moving away with my children

[Iniminiminiem0]

Hi,

Im divorced 2.5 years a go, and we have 3 children, 12, 11 and 7. we have court order in place for 50/50 residency. however from early this year my eldest decided she want to live with me permanently, and then my middle one decided to live with his dad. so just my youngest that still doing alternate week with us.

I have now in relationship and we are thinking to move in together. But he live in kent and im in Essex so we about 65 miles away. I know it will be straight forward with my eldest, but what should i do with my youngest? I'm not in speaking term with my ex? do I straight to mediation or apply for the court? And do i apply for school first?

Thank you

Exactly, Piglet!

Terrible journey to be doing on a Friday evening after school. Will also cost a fortune in tolls. You need to get legal advice. It is unfair in the children to move and also not see each other. If the boyfriend is that keen why can't he commute daily to his business? That is reasonable not you moving for a bloke.

I have maintenance for my eldest only £60 a month even she's with me permanently. And I pay for the other two. Only my youngest at the moment, they still calculate for how much for my middle one. I paid £30/m even tho he is with me alternate week.
Every month I'm struggle, I have to find £500 towards my rent (£750/m and my HB £250). If I move to smaller house I only save £100 but then my 12 yo have to share bedroom with the 7yo.
I told my HB about my problem but they don't want to know.
I cancel their piano lessen and football, and they devestated, but then again when it's on daddy's week he never took him anyway.
My BF can't move his business as it's been establish over 20 years and it's not business that you can simply move. It's engineering company. And he also have his children over there too.
I know the travel will be a pain but it's better than Living poverty and debt and can't give a good quality of life for my children. I can't even afford to put the hitting on.
my eldest and my middle one always argue when they together, and so they didn't mind not to see each other. Although if we come to it, they can meet every 3-1 weekend. And school holidays will be more. We also can do face time.
If I move there I can give the children a better quality of life. I will be a lot less stress.

Ps. He haven't asked me to move in yet...
but I'm on risk of being homeless. So I assuming he will.