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Need some advice on DNA test. Do I go through with it????

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Anonmum29 · 16/08/2017 10:26

Hi all, I'm new on here and really need some advice.... sorry if the post is long.... in January 2015 I started a relationship with a guy he practically moved in with me after 2 days, we spilt for good end of March 2015, I soon discovered I was pregnant he then came back for 4 days and I told him I didn't want to be with him within 2 weeks he was with a new girl,anyway I've had my daughter she's nearly 21mths she has met her dad once at 3months old, he has never laid a penny never towards her. He has a new child which is 5months younger than my daughter, I have contacted CM purely do he can request a DNA test, he knows full well my child is his, but I've had nothing but abuse from his new gf, saying how he doesn't care he doesn't wanna know my child, I'm glad because he's a waste of space and my child doesn't need part time parents in her life, I've done my utmost best for her she's such a happy healthy perfect wee girl and our bond is like nothing else in this world, she wants for nothing, has all the latest clothes toys, I take her on holiday, I'm her mum, she knows who's been there, my question is which I've pondered over for nearly a year, do I go through with this DNA my head feels so messed up by it all, I just wanna do the right thing for my child's sake and get the truth for her regardless of wether she has contact with her dad, I for one know what it's like not knowing who my dad was. Part of me just wants the truth for her and the other part fills me with so much dread and anxiety, in case her dad would try to take her from me I'm just thinking crazy thoughts, like incase he tried to get on her birth certificate, or try to stop me taking her on holiday, or making up lies, stupid things but it fills me with anxiety, if he was anyway decent he would take me to court, but that would only meddle with his relationship lol, someone please give me advice I don't know how many times I have cried about this situation do I do what I think is right for my child or do I do the right thing, advice needed. Than you

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Anonmum29 · 19/08/2017 12:10

Thanks for everyone's advice Smile

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Mary1935 · 25/08/2017 07:14

Hi Anonmum29 your clearly doing you best by your daughter & clearly love her. You could get the DNA test as someone said up thread his situation may change but do you want him your life. Your daughter maybe better off without him as he sounds destructive &! Is clearly damaged. For your own mental health I would cut these people from your life. Cut them from social media, anything and everything. Good luck.

HappylandToysEverywhere · 25/08/2017 09:37

What does raring mean?

Anonmum29 · 25/08/2017 11:17

Thank you Mary, 😀

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Anonmum29 · 25/08/2017 11:18

Raring, it means raring, your child, bringing your child up.

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Anonmum29 · 25/08/2017 11:18

Or in better terms, REARING

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