This question is for mums of 4 or more. Do you have practical help? (eg cleaner/au pair/helpful grandparent etc)
I do it all myself and am quite proud of this. My MIL does offer to help now and again but I always politely decline because her "help" requires managing in itself as it is like having an extra big, dangerous child on top of my 4 little ones.
In term time I just about stay on top of things but to be honest in the school hols it is pretty impossible. On days when I am close to passing out with exhaustion I think maybe I should consider getting some help, but (and here is the insane thing) I sort of don't want to because it would be almost like admitting defeat, and that I can't cope. (In a strange way I suppose I feel that I chose to have 4 kids so I should be able to cope with them)
So what practical help do you all have, and how do you feel about it?