After getting counselling three years ago, I cut off my toxic, bastard parents. So many reasons why, but life was so much better after I did.
Within months they sought legal advice to see my children (I was pregnant with the third - they were only bothered about PFB, but obviously requested to see them all).
I was devastated. Our solicitor (we got legal aid back then - my parents are loaded) said they'd be very likely to get access. I didn't want to go to court. I was 23, heavily pregnant and with no confidence as a legacy of their abuse. We agreed to once a month contact. My dad had to do all the pick ups - I'd be happy if I never saw my mother again. She was always far worse to me - it was clear she hated me. My dad enabled her though. Anyway...
Tomorrow my dad moves to the Middle East for a few years potentially. I thought I could finally escape this contact nonsense. He's just text me saying
"Mum will pick the children up on Sunday 3rd may."
I tried to say look; they're our children, not yours, and we decide where they go/don't go. She's toxic, and I don't want them round her - I don't want to see her either! I still have nightmares about her - one last night funnily enough.
He text back a log message but along the lines of "how can you do this to your children? And to mum? If you refuse to let her see them we are going back to the solicitor."
I'm trying so hard not to cry. We cant afford a solicitor. im SICK of my parents being able to dictate my life still, even though they were disgusted and repulsed when i got pregnant at 18! What the fuck can I do?