been no explanation by the court of their serious responsibility and undertaking. They have had no Safeguarding or competence checks whereas me and my parents have been scrutinised and had to jump through hoops. They could be anyone.
I would be much more comfortable with a contact centre.
This is about keeping my children safe around people who I know are not wake to attend to their needs.
CAFCASS don’t seem remotely bothered. I am at my wits end terrified that something will happen.
What can I do? Can I apply for a variation on the order stating my concerns?
Is it suicide to call CAFCASS?
I feel as though I am being ignored