Sept IVF/FET

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I can’t see a Sept cycle up yet so thought I’d start one. Currently TTC #2. Our March FET was postponed due to Covid and we had a FET in July which sadly resulted in a BFN last week. Had our follow up last night and to our surprise we can try again straight away so signing consents next week and starting down reg in 2.5 weeks. Told the cycle went perfectly and must have been an embryo issue so we aren’t changing protocol but going for double embryo transfer this time. Anyone else looking to cycle/ transfer in Sept? Or am I a bit early/ keen 😂

We had the egg collection today. Only collected 2 but we sort of expected that. Now is the dreaded wait. Really trying to stay positive and remembering the words "It only takes 1" and " quality over quantity"

Now to find somewhere where we can grab some Cake as the wife has tried to limit sugar and I think she deserves a treat

@J1984 exactly, it only takes one! Glad egg collection is out the way for you both. Hope you and your wife enjoy the cake - definitely well deserved! Fingers crossed for positive updates from the embryologist!x

Thanks guys, I'm not really feeling all that hopeful. But obviously hope it's ok. Will let you know. Feel like my insides are churned up :(

Hello ladies, firstly @Sian7919 sorry to hear the news! I hope the embryo is a trooper and pulls through. @J1984 sorry to hear, I hope it makes it! It only takes one!
@HavingFaith @ivfjourney5 thanks for checking in. I absolutely love this thread it really keeps your spirits high to know other ladies are going through what you are and it feels good to talk since I don’t talk to no one about IVF.

So unfortunately I have had another gut punch scan, my follicles simply are not growing so the last resort is to increase the dose by slight from 225 to 300) and see if they react by Friday. It’s upsetting as I do feel it’s 2 months wasted if they don’t grow but praying they will by Friday.

Hi everyone, it's starting to degenerate. She said she hadn't seen anything like it in the 20 years she's worked. So that makes me feel even worse. Therefore my cycle ends here. Good luck to all of you. x

I'm so so sorry to hear that @Sian7919 please take some time for yourself. I hope you come back fighting for another cycle when you feel like you are ready xx

Oh @Sian7919 I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to take some time for yourself.

@J1984 fingers crossed for your two!!

@ChicaXS oh how frustrating, hopefully the increased dose will help.

Hope everyone is doing ok x

Oh @Sian7919, this process can be so cruel. I hope you can take some time off to grieve.

@ChicaXS that's off, I thought you were at risk of OHSS? It just shows you how much of an experiment this first round always is. Do you get more goes if this doesn't work? I guess they'll start you straight off on a higher dose if so (I was on 450 mg menopur which I think is the max).

IVF is such a bloody lottery. It's a real headfuck.

@Sian7919 I’m so sorry to hear this 😢 sending a virtual hug xx

@Sian7919 i am so so sorry to hear this. take some time for you and please take care of you. And please just keep in mind that one bad outcome doesnt mean the next one wont work. Again i am so so sorry.

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@Sian7919 I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope you manage to take some time to yourself and grieve. Like others have said every time is different. My clinic told me on my first cycle that they almost use it as a test to work out what is the best approach as everyone is so individual.

Oh @Sian7919 I’m so sorry. There aren’t any words to make you feel better but I just hope you’re able to take the time you need to process and grieve. Sending you all the love and hugs xx

@ChicaXS sorry there hasn’t been more progress - really hope this last push will make a difference. Did they say how big any of the follicles were?

@Sian7919 im really sorry to hear this. Sending hugs and strength to you. I hope you can take some time to yourself to process, then you can come back fighting xx

Im on day 5 of injections and this is the first day i can say i notice a difference in my mood, i would happily pick an argument with the stones on the wall today :( My anxiety is through the roof, it feels like someone has their hands round my neck its horrible. My works really demanding and although they are letting me work from home a few days a week its like people are deliberately trying to make my life more difficult. I feel really lost today.

@Sian7919 I’m so sorry to hear your news. It’s such a emotionally and mentally draining process. Do treat yourself and look after you xxx

@Sian7919 oh so sorry to hear that! I really hope that little one makes it! I know how devastating each new piece of bad news feels with IVF (and there are usually so many of them) but take the time to be sad about it and then leave yourself a few days before you make any decisions. It sounds cliché but time really does help (if not heal) anything. And hopefully, this advice will all be useless because you’ll have gotten good news in the meantime!

@Sian7919 just realised my thread wasn’t updated so have only just seen your last message. Again really sorry to hear that and please take some time for yourself. You might not feel like you ever want to try this again just now but give it a few days and things will already seem a bit different, well that has been my experience after each setback!

Oh @Sian7919 so sorry fingers crossed for it to be ok

@Sian7919 am so sorry your last message have only just seen take some time for yourself.

Thanks everyone. I am feeling really sad. It doesn't help that my partner is being a bit mean and saying things like we should've started sooner. We were trying but I lost my dad to cancer and so sex etc was not my number one priority at that time. Feels even worse that I feel like I'm being blamed. Anyway, will go for a walk after work and try and clear my head x

@Sian7919 so sorry your partner isn’t being more supportive and comments like that are just unhelpful. No one is to blame and you’ve been through so much with your dad. I’m sure he is also grieving just now and feels sad too so didn’t mean to say it, he will come round soon and you can support each other through this. Have a large glass of wine tonight after your walk xx

@Sian7919 sorry to hear this, you really haven't had it easy 😔 You are definitely not to blame! Men's minds work very different to women's and they process things in completely different ways and often don't want to talk about things like women do. I'm sure he didn't mean any upset when he said it, but it obviously didn't come across that way. Please feel free to use us all on here as support, and have a rant when you need to xx

@Sian7919 probably his way of expressing his sadness too but that doesn’t make it any easier for you or mean it’s deserved xxx

I’ve just rang our nurse as I’m convinced AF is going to show any second. I thought the clinic told me to test on the 15th but she reckons I can test Saturday. She’s going from when we would hypothetically have had egg collection this month (FET). So it would be more like a 10 days wait from transfer? What are others doing?

@Sian7919 do not blame yourself. I am sure your partner is grieving in his own way and lashing out. You can never predict what life will throw your way and you have already had a tough time with your Dad. You will get through this. I would suggest reading the book it starts with an egg. There is so much information about little changes and supplements backed up with research that can make a huge difference to egg quality.

@J1984 🤞 for your fertilisation. It really does only take one!

@ChicaXS I hope the increased drugs give your eggs a good push to grow by Friday.

@JenniferRo28 I am sorry the drugs are causing you mayhem. Do your work know why you need to work from home? If not maybe telling them might make them take a bit of the stress off. The other option is getting signed off if it is feeling too much so you can focus on you while it is important? It also might just be a bad day and comfort food and a sleep could be enough to make tomorrow better?

@Evey43 I think the progesterone and BFP can also make you feel like AF is on its way! I am testing on the 18th which will be 11dp5dt. I think a FET can take slightly longer to implant but I would have thought you would see something on the test 10dp transfer. Did she reassure you about the cramping?

@ she did, she said it’s very common and doesn’t indicate either way. So still in the running basically. I’ll be 10days on Saturday assuming the day after transfer is day 1? I’d psyched myself up to wait another whole week.