and he came back with a court order

[Coffeegirl123]

Hi guys,
Some of you may remember me from my last post regarding my ex husband and his immigration status. With the help of a very lovely lady on here, I was able to get his leave to remain curtailed.

I moved on with my life after lots of messy reconciliation efforts between both families which were rejected by my husband's family. All attempts were done through his and my family members. He pretty much disappeared of the scene.

It has now been 7 months and after having been in talks with the Home Office, I managed to get his spouse visa curtailed. His visa finished yesterday and today I have received court papers to initiate contact with his daughter. I know this is only for immigration reasons, he has no interest in the child.

My daughter is now 8 months and has not seen him since she was 1 and half months old. She is very clingy with me and does not stay with anyone she doesn't know. She would not recognize her father at all. As children we also have seen my mum stay in an abusive marriage for almost 3 decades and it has had devastating effects on us so much so that I now CANNOT break free of the bond I have with my father even if he is a toxic person. I wouldn't want my daughter to go through the same as her father was also a toxic person. So at this point I will be opposing all contact especially when he didn't think to see her in the past 8 months but has now sent an order in the day after his visa expired.

Another thing I noticed was that he put in his C100 form that he does not qualify for mediation because he does not have contact details for me but on the other hand, he has put down my phone number etc. I also moved back into my mums house which is where we both lived together at some point. So basically our addresses and contact details are the same as day 1. Is there any way I can oppose this?

I've never really been in court much and am feeling quite scared and lost by all the legalities and am looking for a lawyer to represent me. Can anyone recommend me anyone in the Gloucester area? I will be opposing all contact but I need help.

Coffee, go back on your initial thread and send a private message to the amazing poster that knew all the immigration details.

No, you mis understand me. He ran away after using me to get leave into the country. During that time, I tried to get him to come and see his daughter - he refused plainly and because he was on a spouse visa and still subject to my sponsorship and he had abandoned me, I was under duty to inform the home office of the breakdown. He had quite a lot of time on his visa left therefore I tried to get that curtailed once he made his intentions very clear that he had no care about his daughter.

The reason for our breakdown was his persistence about me moving in with his sexual offender brother.

Sorry my post came across as jumbled - it show cases my mind atm.

Please see my previous post
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/legal_matters/2950727-Im-in-a-bit-of-a-mess

It will give more background info, I didn't want to make this post too long.