IVF cycle November 2022

[HJen22]

Hi ladies

Just wondering if anyone is doing a cycle in November, looking for some cycle buddies.

I started stims yesterday, this is the 3rd cycle for us (2 NHS rounds where we didn't make it to transfer either time) and now we have signed up to a private a 3 cycle package with Create in Manchester. 3 egg collections and hopefully some embryo banking before and potential transfer. X

@HJen22 well I am cyber shedding a few tears with you. Never alone. I feel ya.
I also know how anxiety and and stuff can be killing. I have suffered in the past so I should have really got the counselling call, but me being stupid, defiant, and stubborn Mrs tough guy denied it. When reality is, I sometimes feel very shaky. It's not nice.
I am chilling today. I stubbornly was going to out in a day of work (I work form home luckily), defiant in the face of adversity, but .... well, I just dont feel fab. So, resting.
Anxiety is totally like beer fear. It's horrid. Try breathe through it. I always try think.... well, it passes, it always does, tomorrow will come, the next day will come, it will pass. Breathe through and feel different, it's just a "thing" that's passes.
As captain Tom says.... tomorrow will be a good day !
Big love x

@countrypunk thank you so much, as much as I don't want anyone to feel bad, it's nice to know that I'm not alone ❤️

I would say it's definitely gotten worse. I've always had a bit it anxiety after I've had a drink even when I know I've done absolutely nothing wrong! But it's now all the time, nothing to do with having a drink at all. We have our work Christmas night out Friday and I've chosen to drive as I know I'll hate myself the next day and dread going to the office even more.

Yeah it's definitely been helpful when I've had really bad times to be able to be at home and not have to go in. And my work have been super understanding with appointments. After our second cycle disaster I actually got signed off for a few weeks as as well as the second failing, I hadn't really processed the first I don't think.

I think if I was struggling I could go back to full time at home. Same; I could have been going in for the last while but I've just not gotten round to it! It was completely my choice, my friend is coming back from maternity leave so I thought it was a good time as she needs to office work (the room that was her office is now her baby's room) so I'm giving 2 days a try. My OH will be in his office Tuesdays too and they are close by so he'll said he'll meet me at lunch if I need to bless him. The department seems to be coming and going whenever, just when it suits them. So think I just need to try and see.

I'll have time off in January for our second cycle although I might have to wfh down in Manchester this time as it will mean a longer stay with a transfer too.

Thank you, you've made me feel much better ❤️❤️

@HJen22 It's horrible isn't it, so debilitating. And it's very hard to explain to people who haven't experienced it.

I think driving to the party is very sensible. I used to tend to get a bit over-enthusiastic with the drinks at work dos to quell the anxiety. It's not a good idea!

Try it and see sounds good, especially as you have a friend coming back too. It might be really nice! In fact I'm sure it will be. It's good to have a change of environment and hopefully 2 days a week will be very manageable. I do get a bit stir crazy in my house sometimes.

As @Nikster8012 says, anxiety always passes. I find that quite a good mantra when I'm in the anxiety fog: everything passes.

♥️🙂

Hey all
My cold seems to have lifted for me which is a big help

one week until testing and like other have said i have ovulation like cramps, and really sore, heavy boobs. But no other real issues. Just staying positive had i have good out come next Wednesday. If not its enjoy Xmas and start 2023 privately IVF :)

sending everyone positive vibes and Hugs xxx

Thank you @countrypunk @Nikster8012 you both made me feel so much better and I had a nice chat with my counsellor. I have had a much better day, and yes as you say @Nikster8012 it passes and another day will come ❤️ your messages were lovely, i so appreciate the support so thank you again from the bottom of my heart xx

@Crystal88 glad you are feeling better! And also glad to hear you are staying positive, I have everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xxx

@Nikster8012 so glad you said about not being very functional right now! I feel the exact same like zero motivation and my brain is struggling to process at work- a whole week to go until OTD!
@HJen22 sorry to hear you had a bad day, it’s a big step to take if you have been away for a while, I go in 2 days per week and some days I just want to hide in my house so I totally understand, just do baby steps and hopefully you will be feeling better about it x

I'm really not feeling this two week wait 😫 do I really have to wait til 13 days post transfer to test?! Seems so late compared to other stuff I've seen online. Hope everyone is holding up ok x

Ahh ladies I hope you are all doing well
and I am sending everyone who has had a bad day lots of positive thoughts. @HJen22 i am hoping to start my treatment in January at create Manchester too🤞
I wasn’t planning on telling work - not sure they would be very supportive - but no idea if that’s practical! Was just going to take days off when I needed & hope for the best.

Hi guys! Just a random question to those who may have had ivf before and sadly failed. So... what happens to the expected period ? Does it come on the standard 29th day (if average 28 days cycle) or does progesterone kinda delay things ??
I have 29 day cycle.
But.... I guess if we know the day of fertilisation, then that would technically be our standard ovulation day ?? And because rhe cycle has been manipulated then we can pretty much assume period will come on the standard 14 days later.
Reason I ask is...
I am due to take the official test on the 7th December. I am too afraid to. Frankly, I would rather my body tell me as I am too scared of it saying no.
Sorry to drone on. I am way over thinking... but what happens to the period now its been messed with ?
Xxx urrggrrr

@Hopewishprayer thank you 😊 yeah I've gotten used to the safety of my own home which has been extremely handy given the emotional strain this all has. But I think it's time I had a bit of a change of scenery 🤞🏻 Will definitely give it a try. How are you getting on?

@ohsohopeful must be so hard! I hope the rest of the days go past a bit quicker for you! Some nice weekend plans to distract yourself?

@LF82 that's great news 💕 what protocol and package are you doing? Any questions I can help with just shout! Xx

@Nikster8012 I'm not too sure sorry! I guess everyone is different if and when their period comes and there might not be the same answer for everyone. Does your clinic advise you to call after test date? Xx

@HJen22 just waiting to confirm it all with our patient co- ordinator but plan is 3 rounds egg collection with icsi and then hopefully a transfer. I just need to be patient and not stress which is hard for me!
How did you find the medication etc with mild ivf? X

@LF82 that's exactly what we are doing with our second cycle around the 3rd week of January it should be! I am not good at being patient and not stressing either!

I didn't really have any bad side effects. I was on 150ui bemfola. All I really noticed was more tired than usual, a bit of bloating and I had swollen hands on and off, but it's been happening now and again ever since so maybe it's just the weather?! Previously when I was on 300ui menopur I had things like night sweats, difficulty sleeping etc. This seemed much more gentle. I had scans cycle day 5, 8, 9 and 10 with bloods and collection on day 12. They very closely monitored me which I liked. Some appointments took longer than others and were sometimes a little behind with the time but all of the nurses and Drs were absolutely lovely and I got to pick scan times, I went for early mornings.

I have done 2 cycles where I worked and this cycle I didn't. If you have the chance to take time off, I personally found it a lot more manageable, just to be able to rest really helped me. Xx

@HJen22 thank you that’s really, really helpful! Xx

Morning warriors, my period's come ☹️ I thought the progesterone would hold it off but nope! Started with some spotting last night. I'm expecting an avalanche after all the hormones...

Beaming out positivity to everyone in the 2WW, and anyone waiting for news. This thread has been a life raft. Thank you so much for all your support. Just knowing that we're all in it together has helped me so much.

Maybe I'll see some of you on the next one (but hopefully not!).

Loads of ♥️

@countrypunk 🥲sending you lots of love x

@LF82 Thank you, you too x

I'm so sorry @countrypunk that this one wasn't your time. Absolutely heartbreaking 💔 I hope that physically it's not too painful but mentally I know is a whole different ball game. Take care of yourself, you've done amazing and been so strong, and I really hope that next time is the one. Thank you for all of the support through my cycle too, everyone really has been amazing and it so helps having people who really truly understand. I know how difficult a failed cycle is, they really hurt. You will find the strength to try again but for now be kind to yourself, do any and all the things that will give you some happiness. Always here to talk if you need us xxx sending love and hugs xxx

@HJen22 Thank you 🥹

I think I'm feeling OK because it was the first transfer, and I know how ridiculously lucky I'd have been for it to have worked! (I don't mean to be a downer here for anyone who is on their first transfer - obviously it can and does work on the first transfer for some women.)

Really I just want to get going again. But a month's rest will do me good.

Thank you again for being there for me. I wish you all the luck in the world with your IVF, if I'm back on it in January I'll see you on that thread for your next cycle!

Lots of love xxx

@countrypunk totally know what you mean, we'd all love the first time to work but we know sadly that isn't always the case for a lot of us. Those it is are incredibly lucky, some of us need to push on and keep the hope and try again 💕

Same, I'd love to have just gotten going again (cycle day 1 again for me too) but I knew realistically it probably wasn't able to happen with their cut off date (so I'm glad I didn't actually have my heart set on it and it not fit in) and really it isn't the right time until next year given it's December and with the time away from home we need. But hopefully the next few weeks will fly by for both of us ❤️

@countrypunk sorry this wasn’t your time, you have been so strong and it’s good to hear you are being positive and getting started again in January, I hope that you will be successful in the new year. In the meantime try to take it easy and look after yourself 💕

@Hopewishprayer @HJen22 Thanks so much both. I'll keep following the thread to see how you get on. I feel very invested now 😆

I'm hoping for the happiest of outcomes for everyone ♥️♥️♥️

@countrypunk
Aw love, sending hugs to you! It's such a touch process and like other girls mentioned, it's a game of chance and not all of us will be successful first time. It's not a question of IF, more a question of WHEN. This wasn't your time but will be rooting for you in Cycle 2. Rest up and make sure you have a lot of fun this Xmas before starting again xx

@Cat89 Bloody right! Not IF, but WHEN. I've been feeling a bit shaky tonight but your message has given me a little boost. Thank you. Xx

@countrypunk sending hugs

until you go through IVF you can’t truly understand the up and down rollercoaster we go on

just think this cycle will make you stronger and you will know what to expect

wishing you all the best for round two you got this

as we all say it only takes one miracle egg to make a baby and hopefully your miracle will happen in January xx

@Crystal88 So true, it's all consuming. It's been lovely finding a corner of the internet where everyone understands completely.

Sending hugs back to you and loads of love and luck. Hopefully 2023 will be my year!

Xx