December 2025 FET

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Is anyone going to have a FET in December?

I was expecting to have one in January but when I went to the clinic yesterday they are going to try and squeeze a natural FET cycle in before the Christmas break!

I am 36, had my first egg collection last month but wasn't suitable for a fresh transfer. If my cycle plays ball my transfer will be 15th-17th December.

Hopeful for a lovely Christmas present but also being realistic given age and first transfer etc.

Congratulations @AnonTTC . Hope you both have a lovely day and an even lovelier Christmas! This is so so exciting.

And phew what a relief @AnxiousHopeful , just goes to show the female body can be very hardy when it comes to protecting pregnancy. Also two days before OTD is totally fine, OTD is very long because of historical reasons I think. My husband is also shocked that I am planning to test three days before!

eek @AnonTTC as soon as I woke up I came on here to see if you'd tested, huge congratulations!! That's amazing news! Hope you have a gorgeous day celebrating!

Congratulations too @AnxiousHopeful !! Amazing and such a relief that the sickness didn't make a difference!

I'm so nervous about testing tonight eurgh

YES @AnonTTC THIS IS WHAT I LIKE TO SEE!! so excited for you!!!!
this thread probably has the highest positive rate ever 😂😂😂
congrats to @AnxiousHopeful as well.
@Klmno will be thinking of you today ♥️

So great to see more positives!! So pleased for all of you, it gives hope to us all for the IVF process! And again, thoughts are with those who haven't had positive news and/or are still waiting ♡

We had told a couple of close family/friends that we were having our transfer but I now feel torn about sharing the result (positive). Feel like we have to say something since they will know we know by the time we see them at Xmas! I'm just a bit anxious that sharing now might make things even harder if our 7 week scan isn't positive. But I also feel like I will feel this anxiety the whole way trough a pregnancy if it does progress! I'm not sure I'm ever not going to be so worried that something is going to go wrong :/

Yayyy yet more positives!! Amazing knees! Congratulations to you all ❤️

the sickness has well and truely hit these last few days, though I can’t really complain as I’ve hoped and waited for this moment since forever and after 3 failed cycles of IVF and then this being my second transfer this cycle, it’s been longgg! So just trying to keep thankful!

@BellaTink647 we have this issue! I told two friends as one was going through ivf at the same time, and knew they’d know it was positive as id have told them if negative, so they know but they are the only people! Other people know were planning another cycle but not that we’ve already done this cycle!

@BellaTink647 can see your dilemma. We're telling our family either way. If it's positive it will be strange to tell them at 4 weeks and 5 days, but given we've told them we're doing the IVF in the first place we thought well it's all a whole other kettle of fish now! If it's negative we'll tell them too because we will be feeling a bit sad and it gives us some grace to not be too chirpy. I figured when we told them we are doing IVF it was cuz we wanted their support, and same applies moving forwards into pregnancy and the potential for early losses - we would value support. But it's hard because in telling people and seeking support you can feel let down. One or two of my friends have upset me with their support/lack of support and so has my sister in law. I really don't know if there's any right way to do any of this is there! Hopefully you reach a decision that feels right for you

@BellaTink647 girl I’m in the same boat. We’ve told loads of people (well I’ve told my closest friends but then my dear fiance went to a Christmas do without me with his massive friend group and basically told everyone which is SUPER annoying for me) and now I’m just like great if this fails I’m gonna have all this pity coming my way that I really can’t handle.
on the other hand, it’s what you said, so early and things can go so wrong and I’m so worried about everything that can go wrong (had this convo with @AnonTTC and @Klmno on a separate thread), like it’s all so fragile and I’m mentally struggling with keeping positive when I read all the horror stories, chemicals, no heartbeats, miscarriages at 10, 12, 17, like does it ever end 😭😭😭 but as someone said above we might as well be excited about it, if it fails it’s going to be shi* anyway so no point feeling bad the whole time
@Peonies94 ditto on the sickness + very sore boobs + all I want to eat is carbs, forcing myself to stomach protein is hard work!

thank you everybody for your lovely messages ❤️ I will be thinking of you later @Klmno

Funny enough we’ve have the same convo this morning about telling people because I have 2 friends, my mum & my colleagues who know about the transfer, so they’ll know if I don’t say anything but it doesn’t feel right telling people from work without our parents knowing first 😂 so I think we’re going to tell our parents over the next couple of days (plus then the people who know about transfer) but everyone else will be after the viability scan (don’t think we can wait until 12 weeks as most people know about a transfer being imminent at least). I do understand how you feel now though @zirafica because even though we have a positive I feel nervous sharing the news as if it’s this fragile thing that could break and I haven’t quite accepted it yet. E.g. I was just saying to my husband “oo I might be on mat leave next Christmas” and he was like “well you will be?” But I don’t think my brain can let me feel like it’s certain yet. Going to try and ignore that though and just enjoy every second.

Also, not sure if this is helpful but my seeds of doubt are purely from doing a CB digital weeks test along with my first response and getting 1-2 weeks when I assumed it would be 2-3 by now. A simple google tells me it’s fine but in hindsight I’d have not touched the weeks indicator and stuck to lines or “pregnant/not pregnant” only because I think they cause unecessary worry. So if anybody is yet to test that would be my advice! My FRER line is nice and strong so I am trying to focus on that 🤞🏼❤️ x

@AnonTTC if you want peace of mind and if your clinic can book it in, I’d highly recommend you do a blood test as that confirms your beta hcg is where it should be. I’ve seen people say the week indicators are not the most accurate, people even had them showing 3+ and then dropping down a couple of days later which is so annoying cause that would cause me to panic instantly. I decided to pay the extra fee for a beta hcg and when that came back very healthy it was the first “scientific” sign that things were ok and reassured me we’re good. All that’s left now is to hope everything stays ok until the scan!

Thanks @zirafica .. I think I will do another test on Tuesday (official test date) and hopefully they’ll be even darker and I’ll then let me clinic know and ask about the beta test then :) I’m not too worried atm because like you’ve said, I don’t think the weeks things are very accurate and the first response looks about where I’d expect it to. Not sure why I even bought the weeks ones tbh but in hindsight wouldn’t have got them 😂 x

I've seen loads of people on here just get the 1-2 weeks so don't worry @AnonTTC. But I am glad I just got the 'pregnant'/'not pregnant' tests as it would stress me out too!

@AnonTTC oh I got all the types 😂😂 the strips, the pink line ones, the ones that come up with a plus and the ones that show weeks 😂 so I totally get it! My clinic actually said go for the pregnant/not pregnant ones cause they leave no room for doubt, but if you add the weeks they can definitely mess with your head! Don’t worry about the number at all! And yay again this is so so exciting. Didn’t even realise I might be on mat leave next Christmas that’s actually insane to think about 😂

@AnonTTC that is fantastic news! So happy for you!!!!

I used the digital weeks indicator and it said 1-2 on Friday night and I did another one this morning and its now saying 2-3 so I'm happy with that. I guess whatever gives the best peace of mind is the way to go.

@AnxiousHopeful aw thats great news on the positive for you too!

@Klmno all the best for your test tonight!

We've told so many people. For my first pregnancy I waited until 12 weeks to tell anyone because I was so scared, but this time I'm just too excited to keep it to myself 😅.

My viability scan isn't until the 19th Jan, a few days short of being 9 weeks so I've booked a seperate one elsewhere on the 8th Jan.

@AnxiousHopeful Ha! Such fantastic news, congratulations!! See the food poisoning only helped things along 😂💓.

@AnonTTC oh my goodness so happy for you! Lovely idea to enjoy the day together 💖

I'm really interested in what people have done on telling people too @zirafica @BellaTink647 @AnonTTC .

We're currently weighing up whether we tell my partner's parents/when we tell them. I told my family this week as I've been using my mum as a big support and it would be weird to tell her and not my Dad and brother. But my inlaws are coming to stay in early January literally a few days after our scan, and we're wondering if we should tell them then or what. It would be much earlier than you would normally but they know we're doing IVF (and paid for some of it!). But if we didn't tell them and then had bad news I think we'd want them to know what was going on, and it would be hard to keep that from them.

My partner had a useful conversation with a friend who did have a miscarriage and they said it was much easier to tell people who did know they'd had a miscarriage than that they'd been pregnant and then had a loss. So I'm weighing that in my mind.

The only other person who knows is my boss, who is also a mate (I've worked with her for over a decade on and off and I trust her 100%). She'd been aware I'm doing IVF too, and it was just easier to tell her what was happening for scans etc, and because it would make any convo re: a miscarriage simpler. e.g. I could just text her and I know she'd let me have time off and sort things.

Weirdly I haven't told my two closest friends who knew we were going for a transfer (one did IVF for her son and is trying again for a sibling, done one round and next round early next year). But I think they will have guessed anyway. I just want to have it for us two for a few weeks longer over Christmas. We are spending it just us together and not travelling as we knew we'd likely be post-FET (and we were like, we're so old, nearly 40 year olds are allowed to have their own Christmas!), so there's no pressure to avoid drinking and so on at wider family stuff. Though we both don't really drink and I haven't changed my caffeine intake, plus I have stomach issues anyway, so I joke no one would ever know, we could keep it secret for months 😂

@Klmno also fingers crossed for this eve! Nerve-wracking 💓

@whysohardtogetusername and @BlueSkyWinterSun thank you
Sat on the train feeling sick but not a 'could be pregnant' sick more a 'i think it's failed again' sick.
But I can't have lost complete faith cuz someone near me stinks of cigarettes and I did think oh if it has worked that's not good for the baby for me to be breathing in all their fumes, haha.
I feel like crying at how badly I want this

Oh @Klmno it's so hard isn't it (the wait, not the smoking). Altho someone literally smoked in my face the other day and I nearly hit him. I'm sure a little bit of cigarette smoke is fine. I really hope things go well for you, this process is such an emotional rollcoaster from beginning to end 😱

Haha I'm sure it wouldn't even have entered my bloodstream and not even sure you share a bloodstream with the baby until a few weeks, but it was one of the thoughts that crossed my mind while thinking how gross it was!

Do not recommend testing in the evenings...day is DRAGGING. Was same last time when I was on a 12 hour shift and today travelling home from a holiday. I'm definitely testing in the morning with the next one if this one's failed! Although maybe then I wouldn't sleep the night before

I'm so impressed you've made it all this way through the day! I almost tested the night before I was that manic, didn't sleep well, woke up at like 6am...

Haha need my partner to cry on if it's negative (and would be sad if he missed it if positive). Been away with the girls for a few days so a good way of making me hold out!

@Klmno fingers crossed for you ♥️

Ugh negative.
Really worried something is really wrong with me as this is my second failed transfer and I know they say expect to need up to 3 but I don't know why it's not happening 😭

All the love in the world @Klmno, we have been there and just want to send you lots of hugs.

We asked our consultant to throw the kitchen sink at us and did a LOT of tests and extras that we probably did not need to (We are on autoimmune suppressant protocols such as using steroids and things) I wonder if you can ask for anything like that?