Transfer buddies?

[charja100]

Hi everyone. Had my 4th transfer on Monday. Now 4DP5DT and getting antsy! The two week wait is so hard. Any transfer buddies to keep me company? X

Hi @charja100 ! You are a few days ahead of me. How are you feeling? I had my transfer yesterday, it’s a day 6 grade 3CB fresh transfer so not great quality but we remain hopeful because that’s all we can do isn’t it really. Who knows we might beat the stats! Will you wait until your OTD?

@Pep1952 I'm starting to go out of my mind! I've got cramps today. A heavy feeling like AF is coming but no pain. Just feel very swollen.
We transferred a 2,2 care maps grade 8 untested 5 day embryo. It's all the makings to be successful but I'm 39 and being a fresh transfer I'm really nervous as I've had 2 chemicals already in last rounds.

Yes exactly! I have belief! This is our time!!

When do you intend to test?

@charja100 I did a quick google and those seem like really good quality embryos - well done!! Sorry to hear about your past chemicals. It must be heartbreaking.

I have no self control w testing… I’m hoping to hold off until Monday and test every two days from then. I know it’s not good to test early but it helps with my mental health to have a bit of an idea of what’s to come on OTD!

Yes in theory they should be but at 39 the chances of them being genetically normal is a lot lower unfortunately. Our consultant said on average 1 in 3 would be normal. So hoping that the all the chromosomes are what they need to be and it doesn't just look pretty!

I also have no will power with testing, and I have far too many HPTs at home so I just know that I'll test tomorrow at 5dp5dt even though it's still so early 🤣🤣🤣

@charja100 how did you get on? :)

BFN for me this am. Not going to lie I was a bit gutted but also know I'm not out yet as it's still early. Just have this heavy feeling down there but no other symptoms. I know it only progesterone side effects I'm feeling atm.

Just had a quick house tidy to focus my mind, chucked on some washing, had a shower and washed my hair. Going to get ready and make myself feel as nice as I can and get out the house to do some life chores and distract myself!

How are you feeling? Any symptoms?

@charja100 100% you’re still so in the game! I’m feeling 0 symptom!! Same as you will try to do nice things to distract myself. Will go for nice walk with DH and eating out this evening. Here’s to a lovely weekend and a BFP soon! Xx

@charja100 good luck ladies ! I know exactly how hard this wait is ! I am 6 weeks now after my FET few weeks ago ! Keeping my fingers crossed for you both xx

@Ilovebees thank you very much. It's just the worst waiting and the unknown. I've had period style aches and pulling all day and I've just convinced myself that I'm out already!

Were you a POAS addict like me or did you manage to hold out until OTD?

@charja100 I know the wait is horrible ! I also had some weird feeling like pulling and period mild cramps in womb area day 2-4 after trasfer and I started testing 4 days past trasfer im crazy ! 4dp5dt it was very very negative. And next day 5dp5dt is was shadow positive ! Xx

Okay so 6dp5dt today...BFN on FRER and on my easy at home. Just came back to it after 30 minutes (went for a post pessary lie down) to put them in the bin and something came up on my easy at home?

I had really heavy pulling cramp sensation yesterday. I was convinced AF was trying to arrive. Maybe it was implantation?

Should I put some hope in the delayed line that had appeared on the easy at home?

Will test again tonight I think to see if it's developed.

Hi @charja100 i would also check tonight maybe 4 hour hold? Fwitw, I’ve always used easy at home and never, ever got a delayed line. Fingers crossed xx

@Pep1952 thanks for coming back.

Yeah I know me too. I was half also when i did the test at 7am and i was trying to be quiet as DH was still in bed next door and he said not to test until tomorrow 🙈

I wonder if I'd sat a minute longer if I'd have seen it with my own eyes. Just strange not to have had anything on the FRER.

I know this batch of tests is sound as I've been testing out my trigger and I haven't had an issue so far. I've never had a false positive either so FX.

Will update later.

How are you feeling @Pep1952?

Hi! Keep the faith. This happened to me with my first transfer. I tested at 4 days post transfer and it was negative. I went back an hour later and got that faint line. My son from that transfer just turned one! Had my second transfer yesterday (26/10) and praying for positives!

@charja100 yes i had delayed lines with clear blue but never with easy at home! I’m ok thanks, nil symptoms apart from cramps which I always get before AF comes. It does feel unlikely that it’ll be successful this time tbh given the quality of my blast but happy to reach this point on our first ever IVF round. Xx

I’d like to add that the delayed line I got was with an Amazon cheap test.

Hope it’s ok to join - I had my first fresh transfer yesterday morning (our first ICSI cycle). OTD is 8th Nov, not sure I’ll be able to wait!

@Pep1952 I have everything crossed for you lovely. You never know it could be your lucky embryo. Try to stay positive ✨

Welcome to the thread @StoriesAboutJanuary and @Nic28j and congratulations on being PUPO.

Okay I apologise in advance, I'm having a bit of a moment.... I must say as today has gone on I'm finding it much harder to be positive. This is my fourth transfer and third egg collection and I'm just so tired. On my two chemicals I had tested positive by today (6dp5dt) and Im gutted the FRER was a BFN this morning.

I was really hopeful that it might be my time now, it's been a long two years to get here, but as the days pass it's looking less and less likely. 😣 We spent a lot of time and money this year doing loads of testing to try and give ourselves the best charge of success as this is our last round in multi cycle package we paid for with my own eggs. I think I was just hopefully that as we found out some answers, that I needed an immunology protocol that it might make the difference. As this was a fresh transfer we didn't PGTA this embryo. Now I'm just wishing maybe we'd sent them all off to be tested.

Realistically I know that if I don't get a positive tomorrow then my odds are incredibly low for this round. I just feel so bummed. This journey is so hard. Finding that balance between having hope and protecting your heart seems impossible at times.

Sorry to be so depressing. Having a bit of a moment and finding it hard. 😔

Hi @charja100 didn't want to read and run. Let's hope you get your bfp tomorrow. I'm so sorry the journey has been so tough for you, I'm prepping for my second transfer and am just terrified of it not working as its so mentally draining. I have everything crossed for you ❤️...and for the rest of you ladies xx

@charja100 please don’t apologise it’s what we’re here for. Infertility journey is so, so hard. I don’t know what to say other than I can empathise with you and please know that you are not alone. Xx

@charja100 Absolutely no need to apologise - it is so hard as you say, and every single feeling you have is valid. As @Pep1952 says you are not alone, keeping everything crossed for you x

Hi everyone, I'm 1dp5dt. I have my fingers crossed for everyone and hope this will be a positive thread for all.

On Saturday night before transfer, I made a list of all the symptoms I have been getting on progesterone.

-Bloating
-Heavy/solid boobs and sore nipples
-Mood swings.
-Cramping and 'twinging' sensations
-A heaviness in lower abdomen
-Strange dreams.

I did this so that if I feel anything like that over the next few days, I won't trick myself it is a pregnancy symptom.

I was just thinking whether it is worth testing tomorrow? I know I won't get results day two, but thinking that if it is negative, it shows that it is not picking up the trigger, and if it is positive, it is likely picking up the trigger?

Hi @wateringcanface welcome to the thread and best of luck on your transfer! If you think you won’t be able to wait until your OTD, i highly suggest testing your trigger out (test the same time and conditions each day). I am d4p6dt today and had a vvvvvvvfl that only I can see it. There is no point even uploading on here lol. I’m almost sure it is the trigger but silly me i didn’t test it out!

Hi @Pep1952 I have low expectations for this round, as the embryologist seemed very pessimistic about the quality of what was transferred. But, while there is a chance, I am still trying to hold onto that PUPO mindset. To be honest, it is not even a lack of patience, it's a wanting to test at the least disruptive time possible, I am very busy at work (self-employed) and have a job that requires a lot of concentration, so I want to test at weekend to give myself time to process the results. I am going to test tomorrow to see if the trigger is out of my system, if it is out and I get a negative, I will test on Saturday, which will be 6dpt, which may be too soon, but I would rather just assume its unsuccessful and deal with it.

I think there is a calculator online that works out how long the trigger should stay in your system? It looks promising for you, as you should be 10 days post trigger?

Thanks @wateringcanface i think it's a good plan to test tomorrow then Saturday. Also I actually think it's great that your work requires your focus and so hopefully you are distracted and not too consumed by thinking of IVF all the time.

My blast was also not great quality (poor accdg to google, 'average' accdg to my clinic) although my clinic has an opposite approach to yours, as in they are too optimistic I feel and spoken the 'it only takes one' a fair number of times! I know it's true but I'd rather want to hear my chances as realistically as possible.

Anyway classic me, I tested again this afternoon with 3 hour hold and it's stark negative so the one this morning is either vvvvvf trigger or line eyes! I'm also not too hopeful with this cycle but grateful that we even got to transfer one blast. I think I'd consider that a better than expected result given my low AMH and also have MFI.