FET March 2023

[Rainbowpeach]

Hi All,

Looking for others starting their FET cycle in March. This will be my 5th cycle (after 4 cycles last year). I did PGT-A testing this time and my embryos went down from 13 to 4. Hoping for success this time round and just wanted to go through the journey with others.

@Rainbowpeach That's great news re your scan! Congratulations! I remember hearing the heartbeat after my bleed and I couldn't stop crying - like the kind of crying when you're a child and you can't catch your breath. I did it on and off all afternoon 😂It's important to celebrate all the wins along the way, as it is such a tough old slog. Hope you have time this afternoon and evening to do something nice with your partner x

@Rainbowpeach that’s amazing, I’m so so happy for you! I understand those anxieties, I have exactly the same. My clinic has brought my scan forward to Thursday because I’ve been spotting (brown, which I’m told can be ok) but I really don’t know how much we’ll see, if anything, as I’ll be 5+5 then so feels very early.

@Wren123 I felt extremely negative before my test, I was convinced AF was coming. There is no real way of knowing, that’s what makes it so hard. I have everything crossed for you xx

I have really struggled this week and been signed off work with anxiety. I feel like an idiot because I am barely at 5 weeks and not even had the scan yet but I’m a mess. Crying on and off all day, unable to concentrate, constantly berating myself for not being able to work and push through and also feeling weak because I know this is a result I desperately want but just can’t feel content. I didn’t expect this period would be so hard, way harder for me than the 2ww, which I was frankly more psychologically prepared for.
Sorry for the huge rant, I know getting a BFP makes me incredibly lucky and I am so grateful. I just didn’t anticipate the crippling anxiety and borderline depression that would come before the scan.

@Wren123 @graygoose thanks so much! Haha yes I cried like a baby, like uncontrollable tears like someone died, I just couldn’t help myself, I really thought it would never get this far. @Wren123 unfortunately my partner is not with me but we will be together soon :)

@graygoose I think it’s good to get the early scan as you will already see that things are in place, it’s definitely reassuring. I had an early scan too as I had bright red bleeding for half a day! And just seeing that it was in place made me feel better, brown spotting is a much better scenario as it’s old blood. Also please don’t feel guilty about signing off work for a week due to anxiety, Ive been signed off for a while because of anxiety and depression from all of this back to back failed cycles but trust me it really helps just having the mental space freed up, some people prefer to work to keep them distracted but some of us just can’t cope with that and it’s totally okay, I also know a few who have done the same as it doesn’t make you any less competent, this is a very very stressful time in your life and you need to give yourself the grace and be kind to yourself. I’m rooting for you girl, just take it one step at a time and watch Netflix to distract yourself :)

@Rainbowpeach that's amazing news I'm so happy for you! You totally deserve it 🥰. It's so emotional isn't it seeing the scan - especially so for you I imagine after your bleeding xx

@Wren123 yes I would say 12DPT would be a definite answer. The wait is gruelling but you just never know. Try and get a decent night's sleep, I'm rooting for you!! Fingers crossed it's positive 🥰 xx

@graygoose I think the wait between the pregnancy test and the first scan is the hardest! You've got so far but then convince yourself something will go wrong. I was an absolute wreck before my 6 week scan last time. It does get easier the more reassurance you get. I had brown spotting at 5 weeks so that added to my stress but it's so common.

Also please don't worry about taking time off work! We all go through so much doing IVF and you need to not be so hard on yourself 🥰

@Rainbowpeach @laurapop thanks guys, your messages have really helped. I’m just trying to allow myself this time and not feel guilty. I took minimal time for the ET and worked all through my stims etc and took a big long break before my FET where I worked really hard, so I know I deserve this time (and would deserve it anyway!). Baby dust to all of us xx

2 more days til test day for me and I'm feeling so impatient but also very scared to test! I've been getting waves of nausea, i know its too early for any pregnancy related sickness but i think it must just be all the medication. Hope everyone is holding up okay xx

Hey @laurapop ..... you have got this! You have done so well to hold out this long..
I am getting so nervous for my transfer, like have I done everything right, am I stressed, have I eaten right...... sending myself crazy.

And then I have the 2WW 🫠

@Jazsimone thank you!! Try not to worry too much - I don't think there's actually much we can do at this point to affect the outcome. Fingers crossed for both of us 🤞🤞

Do you have much planned this weekend after transfer or can you chill? Xx

@laurapop

I know, i am trying to stay as positive as possible.

So my wife has an MRI straight after the transfer, so I can chill out in the car. We go on holiday at the beginning of may so i will just organise packing. We have a 3yo but my wife will make sure he is looked after so i can relax a bit.

Have you got your tests ready? xxx

@Jazsimone oh that's good, so you can chill out once you are home too as much as your little one will let you 🤣. I have a 2 year old girl but it was good timing for us it being just before Easter so my husband could take over ☺️.

My last transfer I was really concerned about doing too much and picking her up too much but I've tried to relax this time and tell myself it won't make a difference! And actually I've been much less anxious just kind of carrying on as normal.

Yes got the tests ready - I'll no doubt not be able to sleep and test at 5am 🤦🏼‍♀️ xx

@laurapop

Aww amazing.

Gosh my last cycle I was testing at 4am. Its insane what we put ourselves through. we have vowed not to test until test date. they have given us the TD already but I'm not dwelling on it.

What will be will be.

xxx

Hello ladies! I had the craziest day yesterday with excruciating pain in one side of my lower belly and back which I ended up going to the hospital with an ambulance and after 11 hours the doctors couldn’t figure out what it was! However I ended up getting the fab news of having Covid! Not great at all. Has anyone experienced this either in their recent journey or previous pregnancy? I kept googling and was thinking it’s cause my uterus was stretching but this was incredibly painful, the doctors thought it was kidney stones but they didn’t find any from the scans….all results came back okay. So strange!

Hello everyone

I hope you are all well. For those with BFPs, sending you lots of peace throughout your journey. 💕

To those who have just transferred - try and relax and not symptom spot too much - easier said than done, I know. 💕

@laurapop good luck with your test tomorrow, praying that you get your bfp.

The last week for me has been difficult, the hardest pain, I’ve ever endured. I have spoken to my clinic and they have advised that I do some tests before my next transfer as it’s my only embryo. They’ve recommended ERA, Alice, emma and nk testing. Along with a hystroscopy and endo scratch. It means I won’t transfer until July but I would rather give it my all as I’ve just turned 41.

Hi girls, I don't know why but I caved this morning and did a test - I just couldn't wait any longer 🙈.

Clear blue - faint positive ❤️

I'm trying to not get too excited after having a chemical last time. I'm only 8DP5DT and I know clear blue aren't as sensitive as first response so trying to stay positive.

Did any of you have a quite a faint line at 8 days? 🤞 Xx

@pillerpink sorry I didn't see your message when I posted above.

I'm sorry you're struggling - it's an awful process. Sounds like you're doing everything you can for the next round and it's worth the wait if it can give you answers/a successful transfer. Wishing all the luck 🥰 xx

@laurapop congratulations!! That looks like a BFP to me, a faint line is a line 😊 I had quite a faint line at 11DP3DT with a cheapie so it was more or less exactly the same timing. When is your beta?

@pillerpink I’m so sorry, it’s so hard to relate to this kind of pain unless you’ve been through it yourself so know that we all understand and are here for you. Take your time to process and be kind to yourself.
If it helps, I had a hysteroscopy which cleared out multiple polyps the month before my FET, and I have also had intralipid drips twice, once a few days before the FET and another on the day of my second positive beta. I never had NK cell tests but my clinic recommends intralipids to everyone as they don’t cause harm, though I know they’re controversial as it’s more expense and it’s unclear how much they help. I’ve heard that a hysteroscopy is sort of like an endo scratch itself so maybe you don’t need both? But your doctor will know best.

@graygoose thank you, you've reassured me! I've just been out and bought some cheapies and I can see a faint line on that too so that makes me feel better ☺️. Fingers crossed it sticks 🤞

How are you feeling? Xx

Here are the cheapies - I did two (why not 🤣). Definitely feel like I can see a proper line if not a bit faint still!

My embryo was not hatching yet so perhaps a bit slower too, and my transfer was only at 2.15pm (definitely trying to talk myself into staying positive) xx

@laurapop Wow congratulations 👏 I'm with you as when I tested on day 7 it was faint positive and it was faint post till day 9. For my daughter I got strong line day 9. I was worried as it could be chemical pregnancy but I tested every day until my test date. My test date test was 2 strong lines ! Then only I relaxed. That's why they asked us to wait which we can't do hahaha 🤣🤣🤣

I'm very happy for you 😊 it is BFP 💖 congratulations 🎊🎊👏

@Rainbowpeach oh dear, it must be hard. Drink plenty of water and look after yourself.. I hate when things like this happen for ladies who goes through IVF. We have faced lots of ups and downs in the IVF road, more down than up I would say! At least it should be smooth after getting BFP which is not in many cases! God bless you and I wish you all the best and take care 💓

@pillerpink hey Hun, I'm so sorry to hear that! It must be hard. I won't say take it easy as it won't be easy! However I wish you all the best. It is good to test everything before so the transfer can go smoothly. I'm sure all will work out this time for you 💝 Good luck for July 💝

@Bookiebooboo Hey Hun, how are you doing? 💓

@laurapop

Congratulations Girl, thats amazing... I am so pleased for you <3 xxx