When can investigations resume? (Scotland.)

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Just that really, I know it's a difficult time for so many people, but clinics shuttered just as DP finally agreed to get his semen analyisis done. My progesterone was normal, and I have regular periods, so I don't think Clomid would be an option for us. We've been trying for a year and a half, and I am 35 on Saturday.

If we do get a referral, and need IVF, how long will that take? So many questions?

Thanks

Thanks everyone
@Daisz it’s so tough 😞 I’m constantly beating myself up for not doing things right. I barely drink water or eat fruit/veg etc. You sound like you’re doing fab. Just do what makes you feel better. It’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself!

Because I’ve started the progesterone pesseries, my transfer has to be Monday now.
I think I just have a lining on the thinner side. The doc told me that when I fell pregnant it was actually 8.6mm. And past cycles it’s been 6mm. So, think it’s just me!
I am definitely going to start the mindful ivf tonight!!!

Last cycle, I done a few things to thicken lining. Fertility massage, hot water bottle on tummy and lying on the floor with my legs up in the air 🤣🤣 haven’t done that this time round. Lol

@BeHereNowx32 your probably really nervous because transfer day is so soon, after the big roller coaster of will it won't it go ahead! It is a lot to take in after the events of this year, and also being the first (on here anyway) that does not help either. I don't feel that prepared, but I think I have done a little more preparation than previous cycles, never really did anything atol before, probably because back then I was always a bit of a workaholic and that always seemed to take priority, but now I have ditched that side of my life I have a little more head space to think, which is not always a good thing. I think you really have to be kind to yourself this weekend, I know it's hard.♥️

@Daisz yes, the nerves are getting stronger 😣 it’s the thought of getting the results 9 days later. That’s the worst (when it’s bad news). Thanks. You have a good weekend too x

@BeHereNowx32 yes absolutely the wait is torture. Have you thought about doing your own test during the tww? I never before my previous cycles but did for my last successful cycle. I bought a few internet cheapies, I have some left over but they are out of date, so I recently bought a couple out of poundland. I know everyone is different but for me last time it made me feel slightly better, a bit like taking back a little bit of the control. I found having my own test a comfort. I know that you would need to wait for the official beta results, my cycle before last was a chemical pregnancy, so more than likely that would have come up positive on a test, so I am kind of glad I did not test for that cycle, and also there is a chance of false negatives with testing too early, but in a way there is still hope there with that. I am just rambling now, but I know it is the toughest part, and I am dreading it. I am probably not helping atol here so I am going to go away now.x

@Daisz I’ve always wanted to do my own test, but DH had never agreed to it. I feel like I knew it had or hadn’t worked before the results though. Did you get that feeling? I will definitely be symptom spotting the whole time. I feel a little calmer now. Just have to deal with it!
Sorry to hear about your chemical. That would be really hard getting the positive test then x

@BeHereNowx32 sometimes you just need to vent a bit and that can really help sometimes. Not sure really if I knew, I suppose I always have prepared for the worst but all along hoping it would work out, but obviously knowing that ultimately it was really out of my hands what the outcome would be. Really hoping all goes well for you, knowing full well I will be feeling the same way as you are in a couple of weeks. Except you will be happy with your Bfp, and telling me all will be ok. That is what I hope for anyway. I genuinely think it helps others hearing success stories, I know it did with me back in those dark days. Hoping ours will be a double, double success story which would just be amazing. I know I gain positivity from reading about other women that have gone on to have further ivf babies after having one, and I really really want to join that club, and hopefully we both will.

@Daisz yes. I do feel calmer now. Thanks for chatting! I am so so grateful that I have had a successful round in the past, so I’m not moaning in any way. Thanks for understanding xx
🤞 for everyone xx

@BeHereNowx32 Totally get you. Our situations are practically identical so know exactly how you feel!x

@beherenowx32 good luck for Monday! I will be thinking of yo uand wishing you well! The TWW is hard and I must admit I did a few tests that were obviously negative and I would not do a test again as it made the blood test wait really drag.

I got a little good news today, I have to call the clinic with my next period (which is at the end of the month) to get started with round 2. Delighted is an understatement. She did say I have to be aware things will cancel if a second wave etc So anyone waiting on Edinburgh,the April people who were cancelled are slowly being contacted now but obv they are running at a lower capacity but at least things are moving.

x

@RonRon1 thank you. And that is very good news that you will be starting very soon!

Congratulations @RonRon1 at least @BeHereNowx32 and I have someone else to cycle with we are not quite so lonley now. All be it a few weeks apart. Hope your af arrives soon.x

Thanks guys@Daisz. I am trying not to get too excited as I have a worry with the pubs reopening etc etc but it's one step closer so excited! I will keep u all updated. Please keep updating us too! I am telling not a single person this time as last time I told my close group of friends and mum/sister and also a few people at work which I feel added the pressure.

It's funny how every tiny development is such a big deal for us. Xxxx

Although I'm so lucky to have an idea when I will be starting round two x

I have never confided in anyone @RonRon1. My Mum has known from the start, but that was only for practical reasons or I doubt I would have bothered to tell. It is much easier that way, without the added pressure, but I don't really have the sort of friends I could tell, even if I wanted to, it is just the way my life happens to be, which is why this has been such a help so far. Yeah every little thing is a big deal, I just hope everything keeps moving along nicely for us!

I will have been married 4 years soon and was so nieve and open about wanting a baby right away (big mistake) so after 3 years so many people would ask and it got really hard. I told my close groups of friends aS I knew they. We're thinking it anyway but i wish I never x

I was really glad I told a few friends at work tho it has been so nice 1. Not having to lie a our why I have been late or off bit more so taking to a couple of people removed from ur live.. If that makes sense x

@RonRon1 I became self employed when I started ivf, so never needed to explain why I was off/late etc, although that is the reason I had to tell my Mum, because I needed her to step in sometimes when I was stuck. Unfortunately my group of friends consists of a few infertile people that due to genetic reasons cannot be helped and a lot of people that by choice do not want children, so I literally don't have much of a choice but to go it alone as I literally have no one appropriate to chat to about it, even in a general way, but I suppose it is better that the alternative of being bombarded with questions every two minutes.x

@Daisz @RonRon1 our families know. And friends know that I will do it again, but I haven’t told them when my transfer is. Like you say, too much pressure! Some of them would ask about it all the time.

@Daisz are you drinking raspberry tea? How much have you been drinking? Feel like I haven’t been doing enough. But not sure how much I can do (sorry! You can prob tell I’m freaking out a little 🤣)

@BeHereNowx32 I am drinking one small pot a day in the morning with my tablets. Occasionally I have had a second pot in the afternoon. I like drinking normal tea, and was planning on giving that up completely, but I have not stuck to it I am afraid. I am not a big coffee drinker, I have a cup maybe twice or so a week, so I have found that easier to give up. I will definitely not touch caffeine atol past fet, but for now I am still having 1-2 cups of normal tea a day, hopefully I will slowly replace it completely with the Raspberry but finding it hard. How about you?

@Daisz 2 cups a day, and then a small glass of Pom juice.
I drink decaf tea (and no where near enough water, but surely the cups of tea count!).
I’m
Now wishing that I did delay transfer but something could have went wrong in that time I suppose.
How are you feeling now?

Looking on google (I know I shouldn’t), and there are positive stories with a lining under 8mm. So I really need to just chill out! Will keep busy today

@BeHereNowx32 yeah the tea definitely counts as water intake, I am no good in general with plain water, and don't think I drink enough overall. Probably because I can't be bothered going to the toilet every 5minutes lol. I feel ok, tablets helping overal with the side effects. Maybe a little bit more emotional than normal. Feeling a bit teary sometimes, but at least I am not feeling ill as such. I feel like I still have a long way to go, but it will probably come round sooner than I think (as you well know) Don't beat yourself up, I know it is hard but if you had gone for the later date you would only just worry about that also, I think whatever you choose in a situation like this your always going to worry, ivf does that to you no matter what you decide!

That's fantastic news that you've had the call @RonRon1! 🤩 So nice to have a date to work to and it being still pretty much in the school holidays too! I'm worried about a second peak coming too 🙄 Our neighbours (junior docs who are renting) had at least 8 people round for a party last night - they should know bloody better! 😠 If our future medics don't follow the sodding rules, why would anyone else?! 🤯 DP went out and told them exactly what he thought about it 😬

ET Monday @BeHereNowx32! So exciting! 🤩 I get the worry though, but like @Daisz says, realistically you're going to worry if it's Monday or two weeks from Monday - I hope you can try and have a nice and distracting weekend ❤️

On the subject of to tell friends/family, we told a couple of my close friends last time because it was December, I wasn't drinking and I'm 💩 at lying (and my beautician, hairdresser and boss due to scheduling issues!). It was kind of nice having them to talk to about it at the time, but as OTD approached I realised I wished I hadn't told them because then I was going to have to have the 'it didn't work' conversation with them all (and dissolve into snotty sobs each and every time!). Turns out it did work, but then I had to have the 'we've had an MMC' conversation with them all and dissolve into snotty sobs then instead... we'll definitely not be telling anyone when the FET is happening, not even my boss. I'm hoarding annual leave so that, when the time comes, I can just take leave for appointments instead of requesting late starts for medical appointments... not that I've been completely over-thinking our next FET that we don't even have a date for yet or anything!! 😳

@Daisz @BeHereNowx32 I think it's nice having people a bit removed from the situation to talk about it. Like me friend at work who does not know my husband but yip no one will know this time, just the two of us (and you guys lol). It was actually funny as the last time I called my mum and sister as soon as I knew my dates and this time I came straight on here to tell you guys!!

Do you only drink the tea before transfer or would you drink it during your injections? I have been running loads and read somewhere that can impact the womb lining so I will have to research that.

I have calculated my transfer (if we managed to get a blastocyct again his time) would be the 18th August...I hope. So not too far apart!