FET November/ December

[Prayingforabubba]

Hi,

I'm not sure if there is already a thread open for a FET in November / December.

I was due to have a FET last week however after having two lining scans, I tested positive for coronavirus 🙄. I should now be having a FET after my next bleed (mid November) and hopefully a FET early December. Would be great to chat you others on a similar timeline. X

@ShareLove aww that's amazing. I won't know until tomorrow, but it'll be after 1pm xx

Lovely to see some transfers, congrats to those of you now pupo, and good luck to those with imminent transfers!

@tulipsandsnow I have no experience of your situation, but I have done two cycles with the Lister (we left them because they didn’t offer what we needed) and found them very knowledgable so you’re in good hands.

I’ve had scan 3, lining is a bit slow so more tablets and re-scan later this week. Hoping it picks up! I’m at 6mm and they want 8.

@FET2021 thank you, wishing you the best of luck too :) x

@FET2021 ong our 2ww starts tomorrow I can’t cope ! I’m actually so nervous , my anxiety is through the roof from thinking about it . It’s because it’s taken so long to get to trasfer with cancelled fresh cycle before . I feel nauseas from anxiety 😂 hopefully after trasfer I feel better . Xx

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 thank you! i just have this distinct feeling it didn't work, statistically in theory it should be a 30-60% chance, but everything felt off leading up to FET. but went ahead as have no guarantees things will be any better in the future in terms of my health and stress on the runup :/

@lauradxoxo thank you- i know the grades aren't super important, indeed my two good grade of my four blasts were aneuploid so just goes to show. But one good study with pretty large numbers including just euploid embryos did show that ones with the lowest ratings were significantly less likely to lead to live birth, still a decent chance but I believe it is technically quite reduced. you never know where you as an individual are going to end up in terms of the stats, but its discouraging! if it was a 5AA euploid for example should have more like a 70%+ chance rather than a 30-50.

@ShareLove thank you so much for your message, you are right, just having a terribly hard time staying positive! not sure i even want to- along this process every time I assumed something would go well and then it didn't, that's what's been the hardest!
Best of luck for your transfer tomorrow, amazing you have 5 more frozen too. statistically at least some out of 6 must be euploid/going to work!

@FET2021 thank you!

@Twinmummy15 just a day ahead of you with TWW- finding it torture! good luck

@Faerun hope the tablets help thicken more. Fingers crossed for your next scan 🤞🏼 xx

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 thank you xx

@tulipsandsnow wow you're one day ahead of me? How are you feeling? Any symptoms? You're so brave testing early. When is official test day?

@ShareLove I don't think I am going to teat early. Well I say that now lol.
Good luck for your transfer today. Fingers crossed for you.

@FET2021 good luck for your transfer today.

Keep us posted on how it all goes.

@Twinmummy15 hope you're feeling ok.
Thank you🤞🏼 just waiting on a time now x

Congratulations on your transfers @Twinmummy15 @tulipsandsnow good luck in the 2WW!!

And good luck for today @FET2021 and @ShareLove let us know how it goes thinking if you both! Xxxxx

@lauradxoxo thank you xxxxx

@Twinmummy15 @lauradxoxo @FET2021

Hey !!!
The nurse rang me this morning and she said I have to have trasfer tomorrow as the consultant has to do my trasfer and she is not at work today !
Always on the last minute they find something wrong !!!
Last time they cancelled my fresh cycle when I got to the clinic because they checked my blood result just before I was about to go ahead !! 🤬
Why don’t they check these things a day earlier or a week earlier !!!
So annoyed !!!! My heart was pounding when she said we have a problem , I though they will cancel my cycle all together !!
I hope it won’t make a different in my trasfer that I will trasfer a day later ! Will it be out of sync I do not know ? I did ask on the phone if it matters that I started progesterone 7 days ago already and she said no doesn’t matter 😤😞

@FET2021 good luck for your trasfer today , keeping fingers crossed for you lovely

@ShareLove OMG!! how frustrating and unprofessional of your clinic. That is so dissaponting for you on so many levels. Especially when you have prepared for a transfer today both emotionally and physically.

I doubt it will affect anything hun as my clinic asked me when I wanted to transfer as she said earliest is 22nd, but then said if that day isn't suitable I can choose 23rd or 24th. So I am sure it's absolutely fine. Don't stress about that.

But try thinking of the positives that you can get yourself prepared more with that 1 extra day and drink plenty of water so that the uterine lining is perfect for tomorrow.

You'll be great tomorrow, chin up!

@Twinmummy15 thank you 😢
I’m so exhausted and broken and annoyed that everything has to go wrong on the last minute .. it’s just soo hard going through ivf and then having things cancelled so unprofessionally. They should cause as little stress to customers as possible … buy they don’t . I couldn’t help but have a cry on my own . I have been fine all the way though ivf jorney but today it’s on a different level and it’s broke me down to tears , I feel like I’m trying to be strong and put a smile on my face but inisde I’m dying . 😞 it’s like nothing is guaranteed, not even an hour or minute before trasfer until you have the trasfer done . Something can go wrong any minute .
Let’s hope tomorrow something won’t go wrong again !!

@Twinmummy15 and diet wise I’m being at my worst , all this stress is making me eat junk food to comfort myself . I do eat healthy too but I realised I’m not as healthy as I wanted to be . I am not overweight at all but I could eat healthier but I just can’t because off of this is soo stressful

@ShareLove that is absolutely horrible! I'm curious what clinic it is if you feel comfortable naming and shaming?

If it helps, there's at least one study that specifically looked at doing FET in a wider window and if it affected outcome or not, and for this study at least, a day's different didn't change ongoing pregnancy rates: www.rbmojournal.com/article/S1472-6483(19)30379-7/fulltext

@lauradxoxo thank you! it's already dragging by, not going to lie...

@Twinmummy15 yes one day ahead sounds like- mine was done around 1pm on Sunday. So I'm almost 48 hours out. Unfortunately not even one little tiny symptom, which is freaking me out as my embryo fully hatched when it was thawed so I feel like is likely to try implanting right away. I'm also hyper-aware of my body type person, probably due to having chronic illnesses for may years (migraine disorder and a bladder condition). So I feel like if anyone was going to notice tiny symptoms it would be me- but there just isn't anything yet! I had a dream last night was pregnant, was crying tears of joy in my sleep, then woke up realised it wasn't real and started crying tears of despair. This is really the cruellest thing!

Testing early not so much as brave but because I really want to know if I had a chemical (it would comfort me to know they got the FET protocol decent enough for some sort of implantation to happen tbh...), and might miss one if I test too late.

@ShareLove oh bless you. Stay strong! Nothing will go wrong tomorrow. Stay positive.

@tulipsandsnow you're right, it really is the cruelest journey! So strange I have had a similar dream in my last cycle and I was the same. Started crying with happiness only to wake up and realise it is not really. It is so heartbreaking.

Are you trying anything in particular to help with implantation?

I was the same with my last transfer for a 5AA. I assumed as it was starting to hatch, it meant implanting should be fairly soon after transfer. So felt very dissapointed when I felt nothing. 😞 so I understand, but you really never know.

Have you ever been pregnant before and are comparing symptoms?
So stressful this is isn't it!

@FET2021 hey lovely , did you have your trasfer ?

@ShareLove so sorry yours was cancelled last minute!! So frustrating. Sending lots of hugs and wishing you luck for tomorrow. Xxx

Had transfer. Didn't go as smoothly as my last one, but it's in there and that's the main thing.
They said the embryo had collapsed, but as it had expanded since the thaw, they were happy to transfer and didn't feel the need to thaw another.
Slightly unsettling to hear. They did try reassure me. Although my last embryo was AA and the procedure went so smoothly and they said how perfect the embryo was etc. And it unfortunately didn't work, so I suppose they're just all so different and will just have to hope for the best.

Hope everyone is doing ok 💗

@FET2021 awww I’m glad you had your trasfer !! Does your clinic do a blood test when you went in to check hormone levels ? And what does collapsed embryo mean ? Xxx and if the nurses were happy that I’m sure it will be fine and just as good as non collapsed embryo , they didn’t have concerns so you shouldn’t x

@ShareLove thank you.
No, they don't. They just make sure I have enough medication for the 2 weeks until my test.
I'm not entirely sure to be honest. They reassured me and were so lovely, but everything goes through your mind doesn't it?!
Hoping for the best though obviously!
Hope you're feeling ok about your transfer tomorrow xxx

@FET2021 sorry your transfer wasn't quite as expected, this whole IVF 💩 is really hard work isn't it!!

@ShareLove I remember feeling exactly like that on the day before EC right through for about a month (negative result). I thought I was doing really well until the day before EC then panic kicked in, and it was just one thing after another. But I survived and so will you, we are tougher than we realise, and sometimes a good cry is needed to clear us to power forward again. You got this! Have a good cry, a hot chocolate with whipped cream and marshmallows (this is my evening treat), and an early night. By tomorrow it will feel like today never happened ;-)

Had my one and only scan today. Ovaries are quiet, and lining is 'perfect', nice to hear hit not getting cocky, as all scans were good last time as still no BFP. Transfer is now booked for 2.30 Monday, but I was told I'm at the end of a day of ECs so I am likely to get a call with a change of time on the day.... has kinda pissed me off tbh, I need time to get a full bladder, but also not feel like I'm going to pee myself all day! I hate that it's so late in the day, because I'm going to flap all day! Last injection done tonight :) now for the delight of cyclogest :-/ 6 sleeps and counting :) x

@FET2021 thank you xx I’m looking forward to my trasfer .
I was just reading on internet that collapsing embryo is actually a positive sign that it’s growing as it should , every single embryo collapses weather it happens before trasfer or inside the body , you just happened to catch it before trasfer !! it collapses to move to a different stage of maturing and all embryos do that so absolutely don’t worry now 😍 even my embryo will collapse but probably it will happen inside me instead of before trasfer

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 aww thank you for your message ! It really made me smile that message about hot chocolate and marsmellows , and also how much mumsnet helps me and lovely people on here to calm me and comfort me at this difficult time ! I never knew that strangers online can help so much and support so much !! It’s so amazing !

I am soo glad you scan went well , that’s exactly the news you want ! I’m glad you have your trasfer booked too , how exiting 😍 only 6 days to go !!! I have been on progesterone pessaries for 7 days now so I know how messy they can be

Do you know how thick was your lining at the scan ? Or didn’t you ask ?

I know it has to be at least 7mm minimum +
A week ago mine was 8.5 so I’m not sure what it will be now . Probably like 12mm haha but I know thick is good lining .
Xxx