3 kids - 1 bedroom???

[uhoh2020]

3 DS in 1 room (triple bunk) 13 10 5 how on earth do you get them settled and asleep at a reasonable time without the tormenting play fighting and general messing about?
Usually end up putting youngest in bed with me as hes the main instigator in the messing about but it cant go on poor DH is resigned to the sofa.
Their bedroom is mainly for sleeping they have their toys and games consoles etc downstairs.
Help every night is chaos

The playroom Is a walk through room to the kitchen and stairs it's not closed off

Put the 5 yr old to bed first. Staying with him until he goes to sleep is no big deal. Why would it stop you putting him to bed first?

Can you make the walk through room your living room? And living room a bedroom?

Definitely 5 year old to bed first. It might take awhile to get him in to a routine buts it’s doable. Just be prepared for being up and down the stairs a lot and don’t let him win. :)

So in the six weeks since you first posted have you tried anything? You know you need to go super-nanny on the youngest. If you'd started when you first posted it'd be sorted now....

Yeah, super nanny the living daylights out the five year old.

He has to learn to do what he is told by his parents. Otherwise he will be uncontrollable later. You need to sort out his brattish behaviour ASAP! He’s ruling the roost.

You could start this in your bed at 7pm or whatever bedtime is appropriate, with you sitting in the room on a chair next to him if necessary until he drops off. Only then getting into bed at your usual time so he gets the hang of sleeping alone. I know it means you will be in there with him later and that DH will be continuing to sleep on the couch for a bit longer but you have to sort this child out. I think I it will be easier trying to get him to sleep alone in you bed and once he realises you won’t cave you can make him sleep elsewhere as you require. It’s his dominant behaviour that you need to work on. Go full rewards system for all of them if needs be. But the wee one is the one to fix first.

Ok so we've had a few good nights a few bad nights. I have realised my own stressing about it made it worse he picks up on that stress and plays right into it. Since school closed and the lockdown I have relaxed more and so has he. I'm thinking he maybe wanted to be with me at night because hes actually missed me during the day. Now we're altogether every day hes quite happily gone to sleep in his own room about 50% of the time not always on his own sometimes 1 of has lied with him and watched a film and after it hes quite happily turned over gone to sleep in his bed stayed all night no problem.
I've relaxed their bed times not too late but let all of them kind of take the lead seen as theres nothing to get up early for. His behaviour has been brilliant (apart from 1 really bad kick off) but other than that hes probably coped with this lockdown the best in the house.
None of us have any escape from each other at the moment so I'm not going to go down the strict supernanny regime at the moment. Things have improved a little so I'll take that for now.
Ds1 has said he would love to sleep downstairs in the playroom even though it's open not sure how I feel about that tbh.

There won’t be much sleeping going on in a playroom

Every five minutes messing about is five minutes less of football/screen time/whatever they love.

Get the stop watch out and do it in front of them!

Your ds1 would probably like his own space

Where does the 13yo get to do his schoolwork (homework when lockdown is over)?

@ineedaholidaynow he tended it to do it soon as he came home from school when he was alone in the house before we got back from work and after school club. Theres plenty of places for him to study when we are all home though, if the younger dc are in the dining/playroom he uses his room theres also a desk in my bedroom for when I wfh he can use.
We have looked into converting the loft for him thats not going to happen overnight but its definitely the plan long term