IVF/ICSI/FET - June 23

[Lyrabee]

Hi!

I'm going to be starting my medications ready for a FET in June. Anybody else in the same boat or starting their cycles?

I've done one round of ICSI and had a fresh transfer in March that wasn't successful but we got 5 frozen day 5 blastocysts from it. Happy to answer any questions for anyone starting their journeys :)

@KG1244 haha my first cycle I didn’t realise how bad the pessaries would leak. My 2nd cycle and this one and I’ve just got some super thin panty liners to wear everyday.

@HopefulHead ❤️

I think the pessaries are making me feel nauseous or maybe I’m just nervous about ET.

is this normal?

@Sqiggle85 yep. Ridiculous! Need to buy some xx

Hi All!

Embryo has been transferred over nicely and hopefully it's settling in! Was a little more uncomfortable than the last time, they said it could be because my lining is thicker :) Im just going to chill for the rest of the day now.

@Sqiggle85 how exciting! Yes that's what mine say as well but the clinic say it's fine to go up the back as well, especially if your cervix is irritated easily. See how you get on, I've been mixing it up but mainly going up the back way 🤪

@pixiemum2 nice to have you with us! Which stims have you been using?

@KG1244 RIP any nice underwear lol

@Lyrabee yayyyy! How long did it take? Do they do it in theatre? Omg I’m already nervous!! Hope you have a lovely chilled rest of day xx

Whoop @Lyrabee weve finally got someone in the TWW to try and keep distracted (and sane!) 🤭🤭

Awesome news @Lyrabee - glad the transfer went smoothly, keeping everything crossed for you! I'm on Fostimon, about 600iU a day. At the scan today the doctor said things will start to "pick up" in the 2nd week, im day 7 now.

@pixiemum2 that's a new one on me! Sounds like you've got quite a high dosage though. Hopefully you don't get too uncomfortable!

@KG1244 my appointment was scheduled for 9.30. I went down about 9.35, had a brief check in with the nurse and was settled in stirrups at 9.45. I was back in my car for 9.53 lol the Dr who did the transfer was lovely and said it was an easy one. At my clinic it's just a room with a bed and a scan machine in it, so theatre ish but no big machines.

I definitely get a bit nauseous on cyclogest! My taste seems to have changed a little with them as I don't want any chocolate lol

@HopefulHead my test date is the 3rd so I'm on countdown!

@Lyrabee your test date is (hopefully) my transfer date then 😃
Do you think you’ll try and hold out until then or will you be testing early?

Hi all, something I haven’t told you as I had hoped it wouldn’t come to this. My father in law is very unwell and the dr today has agreed palliative care. They said it could be a week, a couple of weeks or a month. I can’t believe this is happening. FIL doesn’t want to get better and wants to die. I don’t know what to do and whether I should postpone my ET

@KG1244 so sorry to hear this. Sending lots of love your way. It’s such a difficult decision, have you asked your partner what they would like to do? I would continue, as I know that is what my in laws would want, 100% but the added stress and I obviously extra emotion on an already hard journey. X

@Lyrabee glad embryo is safely on board. Your clinic sounds very similar to mine in terms of set up for the transfer.

I got my call from the clinic, transfer is booked in next Monday at 12pm. Starting pessaries on Wednesday evening. It’s funny, I’ve never considered using them up the back passage. I don’t know why but that worries me more😬

@Lyrabee wooo glad all went well. Fingers tightly crossed for you. So exciting.

@KG1244 I'm so sorry, that's really sad news 😔 you need to do what's right for you. Maybe take a couple of days to have a think and talk to your partner? It must feel quite raw at the moment so difficult to make a decision straight away xx

Welcome @pixiemum2! I also have low AMH, partners sperm fine, and have been recommended ICSI!

Im behind you though, on day 4 of stims. Not doing a fresh transfer - going to freeze all x

@Sqiggle85 thank you. They’ve all said go ahead. I mean being frank, it’s not majorly stressful for me but I don’t know whether the stress and upset my husband will obviously have could affect my changes of a successful pregnancy.

@Lebe14 thank you. It couldn’t be at a worse time tbh. So difficult 😥

@KG1244 I’m so sorry to hear this.
We were due to do our FET in April originally (first full cycle after EC) but the day we had our appointment to sign all the forms and get going the hospital called to say we needed to go in for my dad, I asked them if I waited until after my appointment he would still be there that afternoon and they said it was best I go in asap if possible, so it was of course a fairly easy decision for me to make at that point. He did however last another 3 days but I didn’t regret cancelling the appointment at all as it wouldn’t have been worth the risk.
It then meant our FET got pushed back by a month so we decided to have a holiday and do it this month instead (what’s another month when we’re already 6 behind where we thought we’d be!) and looking back I’m glad I made that decision, because all the stress of sorting his estate, emotional support of myself and other family members was hard on me physically and mentally.
However…. If it isn’t going to have a huge strain on your mental health and your role is supporting your husband I would think that maybe you should still go for it? It may also be that silver lining in the storm for your husband when his father does go if you do then have an established pregnancy? But also in our situations we do also have to think about bad news being the thing that could tip a bad situation over the edge….

I really do feel for you, when my dad died I couldn’t help but feel frustrated that it was another thing that got in the way of us getting nearer to having our much wanted baby (don’t think terribly of me 🫣) but looking back I have to tell myself that everything happens for a reason.
Maybe just a good heart to heart with your husband could help you both decide what would be best for both of you.

Sending you lots of love ❤️

@HopefulHead Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been for you. I’ve given it a bit more thought and I think I’m going to go for it. If it was a blood relative of mine, it would be a different situation but from a practical perspective, I don’t think it will cause me a lot of stress and I will just need to provide support to my husband. I think if I delayed FET that would probably cause me more stress and upset when I’m only a few days away. I know that sounds awful but there have already been so many delays, I don’t think I can take another. My parents will be on hand to support me so I hope I will be ok. My only worry is that the upset from the situation could affect my outcome but then on balance, plenty of people get pregnant naturally in very stressful and difficult situations.

@KG1244 I agree with that the stress of having to delay the transfer would probably out-weigh the stress caused to you by what’s going on with your FIL. It will be an awful time for your DH but in practical terms is it you who needs to be calm and stress free and being an emotional support for him hopefully won’t cause you much stress (if your DH is anything like mine he won’t lean on you much anyway and will act like he’s fine anyway 😬)
I think I would decide to proceed too in your circumstances to be honest. And there’s so many different things life throws at us that we have to choose which ones are big enough to put the rest of our life on hold for, and I don’t think I would consider a non blood relative passing being one of those things either xx

@HopefulHead thank you, I think it’s the right decision and reading what you’ve wrote really validates it. Cancelling now would be horrible and I think I can cope with supporting DH when he needs support.

@HopefulHead I'm not sure if I will test early. I did last time but because it was negative it made the waiting for the rest of the two weeks incredibly sad for me, I also started my period and it was a heavy bleed so I knew it wasn't wrong. But having to wait until OTD to call the clinic and also carrying on with pointless medication was awful! My clinc were very efficient at sending a letter by email confirming next steps as well 😅 just to pour salt in the wound.

@KG1244 I'm so so sorry you've found yourself in this situation, I can't even imagine what that is like. What a difficult decision. Did you speak with your husband?
Trying to put myself in your shoes I personally think you've made the right choice to continue, considering the circumstances and like you said, delays which are probably going to make you more stressed and upset because you're so close now. I'm sure your FIL would want you to continue as well and I agree with @HopefulHead it could be exactly the news that gets your husband through it all. Sending love to you and your family x

@KG1244 Im glad you’ve managed to come to a decision that’s right for you, and I think it’s definitely the same one I’d have made, definitely a good distraction for you both through a tough time.

@Lyrabee Yeah I imagine that was really tough knowing it hadn’t worked but still haven’t to continue like it may have done 😞 I’ve not done a TWW before so I keep telling myself I’d wait until OTD but I also know that when we were TTC naturally I was doing about 5 tests a month from days before my period was due so it’s gonna take a lot of willpower not to test early 🤭

Thanks all, really appreciate it ❤️
IVF throws so much at you, you kind of get immune to an extent. I think it’s the right decision. I feel like ivf puts your life on hold in so many ways, I can’t stop now. My sister also pointed out, I could wait two months and the result still not be the outcome I hoped for. We’ve all just got to be super women through this!

@KG1244 so true ❤️

Very true @KG1244 sending hugs to you and your family