So. We are having problems and I don't know how to help us all to move forward. DH and I have 4 DS, now aged 8.7, 7.7, 3.7 and 20 months. DH works full-time, sometimes more, lots of late nights and overnights. I work 3 days/week.
We have recently changed our childcare from CM to nanny which I appreciate has been a big change for the boys, but the problems with fighting, physical violence between the boys, bad language and utter, utter misery from DS2 has been going on for several months and is getting worse .
DS2 lacks confidence
He has become very angry, aggressive and really difficult to live with.
I make a conscious effort to spend time with each boy seperately. We have restricted screen time for the 2 older (Lego Universe obsessives) ones. We have so far utterly failed to figure out WHY DS2 is so unhappy, so insecure ("I am stupid and ugly") and so angry all the time. He in particular cannot abide DS3 who is 4 years younger than him. He teases, hits, calls him names all the time - yes, he is a typical 3 year old and can be very annoying, but DS2 seeks him out in order to torment him. This then leads to WW3 which even 20 month old DS4 joins in . So far we have failed to find an activity that DS2 will go to that DS1 does not do.
So, how do you split yourselves all these ways, mother to several children, wife/partner, job, ageing parents, garden, pets - I feel a nervous breakdown coming on just writing it all down!
Any tips greatly appreciated. TIA.
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