When can investigations resume? (Scotland.)

[theotherfossilsister]

Just that really, I know it's a difficult time for so many people, but clinics shuttered just as DP finally agreed to get his semen analyisis done. My progesterone was normal, and I have regular periods, so I don't think Clomid would be an option for us. We've been trying for a year and a half, and I am 35 on Saturday.

If we do get a referral, and need IVF, how long will that take? So many questions?

Thanks

Confirmed BFP on the beach. Can't get better than that!, hopefully this will turn out to be a very lucky thread for everyone on here. Good luck guys!♥️

@Daisz congrats! Such lovely news.

I am so so nervous for my scan on Wednesday. Think the thought of being in my own makes it worse!

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That's fabulous news @Daisz! 🥳🤩🥳🤩 Sounds like you're having a perfect day (but without the gin and tonic later! 😉).

I'll be sending you positive vibes on Wednesday @BeHereNowx32 💓

Sorry @Daisz I didn’t seem too enthusiastic in my last message. I really am so happy for you ❤️

@BambiOnIce80 thank you. Feel like I need them! Might buy a test tomorrow, but not sure what that will prove!

Have a lovely weekend everyone ☀️

Congratulations @Daisz, very happy for you. What beach are you on?!? It's roasting!!

@BeHereNowx32 the waiting for the scan sounds tough. Lots of good thoughts and hope it goes really well.

Hope everyone has a peaceful weekend and hope you all get some sunshine this afternoon xx

Congrats @Daisz! Amazing news

Thank you to everyone again. I am back home now. I was at Portobello but it was getting far too busy at 2pm when I left. I got there at 10am, so I was there for a decent amount of time. I was trying to be very composed when I called because obviously I was out in public and there were so many people around, so much so the nurse did not think I sounded that excited.lol, she actually asked me if I was pleased? My scan is three weeks today @BeHereNowx32, I suppose my anxiety will start playing up once I get passed the buzz of excitement that the nurse did not pick up on. I genuinely hope this turns out to be the luckiest Mumsnet thread ever, and everyone gets the news they are hoping for!🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

@Daisz Yey! Congratulations!! Amazing news. Delighted for you!

I got my period today so got my app to go get scan etc. I am a bit anxious as on the phone at the start of July they said I would most likely not go on the pill and start injections right away but on the phone she said I will probably take the pill (3 extra weeks on if so - I know it sounds petty but I am just so desperate to start, plus I am off next week so means I would not need time off work).

Oh I hope this is a lucky thread @Daisz :)

@BeHereNowx32 good luck for your scan. xxxx

Thanks @RonRon1. That's rubbish when timings don't work out to plan. Still you are next in line on here I think to bring some more happy news. So will be holding out to welcome you to the Bfp fold.♥️🤞

@RonRon1 thank you. I am feeling really nervous.
Oh the timings never work out. I found the pill the worst part too. The hormones really affected me. Good luck when it all comes x

@BeHereNowx32 how're you feeling this evening? Hope you get a good sleep (or some!!) and that things go really well tomorrow. We're all here for you xx

Hey, thank you all for being lovely. I spoke to the GP this afternoon and she has put forward our referral now on condition partner gets his SA as soon as the clinic opens. Apparently first time referrals are taking more than six months now, so I am imagining being seen in March, I guess? Then I don't know what happens.

Getting nervous now incase SA throws something up. I am very used to the idea of thinking about this as 'my problem.' I have RA afterall, but what if it is DP? I think I would struggle to not have the control I would if it were my problem (I can loose weight, fix my full focus on being healthy.) What if I have to cede control? Also will DP be OK? He says if it is him he will just do what he needs to do to rectify it. He's very solution driven, but what if there isn't a solution?

I am hoping things start moving fast for us in March so I can begin IVF next year, but what I am really hoping is we have a miracle, and we're those awful pissing off people who are like, 'ah, we got the referral started then bam.'

We have a week in the Peloponnese in October (Covid Willing) and when we went in 2016 I applied for a highly competitive writing retreat, which I won, so I am hoping it's a lucky place for us. I keep looking at the Virgin Mary, although I am not catholic, and thinking 'Please.'

Aww @theotherfossilsister that's a long wait but least the ball is rolling. It is so hard either way I think regardless of who it is. If its sperm it would be ICSI you get. In a way I was kind of glad when my husbands sample came back as being very low as it made things progress more quickly. Obvusly not glad but I hope that makes sense and u know what I mean. I hope things happen for u hun, it can defo still happen so keep trying :) a holiday sou ds like just what u need!

I started injections yesterday. So glad to get it started again. Its a new one from last time Menopur... Serious head ache yesterday but today much better. Can't wait to start to feel it work. Also downloaded an app call mindful ivf and it's fab. My husband was laughing at me doing it in my room but it's soooo relaxing!

Thank you so much @RonRon1 - part of me is scared it will be longer than seven months, and if we're not seen until May I will be thirty six(!) Have also been looking at the depressing statistic that you have a 1 in 4 chance of conceiving naturally in a year if you've had two years of not conceiving. I am going to keep fighting though.

Glad things are starting for you Xx

And the app has categories. So there are meditations for before ivf, during, 2 week wait (thibk you pay more for that) etc. I am not big into that kind of stuff but done 2 and really loved it. I think my mindset is a little different this time as I know what to expect so hope this helps relax me x

@theotherfossilsister did u look into private option?

My best best friend who I love to bits just got pregnant. They are massive drinkers mid 30s and it's the First month they tried after getting coil out. So happy for them but it made me think how its such a lottery. We can only control what we can control and fertility is totally out of our control

@RonRon1 wow, it is such a lottery. Irrational, I Know, but I often feel like people who get pregnant first month have stolen something for us or are getting the credit for all our efforts. Ridiculous, huh?

I think even private referrals aren't happening in NHS clinics now, and if we went private private we'd lose all three NHS cycles. I think I will spend the time until the referral focusing on being as healthy as possible and spending time with my partner. If it does come through in March, then we will have been trying for over two years, so I think we should go on the waiting list for IVF then? Or is it pending further investigations? Can you be on the waiting list and still try Clomid or have an HSG?

Just read something on an old thread about Heinz tomato soup improving sperm count. Might suggest partner tries that, if need be.

@LouScot I’m not too bad tonight. Found out today that DH can come with me to the scan, which makes me feel so much better. Just looking forward to getting it done now 🙏 thank you.

@theotherfossilsister keep your holiday as a focus. That’s something exciting to look forward to. I know how much ttc consumes the mind. But definitely good for you to have special times for you and DP. Hopefully this makes the wait for ivf pass quickly too.

@RonRon1 that’s great news that you have started your injections! ☺️ I remember the headaches, they’re draining. Good to hear that the mindful app is working. I haven’t been doing it. I’m just too tired! I’m going straight to sleep at 8:30pm (and usually napping during the day too). Wish I could have made some time for it.

Sending love to everyone xx

@theotherfossilsister oh no I know what u mean completely. Yes tomato soup is meant to be good, so is cod liver oil. My husband has beetroot every morning too as that is meant to be good. I am trying to eat a Mediterranean style diet veg, fish, avacados, pineapples, nuts. I am skint, it's all so expensive😂. £3.99FOR pomegranate juice in tesco. I also take Cq 10 supplement which I have read some great reviews. I don't know if any of it helps but luckily it's all yummyanyway have holiday envy. I hope u have a great time and it takes ur mind off everything ❤️
@beherenow32 that's amazing he is able to come in. U must feel like it's Christmas eve. Minus the nerves! I hope it all goes well and u get good lookat ur little baby. Please let us know how u get on x

@theotherfossilsister I am not too sure on ur time frame. If you go march they will do all the investigations and then you treatment plan would be based on the results. I think if a problem is found a Dr would assess if ur elegable for NHS fu ded treatment and Ivf would be 9 to 12mibth wait but now they are not taking self funded maybe sooner. I feel like I heard someone say 6 to 9 months. If u called the receptionist may know the updated wait.? It may be that there is another treatment that u could get too u may not need ivf. Sorry I wish I had answers for u. Its so hard not knowing.

Congratulations @RonRon1 on the start of your journey. I shall be awaiting your progress, and remember this is a lucky thread!. @BeHereNowx32 good luck for tomorrow 🍀, so glad you don't need to go alone, which means neither do I thankfully. @theotherfossilsister nice to hear from the author of this lovely thread. I know it is an anxious wait, but remember you created this so far very lucky thread and as the author you deserve lots and lots of luck. Don't be too down about friends/acquaintances falling pregnant so easy. I know what you mean as it got me down too, but believe me when I say, when you finally get your baby, you will have so much more patience and appreciation for what you have. I don't think I would be the mother I am today without the journey I have been on to get here. It definitely definitely makes you appreciate things in a way that people that don't even really need to try can never understand.♥️

I love your perspective @Daisz 💖 How are you doing?

Like all the ladies have said @theotherfossilsister it all seems a bit unknown at the moment as to how long things are taking - we used to have a bit of an idea pre-covid, but now... 🔮 🤷🏻‍♀️ It's massively frustrating 😔

Glad to hear you're getting going @RonRon1 💉😁 Is menopur for short or long protocol?

Thinking of you today @BeHereNowx32 and sending you positive vibes 💓

@BambiOnIce80 I am keeping fine thanks. Hope your ok also? I mean what I say. My best friend at the time was desperate for children, she ended up being extremely fertile and it changed her and not for the better. She takes her two very easily conceived boys for granted, she shouts at them constantly for silly reasons, so much so someone actually reported her to social services. She would rather go clubbing with her friends that are 10 years younger than herself than be with her boys. It upsets me because I thought that having my dd would have brought us closer, but she is simply just not interested. I always think that if she had fought just a little to have her boys she would no way be acting like this, and of course she knows nothing of my ivf!

Not good news for me. There’s no heartbeat or fetal pole and I’m measuring a week behind. They will do another scan in a week, but it’s not likely to develop any further. I’m so sad about it x