Adoption, fostering and a bit complex!

[zeebrugge]

I was adopted as a baby in 1971 and lived with my adopted parents until March 1987 when they were both drowned in the Zeebrugge Ferry disaster. I was put in short term foster care and then long term foster care until I timed out on my 18th birthday.

I was allowed to visit my former home, on the day after the funeral, to collect my belongings but never stayed there again. When my aunt and uncle came back from Denver in 1989 they lived there for a while.

Now I can sort of understand why I wasn't in the will, being adopted rather than a birth child. But as somebody told me over Christmas, and why I am writing, surely I was left something. Did I really matter so little.

Are you the librarian? I want to complain. These books are full of things that are not true! It's a disgrace, what a load of emotional vampires!

Madam - this is the fiction section of the library.

It is just the same on Mumsnet. I have to ask you again why do you expect Mumsnet to be any different from the rest of cyberspace? Or different from the real world? Do you believe everything said to you by family and friends or every article you read in the newspapers?

If you wonder into the fiction section of Mumsnet don't act all suprised when you read fiction!

I can see that some of you get really upset or cross with what other people post. "... I suppose it could be a warped creative writing exercise from some narcissist with no ethics. LeBOF, its not a matter of ethics. If you read posting after posting that reads like an entry to "first steps in creative writing" what has happened was a sure fire certainty.

'Walks', Shirley? That was a saunter, if ever I saw one

Haha! Yes it was a saunter

I was chewing gum as well and twirling a big truncheon.

Allo, Allo, Allo, What 'ave we 'ere then?

Penandink, are you trying to say that because people make stuff up on the internet, that it is FINE for twisted fucks to go onto a bereavement board and make up stories for their own entertainment, in a place where genuinely bereaved parents try to support each other at the worst point in their lives?

You think this is acceptable?

I have a back up copy!

Sorry, Maryz, forgot that. I didn't see them before they were deleted. If the OP (or whoever) reported them, I wonder why s/he didn't report Artex's list?

I've changed my view a bit since last night, by the way. I still wonder if the poster(s) concerned might be emotionally disturbed, but from what people have posted since (especially Maryz and LeBOF), I'm finding that any sympathy I had for them is fast ebbing away.

Porto
Are these posters failed novelists? Or twisted people? Or people with serious problems?
I don;t care about some of the trolling but the bereavement ones make my blood boil.

Inevitable rather than acceptable Portofino. And for the reasons I said earlier -basicaly why should you, I or anybody else expect Mumsnet be any different from the rest of cyberspace.
Its obvious that people here are upset about they think, feel or guess is/has gone on. To me its a bit like a toddler having a tantrum. Some posters need a metaphorical slap on the leg (if old fashioned) or a time out (if more progressive) to make them wonder if all the angst based on, as I understand it, zero objective evidence does more harm to others than perhaps they realise.

If somebody did have a sensitive or dare I say it unusual problem would they post it once they read a thread like this one. I think the answer is no.

To me that above all other considerations makes the tiny number of people who keep on ignoring the site rules about troll hunting as a problem not as a solution.

Your argument is a bit like saying that if you leave your door unlocked, it is your fault that you get burgled. To me, the fault lies with the thief who makes an active choice to steal.

Actually I believe that most people are honest and decent. The default position should always be that posters are genuine. Why should we have to change the way we are/think/feel/act when on MN because of a few nutcases/failed novelists?