FET in September/October

[MyEasterEggs]

I’m preparing to start my treatment cycle in a month or so and thought it might be helpful to start up a thread for anyone heading for FET soon.

This will be my first FET so I’m nervous but also feeling hopeful having gone through a fair amount of testing and treatment. Think I’m about as prepared as I’ll ever be!

Current cycle finally got going two days ago after a bit of a delay and I’ve decided to use it to focus on eating well and getting into the right headspace.

Anyone at a similar stage and want some company?

Had a scan and they can see a yolk sac so that's something. It's too early to see anything else. Confirmed that's it's not ectopic but they don't know where the bleeding is coming from. I just have to wait it out

Thank you @MyEasterEggs @Ho@Hopeful199@Hopeful199@Hopeful199@Hopeful199@Hopeful199

I’m going to go for it. I’m pretty scared the FET won’t work so I guess the covid thing almost gave me a way out from the fear.

@SarahC1985 Amazing that you can see a yolk sac. You’re pretty early on right? So thats great. I don’t want to randomly diagnose, this is just an example of the many causes of bleeding, but my friend had a subchorionic hemorrhage which caused lots of bleeding in her pregnancy but had no effect on the baby whatsoever. Just saying this as bleeding per se can be nothing. I know it is already alarming and in our situations we are hyper alert. But hang in there. I’m listening to some calming podcasts because last time I had my transfer I was a crying nervous mess.

This is the podcast I’m listening to to calm me down x

@SarahC1985 that is good news. Everything is crossed that the bleeding settles and does not impact your pregnancy. I know it’s impossible but you now need to look after yourself as much as possible and keep the hope. You are pregnant…. Hold on to that ♥️

@rollercoastertobaby I am glad you have made a decision. I really think if there thought there was any risk they would be continuing the testing. My clinic still wear masks which I questioned (as they aren’t testing) and they said it was mainly to prevent staff absence which would then impact the clinic.

I see a fertility masseuse and she plays the albums of ‘sacred earth’ which I have found so peaceful and calming. I had a disaster plus transfer last time so had t focus on being calm and hopeful this time and it had really helped. If you have Spotify then look it up ♥️

good luck with the transfer….. really hope it goes well for you 🌈🤞🏻 X

@rollercoastertobaby everything crossed for you xxx

Sorry about the typos…. Hopefully you can read between them!!

*if they thought
*disastrous

Did you trigger yesterday @rollercoastertobaby?

Hope things have settled @SarahC1985?

How is everyone else doing and where are we all at? I’ve lost track since the thread filled up!

Still a long way for me to go but so far so good. My first scan went well today with triple lining, almost 9mm at CD10 but not really sure what that means in practice, and no polyps or fibroids. So I’m waiting on a call to confirm when to start progesterone and have first intralipid infusion.

Was so nervous and expected some kind of hiccup. Much calmer now and going to try and keep myself occupied until the call 💛

I bet you can't wait for the call! I have my first scan tomorrow will be CD12, what mom do they want the lining to be before transfer?
Feel like I should know these things but it's my first frozen round.

Thank you for the recommendation @Hopeful199 I will definitely listen to ‘sacred earth’. Will give it a go this evening! DH is out for the evening for drinks with workmates so it will keep me busy. Thank you so much for the tip!

@MyEasterEggs Yes it was trigger shot day yesterday and I start cyclogest on Friday. Lining was 9mm on Monday.

So we are almost at exactly the same spot in our cycle. Have you triggered also?

Ive been keeping busy today with work. It’s welcomed it to take my mind off things.

@dlkiik My clinic have said they advise to trigger when leading follicle is 16mm and lining is 7mm and above. Good luck for scan

@SarahC1985 I hope things are clearer and looking good Sarah

@rollercoastertobaby @MyEasterEggs sounds like things are moving along nicely for you both! you are both on different protocols than I was so what are the time frames like with that? How often will you be seen? Will you both be getting 5DT?

Bleeding has settled for now and my beta HcG came back at 12933 which is really good so I just have to take it a day at a time and enjoy the good days. I feel numb if I'm honest. Like I'm just waiting to lose it. I lost one in 2020 at the same time and it started with bleeding like this. It feels so similar to then and it sent me into a real downward spiral so I'm finding it hard to be positive.

I know I sound so selfish, I'm so lucky to even be at this point so I'm so sorry to anyone who hasn't got this far yet, please don't think I'm being insensitive

@dlkiik I think anywhere between 7-14mm is considered healthy and I’ll be on the thicker side by transfer. I don’t know how fast it grows so hopefully it’s not beyond 14mm by next Thursday as I’ve still got a week to go despite being almost 9mm. It’s a 5 day transfer so think that’s factored into it.

@rollercoastertobaby you’re doing a natural FET, right? I’m doing medicated so don’t trigger. Just adding progesterone on top of everything else from Friday as I’m on that for 6 days before transfer.

@Hopeful199 think I’ll tune into sacred earth tonight before bed…just had a quick listen and sounds so peaceful.

My brain has been like mush today so
hoping I’ll be a bit more productive in the morning. Off for reflexology in the afternoon to try and help calm my mind…

@SarahC1985 cross posted! Not insensitive at all. We’re all at different stages and are here to support each other whatever stage that might be. It sounds very promising for you though 💛

I think I’ll get intralipids Saturday and bloods Monday. My lining scans throughout egg collection cycle and mock cycle were fine so I think they’re happy with progress. Kind of hoping they’ll do an extra scan by Monday to make sure my lining is okay. Otherwise, it’s just on with the drugs and my week. Made plans to see some friends while I’m here so that’ll keep me occupied!

Is Thursday your next scan and then after that they'll tell you when they're transferring? The wait is awful and I don't know about you but the estradiol is making me highly emotional/moody/headachey and everything else that you could think of!

@dlkiik today was my first and potentially last scan before transfer as my lining is usually fine. My main hurdle is keeping pregnancies so they don’t seem too concerned. But I’ve paid for three scans upfront so I’m asking for another!

Transfer is booked for Thursday based on my current thickness and the amount of progesterone I need before transfer. I was expecting the Saturday or Sunday so I’m glad it’s sooner.

I’m listening to period power on audible and it’s interesting the detail she goes into around our hormones and how they make us feel. I’m feeling very buzzy. Lots of nervous energy!

Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water!

@MyEasterEggs not long then! So exciting! Definitely try and keep yourself occupied and busy xo

I have been for my scan today on cd12 and my lining was 13mm, however my transfer isn't until next Friday so I'll be joining you in the antagonising wait 😫 I did think it would be sooner!

@dlkiik just try to keep yourself busy and do things that nourish you. It'll soon be next week xx

@SarahC1985 Great news on your HCG level. You are not being insensitive at all. I also had a loss so completely understand.

I'm on the natural FET protocol so had a scan on D3, another on D10, cyclogest this Fri, transfer on Tues. Yes getting a 5DT. All sounds so easy and it has admittedly been much easier than the stimulation phase but I'm in the usual pain phase of my cycle now. Our infertility is 'unexplained' yet I get excruciating ovulation pain and period pain 7 days before my period starts every single month. Since triggering I'm in the cramping stage. I feel I 'm pretty much in 'take your breath away' kind of pain for at least a third of my bloody cycle. It's completely exhausting.

Listened to the 'IVFthis' podcast today which helped my mood. The one I listened to was 'Planning for failure'. Doesn't sound positive but it really is!! It said this isn't about being negative or defeatist, it's about having a plan if it doesn't work. The coach said we often say 'I don't know what I'd do' but actually when it comes to it we do survive these things so plan some of the things you would do and write them down so you are prepared because when thrown into the grief stage we don't always make the best choices. I've been thinking about a few things. I'll have a curry takeaway, watch deep movies with DH in bed in the evening, take a few days off work. I'm going to make a playlist of heavy, dark movies. Might sound a bit intense but I find it helps me release and process emotions when feeling overcome.

I don't know if any of that makes sense and I certainly hope it is helpful rather than morbid. One thing the coach on the podcast said is toxic positivity is the worst thing because if you just say to yourself 'I'm going to be pregnant' your mind doesn't really believe it so it feels like such empty words. That's why I want to plan for the worst but I don't expect the worst. I think I've got a 50/50 chance, so it's literally a roll of the dice...

@rollercoastertobaby that’s a really healthy attitude to have. I hope for the best but it’s sensible to have plan for the worst. We’ve got to find ways of nourishing ourselves whatever the outcome.

@dlkiik how thick do you think the lining can go to? What’s the absolute max?

I am staying on the same dose of estradiol until then and adding in the pessary from Sunday in the plan it'll stay at around the same/14mm. The nurse didn't say anything about the lining getting too thick whether that's a thing I don't know. Did you get any information about it?
I may ring tomorrow and question it just to check.

It's hard to not constantly think about the next step isn't it. My first round of IVF felt agonising and I don't know if having a successful round previously makes it easier or harder, the little one keeps me busy at least! Good luck to you, hope your HCG keeps rising 🥰xx

Hi, I hope you don't mind me jumping on here. I am currently in the process of starting IVF lite and have my planning appointment next week with the nurse.

I'm 30 and doing this with a donor so any advice/support would be welcomed.

@SarahC1985 glad the bleeding has settled and that hcg sounds promising!!! Don’t ever feel the need to apologise, everyone is at different stages of different journeys. All equally as stressful!!

@MyEasterEggs @rollercoastertobaby transfer date getting closer

today I am 5days post 5d transfer. I’m refusing to test until the morning of my hcg bloods which is Tuesday. I tested early last time and drive myself nuts comparing lines. Plus I’m a natural cycle so got an injection of ovitrelle on day of transfer which can cause false positive. I don’t know how I feel. Struggling to stay positive after our last transfer/loss. Lots of cramps and pains but I know they could be 100% progesterone and nothing else. Just need to wait it out

Hi, I'm late joining here but I have my 2nd FET transfer on Tuesday next week. Getting nervous now as we only have 2 embryos so just praying it works.

The meds are making me sick and dizzy like last time (last time I got OHSS too).

Good luck to everyone who's waiting for news! 🙏

Thank you @LT103
Welcome @MammyandAva and @Holly05235892 👋

Is anyone on cyclogest? I was on it for my previous transfer but forgot how messy it is. Can I ask please if you’re on it, do you prefer taking it vaginally or rectally? I’ve always taken it vaginally but it feels a little sore right now, I was wondering if there is less irritation rectally?