Brother in law has been visiting prostitutes - legal advice for my sister?

[mysecretvalentine25]

My brother in law has been visiting prostitutes and my sister has proof - text messages. My sister has been married for 13 years, no children. The house is in her name and until the last few months he has not contributed to bills - mortgage etc. My mum is in a care home and there is money in a joint - between her and my sister - account which pays for care home fees. My mum's house is still in my mum's name but would be left to my sister and myself. In the likely event of a divorce, what claim does he have on her money and assets? He sold a house to move in with her and still has some of that money left. He has obviously been living rent free in my sister's house. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[Cabrinha]

Just bear in mind that these things don't always turn nasty, especially where there are no children so the (usually) husband isn't feeling aggrieved at the (usually) wife getting the bigger % of the house and child maintenance too.

She should DEFINITELY see a solicitor. But does she already have an idea of what would be an acceptable split of money to her, and fair to both?

My XH was an habitual prostitute user

I looked at what we owned, and made my own proposal which he accepted. Tbf, it was very much in his favour because I decided not to take into account his business - a half owned family business that he'd had before me and I'd played no part in, and I'd continued my own career post kids.

If your sister hasn't altered her financial prospects because of him (like staying in a job instead of promoting because of his location, for example) then she could propose "take out what you put in". Which is pretty much what I did. Solicitor sense checked it, but there wasn't a single finance related argument between us. (although I hear he bitched to his new GF about paying me off, which is an outright lie to garner sympathy from her!!)

Good luck to your sister - I hope she finds the strength to leave. He won't change.

[mysecretvalentine25]

Thank you so much Fidelia and Cabrinha.

[mysecretvalentine25]

You're right Cabrinha. He won't change. From searching other posts by people in a similar position their dh seems to have had the same initial response - only calling because of curiosity, I didn't go through with it because the room was dirty, she wasn't there etc etc. It makes you wonder if there's a book of excuses they use. I hope you're in a better place now

Fidelia - they don't have a joint account so not sure of how much he's been spending on prostitutes but would be great if that could be taken out of the marital pot.