December 2025 FET

[CoolSummer89]

Is anyone going to have a FET in December?

I was expecting to have one in January but when I went to the clinic yesterday they are going to try and squeeze a natural FET cycle in before the Christmas break!

I am 36, had my first egg collection last month but wasn't suitable for a fresh transfer. If my cycle plays ball my transfer will be 15th-17th December.

Hopeful for a lovely Christmas present but also being realistic given age and first transfer etc.

Thabk you @CoolSummer89, that is reassuring to know, I guess it's the unknown that's so difficult, tomorrows scan will hopefully help to see the growth.

Oh I'm sorry, I meant to tag @Sequins04 ! Getting confused already.

Wow that is such a good blast rate to not lose any over the 5 days. I am so sorry about the euploid results. You really wouldn't expect that with such good ovarian response and no attrition.

I also have not got pregnant naturally with my husband since we started trying two years ago. We also had 14 fertilised and 8 get to blast and are now in the freezer. No testing and I'm 36, so in theory we should be around 50% euploid.

Ah wishing us all the best of luck, would be a lovely Christmas present/we can get tipsy on Christmas day if it doesn't work.

@CoolSummer89 it is strange isn’t it! The genetic advisor said we might’ve just been unlucky and tested the wrong embryos and there might be loads of euploids in the untested batch but sounds unlikely to me? But what do I know! Your response was very good too so looking positive! And completely get skipping the testing at 36, it really adds up so quickly especially if you’re paying out of pocket (which we luckily aren’t) so worth trying without it. You’ve got loads frozen so always an option!
So true about Christmas drinking! I feel like it’s a win/win either way which I suppose is a good way to look at it 😂 We also have a massive group dinner arranged for about 11 days after my transfer, I’m thinking I test that morning and if it’s negative I can have a few drinks then too. And by a few I mean many 😂 Not to sound like a raging alcoholic but as someone said on one of the other groups this is peak drinking time of the year and so many social events and I wouldn’t mind being able to have a few drinks at all!

Hi everyone! Thanks @zirafica for the intro to this thread. So nice to have some more company going through this!

I am hoping for a FET next week. But I've already had 2 scans to check my lining and it's not been ready so hoping for third time lucky at tomorrow's scan so we can go ahead with transfer next week.

First round of IVF (ICSI) for us. Had egg collection in September. Hormones weren't right for a fresh transfer so have 2 embryos in the freezer. Just when you feel like you're making progress, there's another set back isn't there!

Hope everyone is doing ok x

Hi @BellaTink647 great to have you here! Oh my goodness the lining issues are so frustrating! What are they hoping to get you to/how far off are you from the target?
The delays are the worst bit aren’t they, you just feel like you’re waiting and it’s all out of your control. My EC was end of August and the two months waiting for the transfer have felt so long! Especially when you’re trying to keep healthy and not drink and not eat junk etc.
A quick summary of the girls on the chat, I think coolSummer is looking to transfer somewhere 15/17th and then Peonies is on for 29th Nov but we’ll still take her as a December joiner ♥️ both doing FTE. And then Raven I believe is looking to do an EC Monday and then fresh transfer Friday next week! My FET is scheduled for Tuesday 2nd. BIG WEEK AHEAD for us!

A huge welcome to the Dec thread, again and please let us know how your scan goes tomorrow, fingers crossed ♥️

Hi all,

Would love to join in this thread please!

I too was expecting my transfer to be in January and got a call a couple of weeks ago to say my clinic could squeeze me in before Christmas!

Currently on day 6 of Oestradiol patches, with my lining scan next Weds. Providing everything goes to plan I'm expecting my transfer to be 9th-12th December 🤞

Be nice to have a group to chat to throughout the gruelling wait between every stage of the process!

Never related to a post more than this one @zirafica 🤣🤣

I usually have a very boozy Christmas (just the way my industry and social circle is) so have said no to lots of things over the festive period that I know will be heavy. I'm still doing lots of nice things that I can enjoy without alcohol, but certain ones I know won't be fun unless you're drunk to, ha. I'm MORE than happy to do it for the FET, don't get me wrong but I also have this thing in the back of my mind like if it doesn't work I'll be like EURGH!!! So I'm doing similar to you where I'm hoping to test around the 18th and if it's not worked at least I can still enjoy a couple of drinks at some events in the run up/around Xmas Day.

I think what's hard though is that I know I'd rather drink 0 alcohol the entire time and be pregnant, so realistically being able to drink at a few events won't take the sting out of it if we're not successful this round, but I guess it's a tiny silver lining!

@AnonTTC I'm not particularly boozy but 'tis the season! I hadn't really drunk for months while prepping for IVF. And then have been relaxing while waiting for the FET which I thought was going to be Jan.

I have been open so far with friends about journey, especially in run up to egg collection. Have told everyone that transfer might be Jan or Feb, and have not told them that it's now going to be December. Quite like the idea of keeping it a secret, especially during the TWW so I can just be normal with my friends.

If it does work - and I almost don't quite want to let myself even hope - then it would be so nice to actually surprise people with the news in Feb. I just feel like I have been such a bad news pit.

I wouldn't usually test early, but planning to test on Christmas Eve which would be 8 or 9dpt. So I can absorb the results before seeing family the next day.

@AnonTTC first of all, WELCOME! Secondly, girl, cheers to that! I'm the same, there's so much going on socially and like this is usually the time of year when I start picking up a bottle of red for dinner every night cause I just feel it brings me a bit of joy as the sun starts setting at 4pm and honestly I've felt like I'm massively missing out this year. And I am not a big drinker usually, it's just this time of year that always triggers it! And I completely agree, it's worth it, it's the right thing to do, by no means am I winging here, it's healthy, big picture is it's absolutely the right thing to do, but would I like a glass of prosecco? I'd love one, thanks!
I'm so excited for you that it got moved to Dec cause the waiting is the WORST but also could they not have kept it in Jan and let you have a bit of fun? Sorry I feel horrible writing that but it would've worked out nicely! Please let us know how your scan goes!
Oh and oh yeah, not really drinking for the past 5 months + completely not drinking for the past 2 + potentially not drinking for the next 9... and then breastfeeding so that'll make booze a no-no for God knows how long...?
Omg, I do sound like a raging alcoholic, I see it now! 😆

@CoolSummer89 I feel you as well with telling and not telling people. We've been open about it with most people we've seen (I'm a shit liar so can't deal with making up reasons for not drinking) but I feel like I could do without people checking in on me as I feel like it's additional pressure? I know they're just trying to be nice and supportive and are a bit curious (which I would totally be as well) but I don't know where the line of me being ok with it vs me being annoyed is!
In case it works I'll definitely be fine with people asking how it's going, but it case it doesn't I just feel like I'll get annoyed at people feeling pity for me... Well not pity but you know what I mean... I'd just like to handle the disappointment internally and celebrate the joy publicly if it comes to that, but it's a thin little tightrope to walk with the timings of telling people. Like some of my friends know but my mum and dad don't cause I don't want to get their hopes up? Ridiculous.

I think the tests should definitely show something by then so fingers crossed you get the news you want on Christmas morning. If not, there is the small consolation of drowning sorrows in something nice and sparkly. Sending lots of love!

Oh my gosh you sound IDENTICAL to me @CoolSummer89 ! We didn't drink for 3 months in the run up to egg collection (end of Sept), then because we thought FET would be Jan/Feb I really let my hair down throughout October and start of November so had to put a halt on that once we realised it would be December.

And also ditto on the keeping this part a secret. Most of our friends/family know about the IVF but similar to you we'd said it will likely be Jan/Feb for a transfer so it's really nice that we have a bit of a secret just us two, because like you say the element of surprise and lovely vision I once had of telling our family/friends has long gone out the window 🤣 I think I'd try and wait until at least the viability scan but would loooove to tell people after an actual scan rather than everybody knowing we're testing 2 weeks after our transfer kind of thing.

I'll deffo be testing around 8DPT because A) I think I'll combust if not and B) like you say I want to be able to process things a little before actual Christmas Day (we've had a few family pregnancy announcements the past few weeks and they will all be there Xmas Day/Boxing Day so that's a new factor thrown in that I hadn't expected to deal with if things don't go to plan!!)

Thank you @zirafica - thanks for telling me about this thread! ❤️ Ha, you sound like you think the same as me. Had kind of accepted it would be Jan so put loooooads of Christmas things in thinking it could be the 'last boozy one' and then they ring and tell me I can have it in Dec!!! Obviously was delighted but like you say, had kind of made my peace with it and there was NO WAY I was going to wait until Jan once we had the option, ha. I actually think I prefer lots of elements of my life without drinking which has surprised me, so there is that but I also feel like a MASSIVE bore going to barely any of my Xmas parties because I just know I'd hate every second being the only sober one there and there's also the huge anxiety/guilt that I should be 'taking it easy' in the run up to the transfer. Then you read that actually you should stay occupied and do fun things, it's tricky to know the balance 🤣 I've tried to put lots of nice festive things in that aren't boozy to make up for it, so hoping I'll not get too much FOMO or like I've missed out once those kick in x

@Klmno this threat!

@CoolSummer89 thank you for looking up how your eggs were growing! That's very reassuring. I've got another scan tomorrow morning, so hopefully they'll know more then

Thanks for inviting me to this chat @zirafica

I did IVF in September and had a freeze all, was lucky to get 8 embryos but unfortunately my first FET last month didn't work. I'm going again this month, hoping to transfer around 10th/11th/12th. I'm doing non medicated. Like a few people have mentioned, I'm also very anxious about implantation issues, especially as I have some fibroids.

Sending love to all of us on this journey. It's so tough and I'm glad to have the opportunity to talk to others through this forum. I'm feeling particularly worn out by it all today tbh. I've realised one of my closest friends really doesn't understand my pain. Also her baby turns one soon and they started trying after us. I'm not sure she really gets that it's hard to watch her baby get older and older, not because I'm jealous but cuz it reminds me how ridiculously long all this is taking me.

i have my bloods this morning go check estrogen and Progesterone to check all is okay for tomorrow! Nerves are kicking in now!! It seems to have come around quickly as initially when I started my cycle they’d guessed transfer would be around 3rd ish but lining thickened up quicker than my last cycle!

this will be my second FET! We created embryos in August then first fet failed in September, so about to do our second now!

wishing everyone the best of luck! 🤞 Will keep you all updated as well!

it is so hard with Christmas and I think all the nights out and events and trying to make excuses! I’m not particularly a big drinker but if I’m out I never say no to a drink, so people will wonder!

they’ve given my OTD as the 9th and want me in for a blood test that day! (I’m sure last time they told me 11 days after transfer but this time it seems to be 10🤷‍♀️) but I’m an early tester and know I’ll be torturing myself anyway! I’ll need all the encouragement to get to at least 7 days before a cave 😂!

@Sequins04 good luck on your scan today! hope they've grown loads and you get clarity on friday transfer!
@Klmno hiya! oh girl, if anything this is the place to find understanding... it's so tough and a couple of girls have mentioned it kind of gets worse approaching christmas. i calm myself by saying not everyone's path is the same, and the fact other people have had babies already, or didn't struggle, or are at baby 3, etc. means nothing for my own path (hate saying journey as it reminds me of love island lol!). i've got to say seeing the people closest to you not have understanding is tough, but that's why we're here! sometimes there are things you can't talk to your closest people about cause their circumstances are different and to be fair i feel like we're all a bit more sensitive atm so find a lot of things triggering that maybe weren't said/done with bad intent at all. i saw you mentioned you had a few people look at the fibroids and had different opinions from all. i had the same situation to be honest, had a massive one and was going between should i operate or not, in the end decided to go with my gut and get rid of it (but again i was lucky as i had private health insurance that covered it). i know with the nhs it's massive wait so you might as well keep trying (but maybe get yourself on the list)? it massively depends as well whether they're in the wall of the uterus and whether they're pushing on the uterus cavity (mine was so they said as the baby grows it could cause problems). let me know if you want to talk about any of this!
@Peonies94 EXCITING! TERRIFYING! EXCITING! thinking of you, hoping all is well today and you're good to go with your transfer tomorrow!!!!! would love to have someone on same timeline as i'm due a transfer tuesday! it's all happening!!

I hope all goes well for you this time round 💚. I know how you feel about it taking so long, this is our first transfer and we started trying in 2021 (I also needed to have unrelated surgery which added a year waiting for that to happen and recover). My friend who started trying after me said she was stressed that it had taken her 6 months to get pregnant...she is lovely but her baby is now 1 year old and I do find that hard. I read a thing that said the most draining state for the human brain is uncertainty because you're holding multiple plans/futures in your mind, and I really feel that this process tests exactly that.

I am! I had my second scan yesterday, triggered last night and transfer is 4th Dec 😬😅

Wishing everyone the best of luck!!! I am planning a Feb transfer and a Jan hysteroscopy all going well. I agree it's so hard when you see children getting older that were conceived after you started trying. It's hard in the initial pregnancy and newborn stage and then I find it gets hard again once they exit the baby stage because as was said above it illustrates how long it's been going on, e.g 6 months before, 9 months pregnancy, then they turn 6 months, then 12, then 18 months, then you might start getting lapped by those people and as I always say 'while we've been busy working on child number 0'. Hang in there everyone!!! ❤️

@zirafica bloods all done back in tomorrow at 8.30am! 😬😬😬

Exciting, there is so many of you about to transfer. I had my scan today and luckily although follicles had grown I was not ready for trigger tomorrow so everything has been pushed back. Rescan on Monday with likely trigger then egg collection on wednesday. Means I will be able to have an actual day 5 blastocyst transfer hopefully on Monday 8th. Still doesn't feel real right now however the bloating definitely does!

That's so exciting @Peonies94, sending you loads of luck for tomorrow! Great news that things are progressing @RavenWillow and that the change of schedule means you'll get a day 5 transfer!

I had my scan today and am ready to trigger tomorrow night, for egg collection first thing Monday. Was busy celebrating when I got a call this evening to say they now aren't sure I won't be moved to a frozen transfer (something to do with womb lining) but they'll have to confirm next week. Gosh why is this process such a head f**k! Desperately seeking a silver lining, and grabbing onto yours of a drink over Christmas @zirafica 😂

Welcome to all the new girls on the thread. Let's keep our fingers crossed for lots of healthy babies incoming in 2026! @whysohardtogetusername and @Waitingforday6 I know what you mean about watching friends have babies and then their children growing up, when you've been trying for years. Over three years TTC here and not even a hint of a positive test result!

@Poppy9991 how are you getting on?

@Sequins04 oh no, there are just so many variables, you are right it really is a head f**k! I really hope your collection goes well and like you say as annoying as it would be to have to wait for a transfer there is the silver lining of a drink over Christmas.. it really is the little things 😂

I completely get what you are saying about watching friends children grow, I feel like so many people don't understand how it feels and it's not that you resent them but doesn't make it easy.

@Peonies94 good luck tomorrow :)

@Sequins04 I’m ok thanks!

Gosh, I’ve been off the forum a couple of days and there are so many new messages haha! This is great and welcome and good luck to everyone!

I’m having my scan tomorrow morning (this would be day 13 of oestrogen stims - medicated FET cycle), and hoping I’ll have good news and a transfer date at last!

Really hope we have lots of successful festive transfers and Xmas miracles 😇.
Re. Booze @zirafica I have been extremely strict with my booze intake when I was TTC and then I did my previous numerous fresh transfers and finally one was successful and I’ve been pregnant and breastfed for 18 months… It was 100% worth it of course but not gonna l have been bored to death on sooo many outings and occasions ha. This time round, it’s a FET so I’m drinking until transfer day. And to be completely honest I might not refuse myself a tiny glass of bubbly at Xmas or NYE. With my history, if something doesn’t work, that probably won’t be the cause!

And I absolutely agree that it is mortifying to see friends announcing their pregnancy while you’re trying so hard for years. You really have to go through an infertility journey to understand that feeling. Not gonna lie, I was absolutely like that for years whilst trying. Even seeing strangers in the street with a stroller was triggering at some point. I’m really grateful I finally managed to get a baby myself but I can’t help now and feel conscious that I might also trigger women going through this extremely difficult journey.

Wishing everyone the best of luck!

@zirafica yes absolutely, I know that their baby doesn't mean I won't get mine, I don't want their baby I want my own, etc etc it's just that it's a reminder all the time that it's so easy for some people and so hard for me to even get one. One of my friends complained about pregnancy symptoms to me despite knowing my situation and I feel very hurt by that tbh but like you say, until you've lived infertility you can't appreciate how hard it is! Was the fibroid that you had removed via hysteroscopy or laparoscopy? (If you don't mind me asking). And did you have to have a pause in transfers/TTC following it, in order to recover? I find out the NHS opinion of my fibroids next Tues. It's been 3 months since they scanned me, and after the first scan they brought me back for a second scan cuz the first lady who did it didn't really seem confident in the scanning technique/identifying the type of fibroid. I work for the NHS so don't want to criticise but it all feels very drawn out. All the private scans I've had say my fibroid isn't a problem so I'm hoping NHS also say that too cuz if not I don't know whether to go for my next transfer or wait for further investigation or removal. Not even sure my type can be removed as it's in the muscle wall, what kind were yours?

I am so happy to have some transfer buddies on similar timelines 😊 Good luck to everyone with transfers and egg collections coming up, we've got this girls! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hey we have the same transfer date!

3rd scan for me today on womb lining and it's finally ready so start progesterone pessaries tomorrow (can't wait for those haha!) Feels quite surreal to finally have a transfer date after having to freeze embryos at the beginning of September.

Best wishes for tomorrow @Peonies94 🙏