Adoption, fostering and a bit complex!

[zeebrugge]

I was adopted as a baby in 1971 and lived with my adopted parents until March 1987 when they were both drowned in the Zeebrugge Ferry disaster. I was put in short term foster care and then long term foster care until I timed out on my 18th birthday.

I was allowed to visit my former home, on the day after the funeral, to collect my belongings but never stayed there again. When my aunt and uncle came back from Denver in 1989 they lived there for a while.

Now I can sort of understand why I wasn't in the will, being adopted rather than a birth child. But as somebody told me over Christmas, and why I am writing, surely I was left something. Did I really matter so little.

"Your argument is a bit like saying that if you leave your door unlocked, it is your fault that you get burgled. To me, the fault lies with the thief who makes an active choice to steal."

Pretty much what an insurance company would say if your unlocked car got stolen!

SLAP ME ON THE LEGS!

"The default position should always be that posters are genuine. Why should we have to change the way we are/think/feel/act when on MN because of a few nutcases/failed novelists?"

I agree with the default position. The second part "does not compute". There are Mumsnet rules on troll hunting that a few people chose to ignore but the overwhelming majority choose to accept. I think create more problems than they solve.

I think THIS create more problems than they solve.

Of course it's necessary to trick people - how else would one feel all smug, superior and super - intelligent? Because that is what it is about, surely?

There is a well known poster on MN who has admitted in the past that she posts in a certain way to "study" how people respond. She must sit there feeling all warm and cosy whilst the riff-raff get aerated.

Troll hunters, especially the ones that have no objective evidence for their claims and who also choose to ignore the rules of the site, do more harm than good.
This isn't defending the actions of the trolls although the hunters would like to claim that it is.
Basically you are trying to stop the unstopable and doing harm in the process.

Ah.

Steve. Stevey, steve, steve.

Didn't I watch a video of Steve once?