Neighbours and their behaviour

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They are low grade pains in the arse. I won't give the laundry list. One issue. They placed tape on my property without asking my permission. They ripped it off and took off the paint. I asked them in writing to propose what they were going to do to fix. No proposal in writing they want to talk I don't for medical reasons. They have today painted just the damaged strip again touching my property without permission.

I feel they are trying to piss me off on purpose and have a fight. I am getting to the point where I am beginning to fucking hate them it feels like they are trying to annoy me on purpose and cause continual problems to gain my attention.

What do I do? I think ignore, my adult DD thinks I should go on them like a tonne of bricks now or they will continue.

This is what next door is up to. I don't know how to get out of it.

Ok, with the greatest respect op, you really don't sound well. Can you talk to your GP about how you are feeling?

I think you may be overanalysing their motives. No they shouldn't have damaged your property but they have tried to rectify it, if clumsily , with minimum direct contact as per your request. A note to tell you what they planned to do would have been polite though. They wouldn't need party wall agreements to strip and redo plaster. I sense there is more to this and perhaps your MH issues.

I think you need to elaborate on other things the neighbours have done to upset you because this one thing, out of context and your reaction to it is completely OTT.

With the best will in the world, you sound very unwell and not at all able to cope with life. I hope you are receiving help and support.

I think you might be over reacting slightly. I'm sure they don't need a party wall notice to replaster their walls.

That's not what you've described though. You've complained about them plastering their wall and fixing minor damage they caused to yours during the process of the plastering. That's it.

I say again, your daughter should not be encouraging you on this.

I want to find a way to stop them continually causing low grade damage to my property.

Can you give us a couple more examples of things they have damaged?

There is no way to stop it, OP. Try to not dwell on things that really don't matter.

There are many things in isolation look petty, like the paint, so you let them go. The point is they will cause a bit here a bit there and it's continually going on. I am a mature woman. I have never come across behaviour like this before. I have lived in terrace, semi and detached properties, I lived with neighbours extending and all sorts. Never has a neighbour kept on like this, continually causing problems.

So tell us more then, let us hear all of what they have done. Someone here can probably help.

But they aren't causing problems just small annoyances that aren't important.

OP, I say this with the greatest of kindness, but from what you have said in this thread I think going to see your GP, and telling him how you feel may be a good idea.

This is a thread in legal not in health, thanks for your concern.

other than the paint which they have now made good what other damage have they done to your property

They haven't made the paint good.

The paint removed showed a darker paint beneath. They gave one coat of a variant of paint not the same shade only the same colour and you can still see the darker pain beneath. They did this without first proposing to do the work and without my agreement to undertake this work.

I was tempted to report this thread, but upon rereading I think you are probably serious, I hope someone turns up with good advice for you soon op.

Legally there is nothing that a solicitor will do about somethin this trivial.

Maybe if you gave more info as to what they have done people can better understand the problem and advise.
Going on what info you have posted so far, it doesn't sound that bad and the amount of upset it is causing you doesn't appear to tally with what has happened.
Your responses on the thread do make it sound like you are extremely stressed out by the situation but it isn't at all clear as to why.

I don't think anyone needs permission to 'touch your property'
As I type, there are a couple of kids sitting on my front wall. I have no idea who they are and they didn't ask me. But when they move, no one will have died.

You seem to have an unhealthy obsession with the idea of people touching your house. This won't be shared by anyone else, and won't occur to them to ask written permission to do normal everyday things.

Then you asked them to repair the paint, they did and you're now complaining they didn't get anything else in writing?

You have to see this from their side. They are doing normal things while you make extraordinary demands. Poor them.

You sound very unstable op... Go to the doctors. Not everyone plays weird mind games to try and annoy you, they can be genuine accidents. The whole world isn't out to get you and tbh that's what you've made it sounds like. Very dramatic, very over reacting, very poor you. Tbh it sounds like you're neighbours are trying to live their lives the way everyone else does, they've tried to communicate with you and you won't be open to it. What else were they supposed to do if not fix the damage that you're so upset about? Sounds more like they felt bad and wanted to try and repair whatever went wrong and instead you've turned into a nightmare...

ok i'll rephrase the question apart from the paint what actual damage have they done to your property?