IVF babies due Summer 2025

[loulamay]

Hi - I wondered if anyone else had recently found out they were pregnant after IVF or loss? I am 4w6d today, waiting on some beta blood tests and have my first scan in just under 3 weeks.

We are very lucky to have a daughter who is 3 born from IVF and have been trying for a sibling for 2 years.

Had forgotten how utterly terrifying and anxiety-inducing (or as I also like to call it, 'knicker-watch') this first part was so if anyone else is in the same boat and wants to swap stories then that would be lovely.

Hello ladies!

Hope you’re all doing well and had a great (sober) Christmas.

is anyone else having to wait what feels like an age for their 12 week scan? The first available appt was 10th Jan for me and I’ll be 13W3D by then!

@Clocloxx the first scan is such a relief. They never commented on my ovaries being swollen but I suspect they were as I had a lot of one-sided pain, and I produced quite a lot of eggs, when I told them about the pain, they said it would be my ovaries. I think mine subsided by week 6/7 though, so hopefully not too long left for you.

@Jcm1985 I was quite lucky by 12-week scan came in on 11 weeks and 6 days, but I have a couple of friends in other parts of the country, one who did not get hers till 13 weeks and one who is currently 10.5 weeks and has not received a date. Guessing it is just the closures over this period slowing everything down?

Officially back to normality this week, boo.

I have been really off food this weekend, feeling a bit sickly at the thought of some food, and I am really thirsty to the point I don't want to eat as I think the food will make me more thirsty, It seems an odd time for this to kick in, being 13 weeks?

Thanks @wateringcanface it was a huge relief like a weight lifted off my shoulders! I'm going to book in for another scan at 8 weeks, I had a mmc 7 years ago and never left my mind, but surprisingly my sides didn't feel too bad last night maybe they are easing up 😊

I think sickness can kick in at any stage! Good luck starting back at work 😁

Hiya how's everyone doing? The nausea has kicked in for me. I've got a really bad cold and the coughing makes me through up on a Monday but only when I cough, so not sure I can count that as morning sickness lol. Pretty much feeling sick all day though. Does anyone have any tips? I have tried ginger biscuits.

@CakePigeon30 It's a cliche but my other half has started bringing me dry crackers before I even get out of bed and that seems to help. The one day he didn't, I was really nauseous for most of the day.

Welcome to everyone new! Hi to the older members and sorry I've been so quiet. Been a bit of a rollercoaster here - on the 12 week scan (was almost 13 weeks) the NT measurement (fluid on the back of the neck) was 3.6mm which spun us into a panic as it was just over their cut off. Luckily the combined blood test came back as low risk for Downs and Edwards/Patau but we went ahead with a CVS anyway just for certainty and that also came back as negative for T21, 13 and 18. Waiting on the rest of the array (other rare genetic abnormalities) which will take another week and a bit and also have a fetal echo at 16 weeks just to rule out any heart issues.

Totally took the wind out of our sails because we were hoping to tell people after the scan but we're keeping it quiet until we know all is well (our immediate families know). Phew! Waiting on test results is the WORST. But so glad we have ruled out the main trisomies. We also found out we're having another little girl 😍

@CaffeineAndCrochet I agree with Loulamay, luckily my sickness has not been too bad, but my friend is pregnant at a slightly earlier stage, and she said the only thing that has helped her is to not allow herself to get hungry, so she is constantly snacking on biscuits or something. She is miserable though bless her.

Hi @loulamay things have been quiet on here, I have been hoping it is just because people are off enjoying being pregnant and have no concerns and not due to worse news.

I'm sorry to hear about your scare but glad that for now, it looks like it was just that, a scare, and nothing worse. Hopefully, your next scans will bring you good news and you can start sharing the news with people...Oh and lovely news about baby being another girl!

Things are mostly good with me, I keep getting really bad headaches, and I am on antibiotics for a UTI I don't even believe I have, but otherwise things are good. I look like I'm showing a bit now too which is nice.

I'm 14 weeks tomorrow, so I am going to book in my gender reveal scan in about 2.5 weeks, I really struggle having weeks in-between scans, even if finding out the sex is unsuccessful as it is too early, I don't care I just want to know the baby is still there and growing nicely.

Hi ladies, thank you for setting up this group - I hope you don’t mind a latecomer? I’m currently 17+4 following 5 and a half years TTC, two early miscarriages & a round of IVF. I’m still feeling more anxious than I’d like & not taking anything for granted, so really pleased to find a group of people in a similar situation.

Sending you all many congratulations & my very best wishes for the rest of your pregnancies & beyond.

Hi @PinaColadaJ and welcome! Gosh, what a tough time you have had with it, this pregnancy must feel so special, but I totally understand the anxiety, you have made it through the most anxious stages now though, that must be some relief?

I am assuming your due date is early June?

Thanks @wateringcanface😊Getting through the first trimester was a huge step, but tbh I think I’ll keep feeling a bit anxious until I walk out the hospital with a happy, healthy baby! I’m due on the 20th June & it’s a boy 💙

To be honest I am the same, I'm not as anxious as first few weeks, but I keep having moments where I feel like I'm just waiting for something to go wrong, and it sounds awful but I'm so focused on being (and staying) pregnant, I keep forgetting the outcome is a baby, I just cannot visualise that stage yet. I know its irrational, I'm not an anxious person, I think it's because I know my shots at this are limited (we have 0 chance of natural conception due to the nature of our infertility) so the pressure for this to work feels immense. And congrats on having a boy! I find out next Friday for us, we are convinced I am having a boy though, and my 12 week scan looked boy like so I would be surprised (but also thrilled) if it was a girl.

It doesn’t sound irrational or awful at all. I think it’s completely natural to feel anxious or have the “too good to be true” feeling when you’ve been through so much to get here. ❤

How is everyone getting on?

One final update from me in the NT saga in that the rest of the CVS test came back as normal and the fetal echo all looked great. They want me to go back at 22 weeks just in case there are any small holes that weren't showing up, but to be honest that was the least of my worries! We are so incredibly relieved.

Saw my consultant at the hospital for the first time and she was lovely and has no major concerns now that all the tests have come back. Next big scan is at 20 weeks, so 3 weeks from now. It feels like it's going so quickly!

I've actually caught slapped cheek syndrome! Absolutely devastated as my bloods show I've no previous immunity... 4 years trying and 3 ivfs later I catch this disease now! I worked with kids for years how have I not caught it in all these years 😳

Really good news @loulamay, you must be so relieved.

I’m really sorry to hear about the slapped cheek syndrome @Clocloxx, I hope you are getting the support you need from your midwife/consultant ❤

I have my 20 week scan on Friday so just trying to keep busy to keep the anxiety at bay!

@loulamay I am glad that everything has worked out, must have been a horrible time of anxiety waiting for confirmation that everything is okay.

Its just sods law @Clocloxx . I hope it is not making you feel too rough

@PinaColadaJ Exciting, next Friday is so close, 20 weeks is such a huge milestone, it feels like ages away to me (3.5 weeks)

I had a private scan yesterday; baby is looking good (despite being asleep throughout majority of the scan) and we found out baby is a .... GIRL! Husband does not know yet (long story short - was meant to be looking with family tonight, but they accidently emailed me the results, and he's opted to wait till this evening) ...He and his family have been referring to the baby as "he" for weeks, and have for some reason convinced themselves baby was a boy so I am looking forward to their reaction 😂

Congratulations @wateringcanface! You must be really looking forward to the big reveal later!

I had my 20 week scan this morning & thankfully everything is looking good. I’m so relieved!

Hi guys - yes, so relieved the past few weeks are over, it's been such an anxious time. Hoping now for a straightforward 20 week scan and an easy rest of the pregnancy!

@wateringcanface how did everyone take the news?!

@PinaColadaJ amazing news! Have you got any name ideas yet?

@Clocloxx I'm so sorry! How are you feeling?

We’ve got a few ideas but still working on the shortlist. Started looking at prams etc online this weekend though which was both exciting & quite terrifying - I have to keep telling myself that buying baby products is not going to jinx anything!

@loulamay

Everyone was excited, my husband needed a 24-hour adjustment period as he really was picturing a boy for some reason, but he has successfully readjusted now 😂

When is your 20 weeks?

Mine is end of Feb (so I will be more like 21 weeks then) and it feels ages away 😭 I hate the gaps, I have such intrusive thoughts that something has happened, and I won't know about it for weeks. I felt fine after my 16 week private scan, but then the following days after, I keep thinking about how still she was and how hard she was to wake up, ultrasound tech just said she will be in her deep sleep cycle, but I was jumping around and all sorts to get her moving and barely anything, so now I'm paranoid. I can't wait to feel kicks, I think that will give me reassurance.

@wateringcanface bless him that's hilarious. But now you can start thinking about names and purchases and all that fun stuff!

I totally understand about the movements - we're in a weird limbo phase here where miscarriage is so incredibly rare, but we still can't tell what's going on inside without a scan. Before my fetal echo scan, I freaked out to my husband because I felt like my little bump and boobs had deflated and I thought for sure it was a missed miscarriage. It's such a hard time.

Mine is 19th Feb when I will be exactly 2 weeks. Counting down the days!

@loulamay we had already started purchases 😂only slight regret is that the colour pram I wanted was like a creamy / nude colour with gold rims, my partner thought it was a bit feminine as he was convinced it was a boy, so we went for a greeny colour instead, kinda wish we had the first now. Oh well, the baby won't care! And we have several names lined up. what about you?

I have full nursery planned out too, woodland/magical forest themed. But wont physically start doing anything until after the 20-week scan. I couldn't think of anything more depressing than having a half-done nursery then receiving bad news. All our deliveries are going to MIL's house for that reason.

I think with this being an ivf pregnancy and being set back a couple of years of having to wait and go through referrals etc, once we got the positive, I have just been go go go, as I have been so mentally prepared for a long time.

Not long till 20 weeks, eek. My next milestone after that is 24 weeks, aka 'viability day'.

All so exciting! Totally understand about the diversion of purchases - we waited a long time with our first. The nice thing about having another girl is that we can re-use everything!

We have some names that we didn't use for our daughter that are still on a list in my phone but want to add some more. One thing we found great for ideas/matching of ideas are the apps where you can both sign in and 'swipe' the names that you like and then it tells you when you have liked the same name. I think one is called Kinder that we liked - need to dig it out and have another go!

Hey guys! I’ve actually been following this thread since November but not posting (I was an OG but had a miscarriage). How are you all doing? You must be close to 20 week scans mostly?

I’ve had another embryo transfer and am 4 weeks pregnant now. It’s a much stronger line this time and much earlier. I also don’t feel as unwell as I did with the previous pregnancy. So fingers crossed! I just thought I’d update you as it’s a nice update.

I hope you’re all enjoying your pregnancies and having fun planning for the new arrivals xx

Hi @Feliciacat so pleased to hear from you. Thank you for the update, congratulations! I've got everything crossed for you that this is your time. Sounds like you are keeping a positive mindset. That's definitely needed in the first few weeks.

My 20 week scan is next week. Anxious and excited. Still not reached a place where I can visualise baby getting here, but 20 weeks will be a big step.

Overall, I have very few complaints, I'm just wishing for time to fly by. Trying to throw myself into work and make lots of plans at the weekend, so i have other things to think about/enjoy rather than just waiting for a baby to arrive