Hello everybody. I am pregnant with my third DC. This was a wanted baby, with a large age gap (my youngest DC is 6) - I just had never felt 'done', always wanted three children (not necessarily another baby though), felt jealous of others with three DC. And felt that I would regret sticking with two and it was now or never (I'm into my early 40s). Anyway, got pregnant pretty much immediately and now ... I am utterly bricking it.
I think I mistook myself for somebody else, who would be able to cope with this. But in reality I have a fairly demanding full-time job, as does my DH, who is particularly stressed at the moment and spends a lot of time loudly sighing. The baby will put us under additional financial pressure - not unmanageable, but we had started to feel relatively comfortable and now will be going backwards. I have no idea how I am going to be able to give my two DC and a baby sufficient time and attention. I am terrified about the tiredness, the effect on my career, which has already slowed to a snail's pace in terms of progression. My other DC are lovely but there are always various issues (nothing serious, just school type stuff, friendships etc) and at the moment parenting does not feel very joyful, it feels like a bit of a slog to be honest. Of course, I KNEW all this, but I've sort of forgotten why I wanted this in the first place.
None of this is helped given that I feel especially rubbish at the moment (about 11 weeks, so of course no going back). Please forgive my moaning and remind me that there will be some good bits about three DC!!!