IVF&FET June/July cycle buddies

[Lemongrass1]

Hi, we are starting a FET this month after a bit of back and forth with the clinic. Start downreg on Fri with ET hopefully first week of July. Wondering if anyone else cycling around the same time? X

@thefishthatcouldwish @Tarsette sorry to hear about your disappointing news. Definitely take a bit of time to look after yourselves and help clear your minds.

I’m just the same this morning. Symptom spotting like mad 🙈 hope everyone else is able to enjoy the sunshine today

@tarsette I'm sorry to hear that. That sounds upsetting. Be kind to yourself.

@thefishthatcouldwish- I'm sorry you had a bad night's sleep. Hope today is restful.

@Glitterandunicorns I meant to say, empty bladder for scans! Just full for transfer. Good luck

@Tarsette. Hey I thought I would share my experience. So during my stims they picked up on something that looked like a polyp. When the doctor had a closer look she said it could just be an old scar or a fold of skin.

She said sometimes you have extra growth of skin because of the high amount of Estrogen you're taking that can affect the endometrium cavity. They also have 5o check exactly where it is placed too.

They didn't cancel my cycle they continued and I had 19 eggs, 12 fertilized, and I have 3 good embryos for a FET. When i go for my follow up the doctor will check again for a polyp. If it needs to be removed so be it, I take comfort in the fact I have completed my cycle and I have 3 potential beautiful babies for me when my womb is good and ready!

Lots of hugs. Speak to your doctor again and ask them if you can complete the cycle. I had nurses ans doctors take a look and no one mentioned cancelling.

@Tarsette I just read that it is a FET your having. Sorry for the long winded post i thought you were going through a fresh cycle.

Either way I have a history of polyps, the first one I had removed. One month later I was naturally pregnant.

It really helps to remove them.

Hi @beherenowx32 and @lemonrabbit- thanks to you both!

Just had my day 2 scan and I'm waiting for the pharmacy to open to pick up my medication. I was beyond anxious about it (my last few internal scans have been miscarriage-related so they've got bad associations for me) but the nurses were very kind.

I hope you're all having a lovely Saturday.

@Tarsette sending hugs your way. What a huge disappointment. Give yourself time. It's yet another bump in the ivf road but you will overcome if you decide you want to. Why not book to have polyps removed asap, at least you have a date to work to, then if you change your mind can always cancel.
I hope you can find something lovely to do today. If you need to chat or rant remember we are here xx

I had HPT this morning and it was a negative (day 12 post transfer) Email clinic no one answer so I decide stop all medicine and prepare next frozen transfer. I wish I everyone in the group best of luck don't give up

Thanks for all your messages. It really helped me feel better. Yes, I will take some time to decide what to do and in the meantime focus on my little girl (she is 2.5 years old!). @Zamzam21 thanks for sharing your experience. My dr did say one option would be to monitor my next cycle to see if the polyps were actually just one-off irregularities in the endometrium. But she said going ahead with this cycle wouldn’t make sense as the chances of implantation would be very low... I will continue reading all your updates. Wish all of you lots of luck!

Crikey I’m emotional at the moment! I might have to check out of here for a while until I pull myself together!

I think IVF/Lockdown/Family illness has not been a great combo but it won’t last forever I know xx

@UncleBrynsfishingtrip, I totally understand your feeling. Everything add together even worse but we have to stay strong and be positive. Please don't give up!

@UncleBrynsfishingtrip sorry you're feeling so emotional. Yes check out of the thread if it isn't helping. I think you have to "use" internet support groups wisely and be aware of when they're not helping. Take as much time as you need. We will still be here xxx

@GG82 sorry about the negative test. This is such a tough process x

@Janefx40 Thanks for kind support. At final transfer stage I think we all need a bit luck as it's possibilities rate. No doctor can predict successful rate.

I consider use embryo glue next time anybody use it before?

@Janefx40 Thanks for kind support. At final transfer stage I think we all need a bit luck as it's possibilities rate. No doctor can predict successful rate.

I consider use embryo glue next time anybody use it before?

Mini rant alert!

My husband left for the spare room last night and when he woke up today and came down stairs he said he was feeling dreadful, aches and pains, a cough and difficulty breathing (no temperature) I obviously immediately sent him back to the spare room in case of the worst but best case scenario he has still left himself in the last few weeks in a situation where he was vulnerable to picking something up. I really don't think they get how big a deal the process of ivf is for us! I've been injecting for weeks, taking supplements, trying to manage stress and now because he's been careless I'm going to have to manage a sick person, a toddler and a puppy this weekend when all I've asked of him this process so far was for a quiet few days post transfer. He didn't even need to come to clinic yesterday cauee mine dont let partners in at the minute. A little raging but of course trying to remain calm!

Thanks for your kind words guys.
This final part is definitely the hardest!

@Ash75454
I totally understand your worry.
It’s soooo good that you got to transfer stage without you/him getting unwell.

Can you get someone to help you look after your toddler? Take it a day at a time and rant away as it helps xxxxx

@Janefx40 ah ok I still have the lovely cyclogest too so hopefully Im covered!

I'm so sorry @Tarsette. It's such a difficult process. X

I'm sorry you didn't get a nice surprise this morning @GG82. I haven't used embryo glue but I am going to look in to this for this transfer (if I get there).

I get how you feel @Ash75454 there have been a few cross words over this sort of thing in my house too. Not what you needed at all but yes try to remain calm. If there's one thing ivf has improved it's my patience! Hopefully, he'll soon be feeling better.

Just on a side note.

My clinic said to me that they may be stopping doing baseline scan for NHS patients.

@Ash75454 congrats on being PUPO, I'm glad the transfer went well.

@thefishthatcouldwish I'm so sorry to hear that, that's such a small margin. Don't feel a failure, weight issues are hard particularly when you're pre ivf so trying to balance the need to be a certain weight with the need to get a healthy balanced diet, not easy. At least you know what needs to be done now and fingers crossed you can have ivf soon. A few months won't make a difference in the long run.

@Tarsette I am so sorry to hear that. I had to have an operation to remove a polyp. It was very straightforward and they said it was ok to do ivf after the next period. It cost £2,000 privately but I imagine the nhs might be a long wait at the moment. So it might not be so bad. Any delay feels like such a blow though.

@Ash75454 sorry to hear that, I agree that it does feel like a very unfair division of labour. Fingers crossed you can avoid it.

I am terrified about our call tomorrow. I've been trying to stay positive but it hit me this afternoon that it's probably 50-50 whether we'll be told tomorrow morning it's all over and we have no embryos. The embryologist was very positive yesterday but I've read even good quality ones only have a 40-50% chance of making day 5.

If that happens I might try talking to Create to see if they think I could maybe get better quality eggs with a lower dose. That or get a puppy! I like to have backup plans.

@RosettaR will keep my fingers crossed 60% mine made day 5. You could have 2 tomorrow. Is plan to transfer 1

@RosettaR best of luck for tomorrow. I know the feeling of waiting for that call from the embryologist. Drove me out of my mind in a way that I've never experienced before. Like you, I too made the realisation of it being 50/50, but unlike you I only had one egg. In a way you have double those chances. Also the fact that you produced so many eggs to begin with is a good sign that your body is great at making eggs, so the quality is probably good too. I hope you receive good news.

This process is so brutally hard on us. I've had to take a break from ivf because I had an enormous dominant follicle on my day 5 scan before even taking any stimulation, which they said would be over-mature. It was already 22cm before my period properly finished... so cycle postponed, which is better than outright cancelled I suppose. But I'm scared it will keep happening, that my high FSH will keep making them too big too soon.

So I'm just catching up on the thread and it feels like we're all having a hard time right now. But I don't want to be negative. I'm retraining my brain to expect very little from this and take it one step at a time. I'm trying to remain thankful that I can have this opportunity at all. But realistically I'm now considering using donor eggs, because it can't be a bad thing to bring a much wanted little person into the world, even if not sharing my own dna. I just want to mother someone. It feels like that would be another opportunity missed if I chose not to try that route.

Take care ladies. I hope you all have encouraging news soon xx

Thanks girls! I have already had the phone call (they didn't keep us waiting, I was still in bed), and we have one top quality embryo to transfer today. So relieved! This has been a roller coaster for sure and I'm aware the hardest bit is still ahead.

@Heart4 sorry to hear you have been delayed, do you know how long you will have to wait to begin again? Fingers crossed for you it's a one off - if it's only happened once I don't think there's any reason to expect it to keep happening. It's amazing how differently our bodies can behave in different months.

I have spoken to a friend who used donor eggs (she was peri-menopausal so for her I think it was a clear choice). She said she doesn't feel any differently about the children she had that way compared to her other children - it sounded like she wouldn't hesitate to recommend it. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it who has been down that road? There are so many difficult decisions for us with this, I think that's the hardest part in a way.

Gosh, I’m so sorry to hear so many of the group have been having a difficult time ☹️

@Heart4 What a shame your cycle was postponed but I do hope you get to start again soon

@Tarsette I had polyps which actually shed with my period so you may not need anything doing and be able start again quickly 🤞

@thefishthatcouldwish oh how frustrating when you had lost the weight before. Weight loss can be such a struggle, I’ve had to lose 10kg to get back to normal BMI and I constantly have to watch what I eat. You are definitely not a failure, it’s bloody hard work. But you did it before and you can definitely do it again!

@UncleBrynsfishingtrip Hope you are feeling a bit better today. Sounds like you’ve got a lot on your plate and the stress of 2ww and hormones can’t be helping

@GG82 So sorry to hear about BFN. Hope you have lots of support today xx

@RosettaR that’s wonderful news!!!! Hopefully you’ve got a good contender there- go embryo!! Good luck for transfer 🤞🤞

How’s everyone on the 2ww doing, anyone testing next week? I’m only 2dp5dt and driving myself crazy! Keep thinking I’m getting cramps, getting excited it might be implantation and the realising it’s just gas 🤣🤣 I also had a teeny teeny tiny bit of old blood a few hours after transfer and was furiously googling about that 🙄 I’ve already bought 6 FRERs and keep staring at them. Argh!!!!!

Really sorry for the people I miss. Sending everyone lots of love.

@GG82 so sad to hear about your negative result. Just do what you need to to cope and take care. I don’t have any experience of embryo glue, but would definitely try it, if on offer.

@RosettaR that is good news. Hope today goes well, and welcome to the tww. Do lots of nice things during this time!

@Janefx40 hope you are coping ok after transfer.

@UncleBrynsfishingtrip hope you are feeling ok. You have so much going on just now. It must be hard.

@Heart4 that’s so rubbish. I hope aren’t waiting too long before the next stage.

@Lemongrass1 the tww is horrendous! How are you feeling now? I’ve had period pain and it makes me nervous!!