IVF/FET May/June 2022

[Coops0406]

Hi,

I'm just starting this thread as i've kept joining previous ones in hope that I would be at the same time but got left behind with the ups and downs of ivf.
After 3 cycles, 2 failed fresh transfers, PGT-A testing to give us 3 euploid embryos and just now getting our results from the ALICE/EMMA/ERA tests, I am now finally in a position to hopefully start FET on my next cycle with a transfer likely to be end of May or early June!! 😍. Would love to have people to chat to who are following a similar timeline.

@Coops0406 yes I will try my best to enjoy it. I'm broken inside but paint on a normal face to go face the world! Yes as it's getting heavier from yesterday & a few clots. I messaged them earlier & they said if it's a full bleed I can stop meds but if I want I can take a test so will test tomorrow but I know it's a waste.

@HJen22 I'm so so sorry 💔. Sending love your way 😘. We are here for support ❤️ x

@HJen22 i am so so sorry. I don’t know what to say! This whole process is just difficult and heartbreaking. Look after yourselves these next few days before even thinking of the next step.

We got bad news today too. Hcg had gone up to 1852 but only a 45% rise and they have pretty much said it is a non viable pregnancy. They are going ahead with scan on Friday mainly to find out what is happening. I guess we need to know if it’s ectopic or if there is no pregnancy there any more. If nothing convincing to see and no ectopic they won’t rescan and just wait for me to bleed. If that doesn’t happen in a week I’ll be sent to EPU. I think even if they see a pregnancy there it is unlikely it will remain

@HJen22 I'm so sorry to hear this. Take some time to recover from today and then call to ask for a consultation.

I have no idea on AMH etc mine has never even been done! But I'm sure some of the others will be able to guide you.

Sending hugs lots of hugs today x

@HJen22 I’m so sorry, was really hoping you’d get those three. I hope they can at least learn from something from this cycle to ensure the next one is better.

@LT103 im sorry you didn’t get better news.

@LT103 oh I'm so sorry 😞 I had really hoped you would have gotten some good news today, after the last few weeks of pain and angst. I am sending you lots of love x

Thank you all, we will have a call with the Dr in a few days I think as we didn't really have any questions today after the shock. And then a consultation about going forward. The lovely nurse also mentioned the Counsellor who I already talk to, I have a session next week. They checked my AMH last year and it's low, in line with my low AFC. The Dr told me there were other options and it could still happen naturally (I feel like they have to say this but I have never ever had a BFP). I said it's unlikely we'd get another funded nhs cycle isn't it and she said yes but there are other options, and by that I know she means NHS donor. I think in some time I'd like to try private with my own eggs, trying a different protocol or more natural or something. We will do some research in time but right now I need a break. We've a holiday booked for September so we'd not be trying to even do it before then which I'd think would be unlikely anyway.

@Reefy I'm glad you have a holiday and some time off work to really have a rest and look after yourself ❤️

@HJen22 I'm so sorry, I really thought this was the one for you. Absolutely heartbreaking 💔 sending you big hugs. We're all here for support and when you're ready it will definitely be worth enquiring privately to see what they say. If there's follicles growing then there will be a way to get those eggs. Have a break from it all and reset, will be worth you seeing if there are any support threads regarding low amh/afc to see if you can get other advice going forwards.

@LT103 this is again just so gutting, I cannot imagine what you are going through with this constant up and down. You really are dealing with this all so well ❤️

@Reefy make sure you let it out, I know we all have to keep a brave face on but give yourself chance to be upset and go through the emotions. Sending hugs your way 🥰

Oh @Reefy im so sorry I missed this!! Hope you are ok and sending you big hugs!

@Coops0406 I will thank you.

@LT103 thank you. Sorry to read your bloods weren't good today. Got everything crossed you get some answers at the scan on Friday

@LT103 so sorry to hear your sad news 😢. IVF sucks but this seems so unfair, I really am thinking of you.

Hope Friday comes quickly for you x

@HJen22 sorry to hear that 💔 thinking of you, go gentle on yourself. You are strong and brave!

@LT103 good luck for you scan tomorrow, will be thinking of you and sending huge amounts of baby dust your way 🥰

Thanks everyone. I’ve been trying my hardest to distract myself and not google because the more I read, the more worried I am that it’s ectopic with the fact I’ve had lots of spotting and low, slow rising hcg. Just glad we’re finally going to get answers. I had planned to go back to work after the scan but after I spoke to my boss about things, I’m taking the afternoon off. Just realised how awful it would be going straight back to work if it’s bad news which is what they’re expecting.

@HJen22 hope you’re doing ok today

@LT103 good luck for tomorrow, I will be thinking of you ❤️ I really hope you get some good news and answers. Definitely a good idea to take the afternoon off.

I'm so sore today, much sorer than last time. Have spent the day inside. My parents came to visit as I told them the sad news this morning and told my sister tonight. I'm so sad, I'm going to get a Drs note on Monday to take some more time off. Two cycles in four months both ending with no transfer has taken it out of me. I hate taking time off but I really need some time to process.

How is everyone else doing? We are really due some good news on this thread ❤️

Anyone have any tips on how to get through this time? Last time I had a nurses call booked in pretty quick and the next round scheduled not long after, this time is different and we'll not have a plan for some time yet xx

@Reefy I just popped on to see how everyone was doing and saw your news. I'm so very sorry. Be kind to yourself and take time to process. Lots of love to you.

@HJen22 I know my situation is different but after last time didn't work I had 9 weeks where I had nothing but waiting for a follow up. After the meds were out of my system I found it better to have something to do aside from work. I planned a city break for 4 weeks after OTD ( because even though I was out, I still had to take pessaries until then)
It took my mind off things- I did everything the transport the booking or things for the days, booked the food etc really took my mind off things and I actually really enjoyed myself whilst there for the first time in a long time.

Cry all you want- let your self stay in pj's and watch Netflix just put an end date on it. And then start planning something or things ( day trips etc.

After a week I also made sure I went out walking a few times a week really made me feel better. I tried a break from here but I was drawn back in the first few weeks.

Most importantly don't put too much pressure on yourself- that worked for me ( once my hormones had settled) it may not for you.

X

@LT103 good luck for your scan today, I hope you get some answers x

@Thornbird80 thank you. Hope you managed to get something sorted at the clinic for that other scan they said they wanted you to have x

@HJen22 Ive been thinking if you (sorry hope that doesn't sound weird). Of course you've had an awful experience & it's ok to feel sad. Im the same I find it harder when I don't have anything booked in with dates to work towards so make that time for you both if you to enjoy things together or with family & friends. Each time you think of your questions to ask just jot them down x

@PMAmostofthetime thank you ❤️ we had a trip away last time and that helped so that's a good idea, just a change of scenery. I'll look into that today.

It was good my parents came round yesterday as it forced me out of bed and to shower even though I was in pain. I feel a little less tender today so I will be sure to get out with the dog. I usually always make sure to go out with her every day but yesterday I just couldn't. I might go cycling over the weekend too, I need to exercise but i didn't do very well at sticking to the gym last time.

How are you doing? Xx

@Reefy not weird at all, I think about you all often and I'm sad for all of us who've had bad news. How are you doing? It is hard not having a plan isn't it. As much as I want a plan and to move forward I'm forcing myself not to google and research as I just really need a break from it all I think xxx

@HJen22 I know it's so rubbish for us isn't it. It doesn't get any easier! I'm doing ok I'm going away with the in laws today & told them all on Wednesday it hasn't worked as don't want to be on a downer when we get there & I want to leave that baggage at home this week & be me again. Devon here we come! You do as much research as you like as you want to go into it knowing how it will all work. X

@Reefy I'm sorry you had to tell them bad news, it doesn't get easier. I hated telling my family as I know it upsets them so much too. Devon will be lovely, I'd love to holiday down there! And the weather is meant to be amazing! I hope you have the most wonderful time, you deserve it and I really hope you feel like you again ❤️ xxx

Just checking up on the updates...

@HJen22 @Reefy I am so sorry to read your latest update. It's absolutely heart breaking. You are strong and believe in, once our time will come 🙏

@LT103 good luck with your scan today. I'm really hoping a good news. 🙏

How is everyone else doing? I went shopping yesterday and spent £££ on dresses which with my luck I will able to wear them a week or two 🤦🏻‍♀️ had a strange moment when I couldn't decide one of the skirt size and went for the smaller one. Didn't buy anything in the last few months to quietly believing it won't fit in a few months time. DH and me currently stopped planning until we have our follow up appointment in 10 days time and we'll see after, however he received a tax refund letter yesterday so that is obviously cheered me up a little. (We'll put that money aside for the next cycle)
I know we didn't have a wonderful month, but the sun is shining, loads of miracle around us and I know our time will come 🥰

That sounds lovely @Dobcaty, good on you buying some new clothes! I am looking forward to hopefully losing a bit of weight or at least just shaping up a bit in the coming months, it's been too long on drugs and in twws.

@LT103 how was the scan today?