Transfer buddies?

[charja100]

Hi everyone. Had my 4th transfer on Monday. Now 4DP5DT and getting antsy! The two week wait is so hard. Any transfer buddies to keep me company? X

@wateringcanface I feel exactly the same. I have had some nausea the last 2 days but like you unsure if it’s anxiety. I have taken a test each morning, my OH thinks I’m mad but my OTD isn’t til Friday so I am terrified of something happening before then. I am wondering at what point (if any) I will start to relax and believe that it’s real!

Hopefully they will give you a scan date today, keep us updated x

@Nic28j

I think I may relax at the first scan which I think is 7 weeks, where they see a heart beat? But even then, I dunno 😂

I have ran out of tests now, I might buy some cheapies from amazon, and just continue testing every couple of days, if they start to fade that can indicate that you may be losing the pregnancy, I think i would rather be gradually let down than suddenly be hit with a bleed, or go to the scan and get bad news. I'll just have to be firm with myself that I can only test every other day, as I have seen some women getting obsessive and testing multiple times a day for weeks and I can see why it is very easy to fall into that trap.

I'm definitely nauseous, the thought of everything I have in for lunch today is making me feel icky. I was cuddling my dog last night, and normally I love the smell of his fur, but I thought he smelt of chemicals last night 😆- But, this could be all in my head.

How many days is your OTD? mine is only 9 days past transfer which I find pretty early

@wateringcanface isn’t it mad to think that a non-IVF pregnancy their first scan is 12 weeks - I can not imagine waiting 8 more weeks to see that everything is ok.

Interesting that your sense of smell is increasing/changing - that’s a good sign! I woke up at 4am today hungry, I might have to keep some biscuits next to the bed.

I have ordered another 2 tests from Amazon but that’s it, I have to be firm with myself! I am going to ask for my scan as close to 6 weeks as I can as my anxiety is going to be through the roof by then. By my dates I am 4 weeks today.

My OTD will be 13dpt, but I had a positive at 8dpt. Will your clinic confirm with a blood test? Some do, I don’t think mine does but I will find out when I ring them on Friday.

@Nic28j yes waiting 12 weeks would be unbearable, I guess it is an anxious time for anyone, but with IVF because you know you have a finite amount of goes, we have 0 prospect of natural conception with my OH's type of infertility, so there is added pressure that we can't just endlessly keep trying.

Keeping emergency biscuits next to the bed - good idea!

I think just making sure you only have a couple of tests in the house is a good idea too and being firm that you can't just keep ordering more.

Mine don't do blood tests which I am a bit disappointed about, apparently you can book into superdrug to get a blood test, or you can get a home kit sent to you for £50ish, I might do that at the midway point.

Does anyone else know about your positive result? due to the nature of why we need ivf (the botched surgery) a lot of people know, and know that we are in the 2ww, my OH wants to keep it private till 6 weeks to close family (won't be telling others till 12 weeks) but I think it'll be impossible to keep it quiet, I'm seeing my in-laws twice this week and they'll ask, I would personally rather just tell them, but ask them to not get too excited till 6 weeks.

@wateringcanface no one else knows yet, just my OH. We are visiting my family this weekend and my dad knows we are having IVF and have had the transfer so I will likely tell him (we are lucky he’s been very supportive emotionally and financially, he has said he won’t ask but I would like to tell him), but other family I think we will wait until the first scan. I might tell my sister, she has had 3 children and with each of those she told me as soon as she found out, I hate keeping things but she doesn’t know we are having IVF (we are also MFI). My OH wants to wait to tell his family as close to 12 weeks as possible (maybe Christmas depending how things go).
It’s really difficult because if something does happen we want our family and close friends for support, but I don’t think I can handle over excitement from well meaning relatives right now!

I think I would rather pay for a private scan than the bloods, personally, but I might change my mind. It’s just such an anxious time x

@Nic28j

I ended up telling family (parents and sister on both sides) but just said that is too early to get excited, in normal circumstances I would have kept private, but as they knew we were going through this, it's harder to keep it shush. I do feel like a weight has been lifted telling them though, as my mother-in-law has been very invested in this, so felt almost cruel withholding information.

I have looked online for private scans, but earliest is 6-7 weeks which is when my clinic is doing them anyway. If all goes well, I will pay for an earlier viability scan around 20th December, which would be about 10.5 weeks, as I have a lot of Christmas outings over that period and I think I'll be caught out anyway the second someone sees me declining a glass of wine 😂

Now just have to keep everything crossed that I even make it that far.