There is no contact. I did tell my solicitor there was domestic violence but didnt go into the gorry details of it, and detailed the last incident. There is, as i have a letter from my health visitor been numberous occasions she suspected domestic violence and i had told her there was mental abuse, so there is some proof. My solicitor is aware of the violence, just not how extreme it was. She asked me to outline a TYPICAL incident, well incidents were every day at least once if not more a day so i went into it a little, and she said, that was all she needed for now.
He hasnt abused my son, just me. Fortunately, but he is aggressive when on alcohol and cocaine and if i am not there, i worry who it is he will take it out on. There were unfortuanetly no police reports, but since the cou ncil said no, i have found out a fair bit on my medical records do show suggestions of domestic violence and they had been noted, so the council are no longer denying it ever happened. Just still want me to return. In fact that was the reason social services were involved after my post natal depression, and such close health visitor supervision, not cos of me cos of him.
I felt ashamed and weak, when i spoke to her, A friend came with me and i felt ashamed in front of them to go into every thing. Now i feel i may have to. Surely though, what i did tell her should be enough.
I told her he would strangle me, hit me pull my hair. He had strangeld me on more than one occasion until i blacked out, that he was taking cocaine and was an alcohol dependent. That he has a criminal record for violence to a female paramedic and that he also has a caution for possession of a class A drug, which was cocaine. Surely that is enough, or at least i thought it was. I didnt want to go into being stabbed, and made to feel worthless, being kicked and punched int he back, and honestly i wanted to blank it all out, but i now know i cant, so maybe i do need to go see a counsellor or something.
He has said he is prepared to go through a contact centre, so that he can have some contact with his son, but is quite reluctant to do so, and have asked that this is put into motion.
It then goes onto say "In the meantime would your client be willing to attend mediation in the hopes that the matter can be resolved amicably. If not, then our clent will be left with no alternative but to issue an application to the court.
I thought if contact (which it will be) is in place the court arent likely to hear it, as long as its reasonable.
There are as i have said no finances to sort out. All but the overdraft debts, are in one or the others name, and i have worked it out, that they are roughly the same anyway, apart from his drugs debts which are god knows how much, but he cannot obviosuly declare them.