Agree with you KEW79.
When mother's attack each other over choices made due to our own individual circumstances, we are really just showing our insecurities in regard to our own decisions. We need to keep reassuring ourselves we're doing the right thing.
As mother's we are constantly bombarded with opinions on the best way to raise a family through the media, childcare professionals, the church, the government - everyone's got an agenda. No wonder us mother's are insecure about our choices 
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What we should be angry about is the dictatorial, patriarchal attitudes of many sections of society. Women should support each other in our choices; to work, stay at home, have children, be child-free. Men are not being put under the same level of scrutiny about how they juggle family life.
I'm at home at the moment but I hope to work in the future. My decision to stay at home was made because of a set of circumstances unique to my family - just like every other mother's decision to work, stay at home or do both is unique to her situation.
We should be fighting for choice not taking shots at each other. I want real choices for my daughters. I want motherhood to be valued, but I also want their education and careers to be valued too, basically I want women in all their roles to be more valued.
Society could start by
- Valuing the role of parents looking after children at home more,
- Supporting working parents by providing good quality, free childcare,
- More flexibility of working hours (already happening - long way to go),
- More dads could work part-time instead and share the childcare if women's pay was equal to men's.
and lastly
- Is ridiculously unachievable in this current climate when people are just desperate to hold onto any job, but would't it be great if one income could actually support a family, ( this was not an issue in the 1970s - incomes have been slashed in real terms in last 30 years.) The option to stay at home would then actually become a viable choice for those who wanted to (mum or dad.)
Sorry, I know I've gone on and some of this is incredibly idealistic but if some of this could be done maybe we could all stop beating ourselves up over our choices as we would all feel more secure in our decisions being the right ones for us.
In the mean time lets all just cut each other some slack - we're all doing the best we can in difficult times, (or alternatively we could just start a revolution) 
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