FET / IVF August 2023 - thread 2

[KG1244]

We filled up the first thread fast!!

@Doughnut89 dont feel guilty at all. We’re all on our own journeys but we’re all in it together. Success, like @kirstysmbc said, is what we all want and it fills us with hope when it’s positive and theirs positive stories. I’m thrilled for you. No one wants to be here in this shit club, but we all are, so we want to support and see positives so we can restore faith in TTC 😅I’m so thrilled for you! Was he/she showing good progress?

@KG1244 i love your clown theory 😂 honestly some of the stuff we do hey? I have every pineapple thing going, drink pomegranate juice round the clock, had Mac Donald’s fries after collection, and try positive reinforcement to my uterus. 🙈

@Lowo21 oh I’m so excited for you twinny 🥰 I am the same - I just feel like I’m that person that just can’t be pregnant or carry. So I get that mindset. Maybe it’s self preservation? Anyway let’s try pma for the group and hope that you’ll be up there with the tally of positives making it 4 now 🥰

@KG1244 sorry ... it must seem like an eternity after the tww for every milestone. I have everything crossed for you too. If I were successful this round I am so conscious that this is just the beginning of the journey !

@Lolly2507 i have 5 too and panic that I’m going to go through them all and nothing will come of it. But given theirs a 99% chance of a live birth with 3 transfers, the odds are on our sides. X

@GCS34 you too my lovely! Your transfer won't be far off ! I hope you are right ... I really really do !

@Lowo21 i think that’s the thing. I thought it would be all chill after I got my positive 😂 it’s such a ‘journey’ even though I hate that word! Will be thinking of you tomorrow at 12:20 ❤️

@GCS34 worth a shot right? I was the same. Also tried ginger juice which apparently can help with implantation. I think the thing is that IVF is so out of your control that any little thing you think you can do which might help, you just try and hope for the best ❤️ Do you know roughly when your transfer will be?

@KG1244 haha well if you did ginger juice and you’re now pregnant, I’m defo taking it 😂and I know what you mean. You want to at least feel like you’re contributing in some way, as really, all we can do is take the drugs and pray it works! I am doing all the usual stuff - no caffeine, limited sugar, no alcohol, no hiit exercise and plenty of walking, and trying to sleep lots. What else can we do huh?

nothing yet - they floated 27/28th when we had our baseline scan last week but it depends on how my scan goes Friday and what my lining is saying and if it’s responded. 😕😟

Aww thanks ladies. It feels so nice to have this group, everyone is so supportive and we all get what each other are going through. I appreciate you all so much ♥️♥️♥️

Good luck for tomorrow @Lowo21 🤞💕

@GCS34 and @KG1244 your comments are definitely making me feel less crazy for my implantation “tricks.” Every morning I would have an actimel yoghurt, 4x Brazil nuts and a pint of this green Tropicana juice which is high in magnesium 🙈🙈🙈

@GCS34 everything is worth a try. I got the ones from M&S. some of these are so strong tasting, I couldn’t drink it! I had a therapy session with my clinic when I had my first round and she basically said to me drug addicts get pregnant and they aren’t following a nice healthy diet but I mentally felt like if I tried a few things, I would feel like I gave it my best shot. Ahhh keeping everything crossed for you for a nice cosy lining ❤️

@Doughnut89 don’t worry, I did the Brazil nuts too! Caught DH eating them during my TWW and went absolutely ‘nutty’ at him 😂

@KG1244 haha this is true! My friend is a midwife and she says some of the people who are pregnant that live off 3 x monster energy drinks a day and a pack of fags are crazy. But alas, we still try everything in our will! I will check out the M&S ginger shots. I know which ones you mean / they do tumeric ones too.

@Doughnut89 well you’re also pregnant, so I’m following your suit now too and will be taking on the green Tropicana juice, and Brazil nuts all round! Small minor detail of hating nuts but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.

and as if by some weird parallel universe magic, M&S just emailed me their weekly offers in store with a big fat pineapple in it! 😳👀… and croissants, so naturally I’ll have to buy those too 😏

@Doughnut89 such lovely news! Congratulations!! :) please never hold back from sharing positive news, we all need them:)
also I must be quite damaged by the whole infertility journey, I feel like it's safe to be happy for others while worrying myself sick about myself. So will take any opportunity to smile and laugh!!
@TTCMama17 thinking of you, hope you are well ❤️

@GCS34 thank you that makes me feel so much better that someone feels the same. Like @Doughnut89 I feel guilty that I'm in a fortunate position really and I'm just focusing on the what ifs. I'm a planner though and want to know exactly what will happen if it doesn't work etc etc so it's hard to just be present and positive.

Like others have said @Doughnut89 don't feel guilty at all this is such a special time and everyone is so excited for you. Personally I always think if it can happen for her it can happen for me and that gives me peace!

@Lolly2507 I think it's natural to worry about everything and feel guilty, but no one here has anything to feel guilty about - we're all having shit luck already with having to have IVF in the first place, so theirs no reason to feel guilty about it as we are already in a shit situation lol! I beat myself up loads, but my husband said ^^ to me and made me realise. And I said 'I'm lucky we got 5 embryos'. And he said it's not 'luck'. Luck is getting pregnant naturally, this is certainly not luck this is shit haha

Shout out to @Lowo21 - good luck for 12:20pm xx

Hi all - I have followed this thread from the beginning but not been brave enough to post. It's so lovely seeing how supportive you all are of each other.
I found out today that my embryo transfer didn't work and feeling quite down about it. I have some embryos in the freezer so can try again soon but am letting myself feel the sadness today.
I had an FET and I know some of you are currently going through this - so let me know if you have any questions xx

All done ... now for the tww wait!!

@Jellyfish1956 I'm so sorry it didn't work for you, do you have any more Frosties ? Please don't lose hope we are all here for you !

Thank you @Lowo21, your kind message made me cry! Yes, I'm super grateful to have 10 more in the freezer. So hoping that one of those makes a baby.

Congrats on your transfer!! I've got everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Lowo21 congratulations on your transfer, fingers crossed for your 2 week wait.

@Doughnut89 don't feel guilty, everyone's at different stages of their journey. It's lovely to hear good news!!

@Jellyfish1956 sorry to hear about your FET this time round. Was it your first? Sounds like you have a really good chance with 10 still left in the freezer.

@Justkeepmoving1234 yes it was my first transfer. I ovulated early during the fresh stimulation so couldn't have a transfer as my lining was out of sync with my embryos. I only got one embryo from that fresh round which was frozen on day 5. But, past me helped current me out by freezing her eggs a few years ago. So I thawed them, and 10 of them made it to good blastocysts and were frozen, giving me 11 in total.
I then tried a fully medicated FET with oestrogen, which was cancelled as my lining only reached 6mm. I then did a modified natural FET which did the trick with the lining but unfortunately the embryo wasn't meant to be.
Have you got your next FET planned? Fingers crossed for the two you have left xx

@Jellyfish1956 wow it sounds like you've had a real journey before you got to your last FET. So sorry it didn't work out for you, this journey can be so shit sometimes. I remember crying after My failed FET last time, and swearing 'never again!' But here I am going in for another one. We put so much hope into each cycle.
Amazing that you managed to freeze some eggs early on. 10 embryos is a great number that have turned out well. It sounds like you have a really good chance.

I have my teach appointment on Friday to get my next round of meds. So it's up to me to decide what cycle to go on after that. I'm still on the fence of whether to go for it in November or December. I'm not sure of the Christmas holidays will affect embryo transfer times. I wanted to give myself a couple of months before going straight in for it again.
Do you have any idea when you want to go again? Or are you just processing it all at the moment?

Welcome @Jellyfish1956 even though you probably know all our weirdness from reading the thread😅

im so sorry to hear about your transfer. Sending love and care to you. Be kind to yourself - it’s not easy 🤍I think it’s really big to be able to be sad and own the sadness - that takes a lot. As hard as it is to focus atm, you have 10 other little beans waiting to nustle up in your uterus 😅 so when you’re ready I’m sure they’ll give it their best shot for you.
don’t lose hope - you will have success, it’s when not if.

do you mind me asking about what you said about your lining not thickening? Do you remember what dose you were on of oestrogen? And did you have a history of thin linings? I’m worried mine won’t - have my progress scan on Friday and I’m petrified it won’t have thickened 😓 the most I’ve ever got to is 6.7mm.

@Justkeepmoving1234 I think I'm going to try again when my period starts, which could be as soon as next week. I feel like I want to try again, and am going to manifest positive vibes into the universe for the next round. It is super hard to decide though - I know that some clinics close over Christmas for a deep clean of the lab, maybe ask if your clinic does this and it may help you decide?

@GCS34 thank you for the warm welcome and such kind words 🤍 you are right - it's a matter of time for us all 🤞🏻 And yes, I do know all the back stories from reading the thread 😅
I don't mind at all. I had never had a problem with my lining before, so was quite surprised when my cycle got cancelled. I was on 8mg of oestrogen for the first 10 days, had a scan on day 10 and my lining was 6mm. They upped the dose to 10mg and I went back on day 17 for another scan. The lining hadn't grown at all and was still 6mm. We then made the decision to cancel. The doctor said that sometimes people don't respond well to external oestrogen. But fingers crossed that your lining is beautiful in your scan on Friday. How are you finding the high doses?

I’m sorry about your FET @Jellyfish1956 but with 11 embryos you have excellent odds :)

Nothing to report here, just waiting on AF which is about a week away I think.

@Jellyfish1956 I'm glad you've decided to join in now - it's easier when you have people who 'get' it I think, even if they are virtual! If I don't stress here, I'd stress to my husband and pretty sure he'd divorce me by the time I got to transfer 😅

Thanks for the lining info - that's really helpful. 6mm at 10 days seems a great result, but wonder why it stopped there. Did they say you could transfer with 6mm or not? Mine said they could, but would drop the % chance down from 45-50% they said, down to more 40%. I'm on 8mg a day at the moment, but I was on 4mg last week, and I go up to 12mg tomorrow. Were you on 8mg from the get go, or did you build to that too? They've teed up patches to add in if needed too, did you get that option or was it because you were at 6mm then just stopped responding, they weren't expecting it?

Struggling the last few days with the fear that it won’t work. Does anyone have any tips other than keeping busy? I hate this waiting for AF business, I just want to get cracking.