IVF/FET May/June 2022

[Coops0406]

Hi,

I'm just starting this thread as i've kept joining previous ones in hope that I would be at the same time but got left behind with the ups and downs of ivf.
After 3 cycles, 2 failed fresh transfers, PGT-A testing to give us 3 euploid embryos and just now getting our results from the ALICE/EMMA/ERA tests, I am now finally in a position to hopefully start FET on my next cycle with a transfer likely to be end of May or early June!! 😍. Would love to have people to chat to who are following a similar timeline.

@SamTTC forst bloods were routine. Then did a third and fourth because it had been slow rise to see if was chemical but because it was rising they said just book scan and wait and see. But I called the ooh number on Sunday when I had a bleed so they booked me in for a check on Monday but again now need 2 48hrs apart to see the trend to see if the bleed was anything to worry about.

i think the bleed is cervix related to be honest as it’s very intermittent and (sorry for the TMI) but it is only after a bowel movement which acc to google is likely cervix but my low hcg is concerning them and they are worried about ectopic or blighted ovum. Only 3 days til scan at least.

Thank you for your kind messages.
It's really tough.
Currently 7dp3dt.
Was so crampy yesterday.
@LT103 I really hope your scan goes well. Wishing you lots of luck x

Hi all,

Trying to keep up with all of the updates, so though I've not tagged everyone I am sending you all good thoughts!

@LT103 I'm sorry this nightmare is continuing for you. Rising hCG is certainly better than it falling but I imagine what you want and need is reassurance in the form of a good scan. Everything crossed for you.

@Dobcaty GPs can be amazingly unsympathetic/unhelpful! Sorry yours falls into that camp. I asked a GP at my surgery if they'd run some very simple bloods for me having asked my clinic what I need (I'm having IVF privately) and he refused. He said that the clinic should write to the surgery if they wanted to request them but he'd probably say no anyway because my age meant I was too old for IVF to work anyway!

@HJen22 good luck with EC tomorrow!

@BlueSilver23 trying to plan IVF around life (or more often life around IVF) is a logistical pain in the a**. I've spent so long postponing or procrastinating on other things to accommodate IVF and have come to the conclusion there's never a good time. Obviously some times are way worse than others but I reckon generally anyone doing IVF is resilient and will make it work! I'm doing this solo too so totally understand what you mean about there being no back up.

Still prepping for my FET (8th transfer overall, it's been a long road). I went in for a scan last Friday which was day 10 on progynova, but for the first time in all my IVF history my lining wasn't thick enough to start progesterone. I took the same dose for a few more days and scanned again today and lining is up to 8.5mm so booked for transfer middle of next week. I want to be excited and hopeful, but it feels like experience is definitely against me. Also feels like I'm being kept on meds ages to fall into line with clinic schedule which makes me nervous about whether levels will be optimum - my clinic doesn't do any bloods during fresh rounds or FETs.

Once I've had the transfer I'll be as distracted as ever with hoping it works and trying not to symptom-spot and all that stuff, though. And as gutted if it doesn't work, even though you'd think I'd know better by now. Add in some work and money stress and trying my best to be zen-like but not doing that well at it!

@HJen22 how did the trigger go?? When are you going in tomorrow? Wishing you all the best!

@lucymills1234 it's really a slippery slope of letting this IVF journey eat up all other aspects of your life isn't it? And I also think doing it solo just puts such a weight on you, like this literally is your battle to fight alone (and I don't know about you, but I don't want to tell anybody irl, because I don't want them to have in the back of their minds that I'm just trying and trying and still not successful). Eight transfers really is a lot. Have they tried anything like priming or assisted hatching or anything like that?
Everything I've read suggests that on the medicated cycle you really can plan 'freely' around the meds but it also seems strange to me...but if the research supports it then I suppose we have to trust the process (haha, as if that's easy).

@lucymills1234 @SamTTC yeah i think doing it on our own makes you realise that you’re it and that no one is there if you haven’t set up your maternity leave or finances etc. it’s just another added stress!

@LT103 thank you lovely. Oh gosh I'm so sorry again that you're left in limbo. I can't believe how long this has been unknown for you. I really hope the next set of bloods and scan have the answers, and the one we are all hoping and praying for. Hang in there, thinking of you x

@SamTTC that is fantastic news!! Congrats! Really really pleased for you! I have everything crossed that they make it to the freezer ❄️ and that you can have as relaxed a few days as possible - which isn't easy I know.

@Coops0406 thank you 😊 trigger was 10.30pm last night and went smoothly thank goodness!!! We were both pretty nervous but all fine and I've enjoyed a day of no jabs. EC tomorrow at 10.30am. I just napped for 3 hours which meant my high hopes for cooking a nice tea turned into toast and crisps haha. Well done for going to the gym, that's an amazing step to take! Really glad to hear you enjoyed it and the classes will help make you feel a little better I'm sure. I've had sore heads the whole way through this cycle so far and been extra tired 🥱

@lucymills1234 it's so hard with a life and ivf balance. Great that your lining has increased and your transfer is booked, 8 transfers is tough going, I so hope that this is the one for you 🤞🏻 it's hard to stay zen like, I so wanted to be chilled this cycle but I've been the exact opposite! Xx

@HJen22 hope you’ve had a relaxing day! Good luck for tomorrow!! Glad the trigger went well this time. Hoping those 3 lovely follicles give 3 perfect eggs!!!

@LT103 thank you, I went to see my mum and dad who had my nephew so that was a nice distraction 🥰 I am really hoping for 3 eggs and a transfer this time 🤞🏻🤞🏻 what time are bloods again tomorrow? A lot for you travelling back and forth to the clinic so much too, is it close? Xx

@HJen22 yeah it’s only 20-30mins. Getting early appts too so can just go straight to work after. Appt is 7.50 but I won’t get results til afternoon. Bleeding has only been the twice so I’m hopeful bloods will have gone up and will get to scan on Friday 🤞🤞
sounds like you had a good day. Will you do a fresh transfer?

@HJen22 @Coops0406
2nd one done- did it without ice- not doing that again!

@HJen22
Hope you manage to get a good nights sleep tonight- So pleased you got to EC and hopefully you won my need it but you have another NHS round in the bank waiting.
I will be awaiting your update tomorrow. Good Luck and glad Trigger went smoothly for you :)

@LT103 Thank you, hope you get some answers soon and that it's good news. I can't imagine what you are going through. 🤞🏼for you.

@BlueSilver23
Moving and changing jobs is a lot atm, Do what you feel is right. You have Frosties, they are not ageing and it's ok to take a break.

@lucymills1234 good luck for next week. 8th transfer is a long road. Hope everything goes well for you.
If we wasn't gutted when it didn't work- we wouldn't be doing it- I had AF 8dp5dt last time- I knew I was out but I was still devastated when the test was negative on OTD. If there was no hope we wouldn't be able to continue to go through this process.

@SamTTC that's fantastic news! 5/5!!!
I expect you was happy when that update came :). Hope they all make it to blasts for you.

Anyone have any idea why Burserelin needs to be given between 6-8pm? My work finish time can be unpredictable due to the nature of my job and I wish it could be later.

@RoseWrites here you go x

@HJen22 good luck today! Will be thinking of you! Glad everything went okay with the trigger too, another hurdle crossed.

@BlueSilver23 sounds like a hectic time ahead for you..I suppose you don't want any added stress going into FET but it's also finding a right time. Lots of balance!

@LT103 are you going back this morning? Hope all is well

@lucymills1234 you are doing amazing! Such a strong and courageous person, wishing you all the best for this transfer. Do you have a date yet?

@PMAmostofthetime well done!! You've started now and soon enough the injections will be done!

@HJen22 good luck today! 🤞🥚 x

Well that's me out another cycle I've not made it to OTD again as AF always shows up!

@Reefy Im so sorry. There isn’t really anything good to say in this situation is there. Sending all the luck and baby dust for the next try but for now hopefully you can take time to recover a little.

@HJen22 best of luck for today!

@LT103 hope the bloods show encouraging news

@Coops0406 yeah, my instincts say go for it right now but it really wouldn’t be practical. I’m hoping perhaps sometime in the next few months though!

Hello everyone :) thanks for the add @PMAmostofthetime

I'm 2dp5dt and trying to hold it togetherl. Can't believe the transfer was on Monday. The ICSI cycle was ok overall. We had one embryo to transfer, which I know is great, but we had 22 eggs collected and 16 fertilized, so we're both a bit upset that there are none in the freezer. And to be honest, I feel quite down about it all overall. I'm trying to tell myself that it's self-preservation, but also worry that I know deep down it hasn't worked. Trying to keep myself busy with other things but it's hard not to obsess over every twinge, etc... And it's exhausting trying to constantly fight the urge to scream or cry 😂

Sorry for my first message on this thread being so moany!! xx

@Reefy I'm so sorry to hear this, it's not fair at all. Have you been on extra progesterone? Sending you big hugs 🥰

Oh so sorry @Reefy - that is shitty news.

@RoseWrites hello! Fingers crossed for you! 22 and 16 are great numbers. Have the clinic given you a reason why you didn't have any to freeze? C

@Reefy I'm so so sorry 😢 this isn't fair. I'm sending so much love and hugs ❤️ take time to yourself over the coming days and look after you. We are all here to chat and support whenever you need us x

Thank you for the good luck ladies. Just away to leave soon. Beginning to get more nervous but telling myself it will be over before I know it and I'll be ok. Then a nerve wracking few more days ahead, trying to take each day as it comes x

@PMAmostofthetime well done with your second injection! Yeah ice again if it was more sore without. You're doing amazing!

@LT103 good luck with your bloods today. I am really hoping for good news for you 💕🤞🏻

@RoseWrites welcome and congrats on being PUPO. I'm so sorry you didn't get the results you hoped for but it only takes one. Your feelings are totally normal, I think we all feel like this during the whole ivf process, i know I struggle. Let the screams and cries out, nothing wrong with that at all. Wishing you the very best of luck xx

@Coops0406 just the 2 pessaries a day as prescribed. I've had my levels checked & all ok.

Thank you everyone for your kind words ❤️ I'm going away Friday for a week but got 17 days off work after tomorrow so going to enjoy time with my family x

@Reefy I am so sorry, please look after yourself and enjoy the time with your family.

@LT103 I hope you'll get a nice rise this morning blood test, I think its a late implanter and your dpo might need to adjust. Only 2 more sleeps until Friday, I have everything crossed for you!

@HJen22 best of luck today!

@SamTTC 5 out of 5! Amazing! When is your next update? 🤞

@lucymills1234 thank you for your kind words. I'm in a much better headspace now than a few days ago. We decided that we just don't go for the GP anymore, basically we will ignore her and she is going to be the one who we blame haha
Our follow up appointment is on the 28th June and we'll see.
my body is healing well and trying to focus other stuff which unrelated with IVF. My life stopped when we started TTC, didn't do things because what if. This is ends now. I know still a loads of ups and downs ahead us, but I have to believe everything happened for a reason. 🌻

@Coops0406 how are you? how is your puppy? Am I right your follow up appointment is on next week?

@Dobcaty you're being so strong! I totally agree, particularly for the female... life STOPS and it is so all consuming mentally and emotionally and physically. Big hugs. Hope your next steps are positive ones x

I’ve taken some time out since my last negative of first round of ivf,

ive come back as clinic been in touch as I have one in the freezer so we was booking for me to have natural cycle which I had the appointment for 1st week of July, also still got another full cycle if this is a failure
tried not to think about it since my last negative tried to keep myself busy but since hearing from them it’s all I can think of but now I’ve had another set back that my smear is due so my appointment had to be cancelled with the clinic until that has been done I have booked my smear for end of June as that was the earliest appointment, I can’t help to feel a little upset cause I just feel like it’s another push back I know a smear is really important obviously,
It was just not good timing been waiting so long to hear and to get booked in 🥺🥺

I hope your all okay and treatment is going well ❤️

@Reefy enjoy the time off with family and I hope you feel okay soon. Just checking, you're definite it's AF and not other bleeding? Have you spoken to your clinic?

@RoseWrites I can imagine the disappointment from starting with so many and nothing to freeze but try to stay hopeful for this little emby that's trying its best to nestle in. Let's hope it goes all the way!

@Dobcaty it's such a hard journey and I think we become so focussed on trying to do our best to help the process that we inevitably forget about ourselves and who we are! That's why I've gone back to the gym classes, I already feel in a better headspace after 2 classes! Find the things you love and enjoy the days...our babies will happen, we just have a few more hurdles to get through than most.
Pup is good, thankfully! 🐶 He's still yelping if he jumps up but I think that's just par for the course with his previous back injury.
Yes, follow up next Tuesday!! Not sure what they will say!

@ks94 it's hard when you've waited then get another setback. But it will be here in no time, we're already in the middle of June, I can't actually believe that as I'm writing it!

Absolutely heartbroken 💔 no eggs retrieved. I almost fainted when I got up to the toilet after the cannula got stabbed in my hand multiple times, the procedure itself was sorer than last time and then to be told no eggs, I'm numb. I have no idea what is next for us 😢

Oh @HJen22 I am so so sorry. That is absolutely heartbreaking. I’m so sorry this journey has been so unreasonably unkind to you.
when you are ready for it then definitely make sure to get an advisory consult from the clinic to make them help you understand your situation. And if you want to share some of your numbers with us in the group I am sure we would all be happy to share our collective knowledge/experience to help you find a path forward 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡