FET September Crew Thread #3

[GCS34]

Hi guys - filled up the other one, so moving us all here. Tag those I've missed!

@lowo21 @cb2805 @hopingforno2in2023 @Justkeepmoving1234 @Mrsmotts @Kirstysmbc @KG1244 @girljulian @TT82 @arm23 @Jellyfish1956 @asgirc @doughnut89 @Summerishere83 @CDiamond @73pheonix

@GCS34 I’m a frequent wee-er too. I just used my 7am wee, deciding that I didn’t want to be up from 4am with either excitement or devastation. That’s a three hour hold, it’s fine!

@girljulian thanks fellow pee-pal. Can you tell I’m getting nervous 😂 when we did ovulation induction I was more adamant that had worked than this! how are you and what date did they book you in for now todays not going ahead?

@kirstysmbc yeah that’s very true. I’m ok the fence with testing. I think sometimes too much tempering can be hard on the embryo and would be less of a natural process (however natural a lab Abby can be mind 😂). Does your daughter understand it yet and does she ever ask questions? I have this adorable image of a little blonde girl who is like 4 years old and cute as hell!

what’ll be will be now. It was decided a week ago! Had the odd twinge around my right ovary last night so feel they maybe were the start of PPs. 😔😓We move, we move.

@GCS34 yeah so despondent! I just want to know now but still not testing. Yeah Thursday is OTD, clinic have given me a home test to take first thing and then to go in for bloods at 9am.
You’re right- surely at least one of us will be positive!!
pessaries are ok, only on 2 a day so morning and night which I find is easy to manage. Not the nicest but would take 10 a day if it means it worked!!
when is your OTD? And when is yours @ARM23 ?

@GCS34 this morning I actively vommed for the first time! Delightful!! For having absolutely zero symptoms until 15dp5dt, my body is now making up for it with continual nausea but this was the first time it did anything about it. Ughhhhhhh

My next scan is now a week on Thursday, so I’ll be 8 weeks.

Morning @21C Yeah It's hard not too. However, I've kinda lost the anxiety today. I'm not sure why? Maybe it's because it's now so close and i'm so adamant it's not worked, that I'm just like 'meh whatever' now. I don't know why. ...I just don't feel ... anything. I think I'm just numb to it now maybe? It's been such a rollercoaster and snakes and ladders game, that I literally have no clue what could or will happen next, if that makes sense? Theirs's no logic, rhyme, reason, consistency, clear path, probability etc. with any of it all. 😒

OTD is tomorrow!! However I am 99% sure that in 24hrs, I'll be here saying 'back on the phone to the clinic' but what has happened has already happened now - that's how I think of it and same for you. The decision has already been made, so cant change it now. haha. How are you feeling for Thurs?

@GCS34 yeah such a good way to put it about feeling numb!
you are very like my husband haha - so logical about it all! We’ve had so many conversations and he’s very much of the ‘whatever happened in the past week we cannot change with any amount of hope and prayer’ so we just need to go with it. I totally get it but I can’t seem to switch off the hope part even though I know I’m setting myself up for a bigger fall on Thursday if negative. It’s such a rollercoaster!! But you are totally right, no logic or Rhyme or reason to any of it and sometimes just down to genuine luck. Just wish luck is on my side this time!!
Are you taking a home test tomorrow or do you just go straight for bloods?

@21C Ah ha I have only become of that 'whatever' mindset overnight, before I was googling 'what are the chances of X being a success' every day 😂And absolutely we all have hope - you have to else what's the point? Hope is what keeps us going and keeps us pushing forward for the next thing. It's what keeps us going back again, and what keeps us achieving our dreams (bit corny!) If we don't have hope, we may as well all just get a dog 😂

I defo have hope, but I don't have much faith I think I would say is how I feel, 😅but obvs everyone is different. That's just me 🤗I always think hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I actually heard a great way of thinking about it the other day, basically you're going to feel shit regardless if it is negative, so you may as well only feel shit on Thursday, rather than feeling like shit every day leading it up it. Feeling crap now won't make Thursday hurt any less, it just makes it hurt more the days leading up to it. I dunno, something with it resonated, so maybe it might for you. 💛

I am wishing you SO much luck in the world - I genuinely want you to be positive on Thursday. And if not, we go again! you have another embryo am I right? By the by as it has as much chance of working as it doesn't 💛

Good luck for tomorrow @GCS34

I am sat here in tears as just spoke to my clinic. I was supposed to do one cycle of Testogel and then start stims with my next cycle due 21 October. They have just told me that they want me to do two months of Testogel with egg collection week commencing 27 November. We can’t do that week as DH starts his new job and is in London for the week. We have planned everything around one month of Testogel which is what we have always been told. I spoke to my clinic last week to arrange my prescription for my stims and they assured me they would have them with me before my period came, they mentioned nothing about extra Testogel. Also I was only issued with one cycle’s worth of Testogel so that was clearly the original plan.

Do you think I should complain and try and insist on the one month original plan? I think we will have to cancel otherwise as DH can’t not do his first week in a new job and he won’t even be working from home as he does usually for that week. I’m just so upset that they have moved the goalposts like this and the nurse was so dismissive on the phone.

DH hasn’t even RSVP to his own sister’s wedding because we were keeping the week commencing 30 October free for egg collection.

@Hopingforno2in2023 I'm so sorry! That's really unfair and is a mess on the emotions when they're already heightened. They can't do that when they know how much dates mean to anyone going through this.

I would maybe say to them what are the pro's of doing another month? And statistically, will it improve the chances more? If so, send me to the scientific research behind it so I can make my own decision of if I want to do it, as it's my body and I want to have a say in how much I am plugging into it!

Also, congrats for your husband! I know it was a hard blow a few months ago so I'm really pleased his new journey starts in November. x

Thanks @GCS34. DH has rung them back and left a message explaining that he is unhappy and that we cannot do the new dates they propose and asked them to get in touch with him so hopefully it will all be resolved soon. I suspect that they maybe are overloaded patient wise for October so decided that as I was on Testogel I could be shoved back. However we genuinely cannot do the new dates.

I'm so sorry you are having this extra stress at the moment @Hopingforno2in2023 . All the hormones, drugs and dates are overwhelming enough without the clinic changing plans with no warning. I hope they change back to the original plan when your husband speaks to them.

Good luck for tomorrow @GCS34. I have everything crossed for you. Your attitude towards this is great! I will try to be more like that!

@21C I've also got my whole body crossed for you too. I remember you from another thread and am hoping this is the transfer that brings you your baby.

@kirstysmbc my transfer was only 3 days ago so quite a while to go for me. I don't feel anything though but I guess that's expected at this point!

@GCS34 Good luck for tomorrow! Fingers and toes crossed for you, I hope it is positive.

@Hopingforno2in2023 so sorry you are disappointed, hopefully they will manage to change it back for you.

@21C mine isn’t until the weekend. So just waiting, no symptoms so far.

@Hopingforno2in2023 oh good, I'm pleased he's rang and said he's not happy. Keep us informed of what they say. It's just not fair to mess with emotions that are already so so fragile around this. Personally I'd complain, but I think that's not necessarily going to help you feel better.

Thank you @Jellyfish1956 - I'm not sure how positive I am haha but I do think for me personally, I'd rather jump back on the horse and go again, rather than delaying it. But that is my personality type, and having a clear path ahead helps me not lose my shit 😂

@ARM23 Ohhhhh I'm pleased all our results are coming in this week. I'm just scared to be #1! Beginners luck maybe?😅I heard back from my clinic today in regards to me asking if we can go again straight away using my withdrawal and they said:

"In terms of what will happen if it is negative we would expect you to have a withdrawal bleed as we have thickened the lining with our medications.
We can get a consult booked in for as soon as we can to discuss a further cycle and if the doctors would change anything in future cycles.
We can then hopefully set you up after this and possibly do a random start again."

So maybe looking to start drugs beginning of Nov if things don't work out. Not sure if this will help anyone, but thought I would share it for those wondering if / when they can go again if it isn't there time this time.

@GCS34 yeah hope is what keeps is all
going in this wild ride! Otherwise we would all just be completely bonkers…sometimes I wonder that about myself!! I totally agree with you, that’s why I haven’t tested - my thinking is if I’m going to be devastated on OTD I don’t want to feel that for longer than necessary before! No we don’t have any embryos left, this was our only frozen so we would be looking at another cycle from start which I would do, not ready to give up yet but the thought of it is just a killer.

thank you so much for your kind words and you too @Jellyfish1956 it genuinely made me a bit teary! I really pray we all get our positive outcomes.

@GCS34 got everything crossed you set the ball rolling for us tomorrow and we get a hat trick!! Are you feeling ok tonight?

@21C haha I think I’m bonkers too! Least I’m not the only one 😂 I like to think it’ll make super bonkers fun parents. In theory 😂🫣

of course. I’m so sorry I forgot about the fresh. I can’t even blame baby brain 😂🙈it’s good that you’re not opposed to going again for another round but as we say, let’s not think of that as we have to keep hope going. Remember that! And whatever my result, doesn’t mean yours will be the same or different. We’re all unique and as we know, fertility is just BS 😂 honestly it’s a wonder people who are drug addicts get pregnant.

@GCS34 So excited for your test tomorrow, I really, really hope it is positivé for you. If positive well wishes make any impact, it's going to be a super dark line!! Also loving the positive mindset. I always find it really helpful having a plan to move on when things don't go as I hoped, but hopefully you won't need one.

My daughter is only 20 months, so no questions yet (where cake doesn't really count!), but she still asks to read the mummy book at least once a week. So hopefully something is seeping its way in...

@Hopingforno2in2023 How frustrating from the clinic, I hope your husband's message makes them think again. It is so difficult when you are all geared up to go and then plans change. I caught Covid just as I was starting my last frozen transfer, and had to delay for a month, I was so upset.

Everything crossed for you @GCS34

Thank you everyone for your kind messages. My last cycle was cancelled due to covid so I really can’t bear the thought of another delay especially as we can’t do the new dates so it would be another cancellation and then starting again by which point it would probably be 2024. Hoping to hear from the clinic today.

Hi all,
Just discovered this thread. I’m 3dp5dt (similar timing to you @Jellyfish1956 i think!).

This was our first IVF round after 4 failed IUIs. Unfortunately ended up with nothing to freeze so I’m really hoping this transfer is successful.

I suspect it’s too early for symptoms but I do have sore boobs which isn’t typical for me and I’m usually on progesterone each month (albeit smaller dosage). Pretty sure I’d sore boobs before transfer in this cycle though.

What an absolute tough, lonely rollercoaster it’s been. Sending lots of good luck to you all ❤️❤️

Morning Ladies.

Thank you so much @kirstysmbc @Hopingforno2in2023 and to my TWW crew @ARM23 @21C @Jellyfish1956. Your wishes and thoughts were all super well received and you're all so lovely. 💛

So, I really hope I am the one to set the precedence for the week ahead for you @ARM23 and @21C because it was only bloody positive!!! I still can't quite believe it and I hope that reassures the no symptom-ers amongst us (I'm talking to you @21C😂)! The conversation I had this morning with the clinic, based on my TF date, I'm 4w+5 apparently, and our 7 week scan is on Thursday 26th, so 2 weeks on Thursday! I'm shocked, confused, slightly nervous, and slightly ...normal. Anyway I will reply to the other messages properly shortly!! 💛

@GCS34 congratulations!! So delighted for you! Really brilliant news!! how mad you are growing another human and still feel normal! We knew it was possible but just seems so crazy! So genuinely delighted for you! Hope you have a lovely day letting it all sink in xx

@GCS34 congratulations, what wonderful news…I’m so happy for you!!!!

Congratulations @GCS34 such wonderful news!!!! Genuinely really happy for you. I also have zero symptoms so you give us all hope!

@GCS34 I've been waiting all morning for this update, so pleased for you!! Massive congratulations and here's to a happy eight months ahead 😊

Yessssssssssssssssss!!!! I'm so happy for you @GCS34, I really hoped we'd be the No Symptoms Positive team. Symptoms are all a lie fed to us by Big IVF! Nobody has symptoms before about 5 weeks that aren't just the meds!