ERA/ALICE/EMMA testing thread 2

[seven201]

Link to the old thread
https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility/4187520-era-testing-after-multiple-implantation-failures-anyone-had-it-done?msgid=110302437&utmsource=mentions&utmmmedium=email&utmcampaign=2020-10-19&utmmterm=You+have+been+mentioned+in+a+post&rei=438192#110302437

Welcome to the new thread. Anyone welcome.

@Dochas121 congratulations!! That is super news.

I held my wee for a few hours and did a clearblue weeks one and it said "not pregnant". First response had a very feint line. I'm 98% sure we're out, but will stay away from the booze until it's confirmed early next week. Have already eaten 3 Kit Kats though. Maybe I should make a cake or order pudding on deliveroo...

Now having the debate of should we try naturally instead of doing a FET (we have 2 eupaloid embryos left). FET wouldn't be until
Early January at the very earliest. I'm not sure if we should ask for a dr consultation (always a delay if we do this as they're so over stretched) because I've been having extra estrogen, viagra, aspirin and two neupogen infusions for each transfer round all because my lining has been thin, but maybe after the surgery my lining is no longer thin and I need standard meds, and don't have to put my body and wallet through all that extra shit? My gut says see the doctor, ask for a mid cycle scan on a normal month to check lining and then book in a FET, but be in no hurry.

Going to watched crap on tv while stuffing my face tonight and hopefully pick myself up tomorrow. But doing ok I think. Obviously shitty but trying to focus on the did get pregnant part.

Oh no @seven201 I think in the absence of a period you need to wait until the blood test is back, when will you find out the result? Yes to chocolate and cake though, you deserve it!!

Thank you all.

@tiggerwhocamefortea I went to BWH, 'luckily' I was under Tommy's last year, so had their details and just self referred. We just turned up with my report. I can't fault them, they squeezed me in and I'm glad they did otherwise I'd have stopped everything. I thought I briefly saw a heartbeat at Create, but they thought it was mine. 2 doctors checked me there but BWH were definitely clearer scan pics. I took one on my phone while they turned a blind eye.

@Dochas121 yes I have a retroverted uterus, so the nurse at the epu did say it was tricker to scan me.

Congratulations on your bfp 🥰

@Cream123 thank you so much for sharing your experience. I did wonder if 6+2 was too early for a scan. The good news is I'm within the parameters of my ivf dates. It's just the yolk sac, although the pic I got, I am wondering if I can see it. I just need to take my meds and see how my next scan goes on 22 November.

Thanks for all being so lovely ❤️

Hope you're OK @Janefx40 @seven201 @whatcangowrong @Gardenlady543 xx

I’m sorry to hear that @seven201 I hope you are ok.

@Gardenlady543 yes I thought of you when I got the result! We’ve literally never had even a late period in 4 years of trying and never made it to test day with our transfers before. I’m also a fellow 0% lactobacillus so there is definitely hope.

I know we have a very long road ahead of us to a baby and we will be devastated if anything goes wrong but for now we are so happy I can actually get pregnant as it was a big worry for us.

@VenusStarr I do think it does sound promising. It sounds like you went to the perfect place for expertise.

@Dochas121 that really is amazing then! I'd forgotten about your 0%. And yes, promising news for @Gardenlady543 too! Lovely way to start the weekend.

@Gardenlady543 yep, I'll stay on the progesterone until I'm officially told.

@VenusStarr fingers crossed for you for this next scan and hopefully it’s the retroverted uterus causing the issues with seeing everything. Take care of yourself this evening.

I'm so sorry @seven201 ❤️ I think we posted at the same time so I hadn't seen your update. Sending a big hug, look after yourself this evening xxx

@VenusStarr oh my post was sent before I saw your update. This is great news. I'm so hopeful for you. What a rollercoaster as @seven201 said. Oh come on little bean. Willing it on!

@Dochas121 wow. This is amazing news. So exciting. I still think my BFP with DD was the best day ever even though I knew so much could still go wrong. It was amazing to see a positive after so long

Xxx

@seven201 I'm sorry your day hasn't been a good one. A real mixture of results and emotions. Feels like we have even more questions now rather than the answers we hoped for. Hope you're ok xxx

Gosh well in the mix of stress, my friend that I spoke about before, my only real life friend having IVF has had a miscarriage. I've not been able to speak to her since her positive test. This is the last thing I ever wanted for her and it's so upsetting to know how much she's hurting.

@Gardenlady543

So sorry to hear about your friend. A friend I made through one of the ectopic support groups I was in sadly had to TFMR her precious ivf baby and it was heartbreaking. We'd both been through losses before as well as IVF and losses of IVF babies so we're able to provide comfort and support to each other

Oh @Gardenlady543 ❤️ I'm so sorry. That's awful news. Sending you a big hug.

Thank you @Janefx40 I just don't know what to think right now. I'm absolutely shattered. I've been to the clinic to collect my meds. Panicking that I missed a lubion, but I did 3 cyclogest yesterday instead and another one this morning. I did my lubion as soon as I got back. I know it's all I can do. I'm just do grateful the epu did get me in on the same day, otherwise the baby would have no chance. But it's got a little chance now. My cats haven't left my side. I've not long woken up and one was asleep on my chest.

How are you today @seven201? ❤️

Hope you're doing OK @Dochas121 have they booked your first scan in?

Hope you're final few days of your tww are going OK @whatcangowrong

Xx

@Gardenlady543 sorry to hear that. I hope you can be there for each other again.

@VenusStarr thank you. Really good the epu did see you. Don't worry about one Lubion as it sounds like you have covered that.

I'm not doing too good. Didn't take a progesterone last night as I just thought my levels were high and I'd see if having a break gave my body the chance to start a bleed. It did so game over for me, for now. Then had my blooming in-laws (who know) arrive and they must have said "how you doing?" In super cheery voices 5 times within the first few mins. After the 4th time of saying "I'm good thanks" and changing the subject I just went with "actually, pretty crap" and went and had a cry upstairs and hid for half an hour. Am now at a cinema about to see James Bond with dh so that's nice.

@seven201 I'm so sorry. This isn't the way any of us hoped this would go. Glad you are at the cinema and having some escapism. Sending lots of love

@VenusStarr Not surprised you are head scrambled. So glad you went to the EPU. Don't worry about the Lubion. It won't make any difference. We take extra as a support but it's not the be all and end all.

Xxx

Thanks guys, gosh it's just awful. The worst possible outcome.

@seven201 I'm so sorry, how are you feeling?

@Gardenlady543 sorry to hear about your friend. So sad for her and you too. We are all such a tribe and sometimes it feels that a loss for one of us is a loss to us all.

And then today I heard about someone getting pregnant accidentally. I mean fair play to them but it's just beyond my comprehension - the lengths some of us have to go to...

Xxx

So I've got a tiny bit of brown blood today, hope it's not a bad sign 😒 I'm on loads of progesterone and have really high levels so I'm trying to hope it might be implantation bleeding but probably not! Not sure I'll be able to wait until even Tuesday before testing 😨

Hope everyone else is ok, bit behind on all the posts. Hope you're holding up @seven201 xx

@whatcangowrong I think that is a positive sign.

I'm not doing too good. I just don't know what to do with myself. I am feeling pissed off with my husband which isn't really fair. I've told him a few times I want to do something productive today but I need help but he's just suggested we do exercise together, twice (after I said no the first time). He knows that I don't like exercise and that I absolutely hate exercising with anyone else. I just needed him to tell me to go get dressed and set me up decorating a room or cleaning out the kitchen cupboards. I know I'm being irrational and he's not done anything wrong but now I have done fuck all and am feeling very annoyed at my wasted Sunday. Fine if I wanted to veg all, day but I really didn't want to. God I sound so ridiculous writing that all down

I'm sorry it's been a rough day @seven201 my DH is like this too, he goes along with plans but isn't very creative about designing them, which is annoying if you need someone to lead the way. Have you got anything nice planned for in the week?

I hope that's a good sign @whatcangowrong are you in a fully medicated FET?

@Janefx40 I swear these accidental pregnancies are a lifetime of not using protection.

I've just got a couple of days until transfer day now, unfortunately everything is going to be hectic at work, what a week for it to happen! I need to just try and ignore it and not get myself worked up.

@Gardenlady543 thank you. Yes, he's not good at planning or motivating. I'm usually just used to it and it's normal, but sometimes you really just need someone to take charge. I've just got work, although it's my day off tomorrow, so after some appointments and errands I will have some time to myself.

Not long for you now. In a way it's quite good to be busy, but not if you don't want to be!

@seven201 sorry it's been a rough day. You've been on such a rollercoaster this past couple of weeks. I hate that feeling of having got nothing done too!

@Gardenlady543 shame about work but nothing you can do now. May be good to be distracted too.

Xxx

Couldn't wait any longer... and just tested positive, not even a squinter. Can't believe it after doubting these embryos and even going off to make more to PGTA screen (with terrible results). Must not get ahead of self, still 3 days to OTD 😨

@whatcangowrong this is so exciting. I know you don't want to get ahead of yourself understandably but this is a great result for this stage. I often go day by day and say "this is the best result I could hope for today". Let yourself feel happy today xxx

Amazing @whatcangowrong what a great outcome after the pgta results! Fingers crossed everything goes in the right direction!