IVF Nov/Dec cycle buddies - part 2

[BrandyM]

@ivfhope3
@MF1981
@81Poppy
@Jane1284
@lucymills1234
@Roo45
@dragonfly1978
@EasterBunny7
@Emmalouise11
@Gensola
@IslandStars
@Luludarty

@Gensola does your clinic have an on call fertility consultant? If you can't get them out of hours I would agree with others to call 111. Thinking of you xx

Thanks everyone it’s so kind of you to send advice and well wishes and it does definitely make this easier!
I spoke to the out of hours doctor who has said it’s connected with OHSS and she’s calling me back in the morning. She also gave me a list of symptoms to watch out for and if I get any of those to go straight to A and E.

DH has been a star looking after me. Anyway, hoping to get some sleep and that it’s better tomorrow! Thanks again

How are you this morning @Gensola?

@MF1981 I’m a bit better thanks - the pain is much much less and I’m passing less fluid too although now it is pink rather than clear. Hoping dr will call soon, she said she would. Also waiting for the lab to call with the fertilisation rates. Planning a sofa/duvet day!

Glad you’re feeling a touch better @Gensola - lots of Netflix for you today! Hopefully you continue to get better now. Good luck with the call(s).

Glad to hear you are feeling better @Gensola - enjoy your duvet day. I hope they don't keep you waiting too long on the fertilisation rates and you can have a nice relaxing day after receiving good news x

@Gensola so glad to hear you're better this morning. Take good care of yourself and best of luck with both calls xxx

Glad you’re better @Gensola.

I had EC on Weds & waiting on fertilisation rates. So curious!

Good luck to you too @lucymills1234 i hope you don't have to wait too long and you get good news xx

Glad you're feeling better @Gensola and good luck @lucymills1234.
I'm out unfortunately. I hope others have better news. Thanks everyone for the support over the past few weeks, I felt so lonely and isolated and having this group was really helpful, although it seems so unfair we are all in this situation in the first place.
Take care girls, I'll try and check in but may find I just need a little space to process things and decide what to do next.

Sorry to hear that @Roo45 - take care of yourself

So sorry @Roo45 this process just sucks, it’s horrible physically and mentally.

Clinic just rang. 22 of my eggs were mature but only 7 fertilised because we were using a frozen sample of surgically retrieved sperm which is generally not great quality. So upset as she said there’s a good chance we won’t get any embryos. All this pain, feels like it was for nothing.

@Roo45 I am really sorry to hear that. This process is so unfair. Thank you for all your support. I hope you take some time for yourself and enjoy your Christmas.

@Gensola that must be so hard to hear right now when you feel so rough. I'm so sorry. I will be keeping everything crossed for your 7 that some of them make it to day 5 and you can transfer. x

@Roo45 i'm so sorry! I send you a massive hug ♥️

@Gensola I will stay positive for you! 7 are quite a few, if they are not confident I will!! 💪🏽 There has to be some strong ones there for sure.

@lucymills1234 good luck!! Hope it goes really well! Not long to go now.

@MrsF1989 my husband said I should wait last time so I ignored him and tested after 5 days got positives at 6, 7 and 8 days and didn’t tell him! It was highly unreasonable and didn’t go down too well when I confessed on day 8! Although it was good news so he couldn’t be too annoyed (although he didn’t believe it and weed on a stick to check they weren’t faulty!)

@Roo45 sorry to hear that, make sure you look after yourself

@Gensola I got 7 fertilised and 4 made it, one to transfer and 3 frozen all AA, so don’t be downhearted.

My whole cycle has been cancelled. So they wanted me to do a natural cycle. Test my ovulation on a stick. I couldn't test before as I used the cheap ones that's why they said go in for scans on day 11 of cycl. An thought ok I won't need to test. They was still addmimant I didn't need scans but wanted to make sure So I brought the clear blues anyway I now have a surge there not taking that as my follicles are a little small. I didn't even want a natural cycle as I knew this would happen. I feel like absolute crap. It was supposed to save money doing a natural cycle and it's ended up more and cancelled. Sorry I'm sat in the car crying supposed to be getting my hair done. I doing this all on my own as Ryan still isn't at home. Or allowed at the clinic. I actually give up

@Gensola glad you're feeling better and I hope some of those 7 are good ones!X

@ivfhope3 I'm so so sorry. Have they said what the next step is? Thinking of you xx

I am so sorry @ivfhope3 - it's just never ending! Doing it all on your own is very tough too. I really feel for you. Have they given you any indication of the next steps now and alternative plans? xx

@Mancbear88 🙊 that is v funny and has made me chuckle. I feel myself being influenced 🤣🤣

@ivfhope3 so so sorry to hear this. This process is so cruel. Be kind to yourself, take the time to grieve. It’s such a terrible rollercoaster.

Thanks @Jane1284 @Sungirl11 @Roo45

I've had an update this morning and it's not good news. I got 11 eggs but one was immature and they think there may have been one or two that were over-mature. Of the others, only 5 fertilised. The sperm was doing what it should, so that figure is likely down to egg quality. One of the fertilised eggs was abnormal, taking me to 4. Of those, at the moment three are ok and one borderline.

They're only day 2 now, so I know statistically that number will decline as the days go on. It didn't help that the tone of the embryologist was very down (rather than positive) which made her update feel very downbeat and negative.

I don't mean to sound insensitive to anyone else who has a similar number - I know logically that there is still hope. But my biggest concern was about the quality of my eggs and it feels like those fears have been realised. I'm feeling very disappointed, despite knowing the odds weren't in my favour going in. These are the times when it feels extremely hard to be going through this process alone.

@lucymills1234 mine was very gloomy in tone as well - I think maybe it’s just that they do it every day and it’s quite factual to them. But it definitely made me feel worse. Let’s just keep our fingers crossed that some of ours make it. Trying to stay positive but also prepare myself for the worst, which is somewhat contradictory!

Thanks @Gensola. I don't want to be given false hope but when the clinic staff's tone is negative it makes you think things are worse than they're telling you. I know what you mean about that positive/prepared mindset. I'm hoping that my poor quality eggs were all naturally excluded off by not fertilising and there's at least one viable from those left. Nothing to do but wait - fingers crossed for you, too.