Jan/Feb IVF/ICSI/FET here we go...

[sometimesalways]

Hello, starting a new thread for those of us starting a new cycle after the holidays.

My background: one successful round of ivf a few years back resulted in my lovely DS and now trying for a second. We are about to go for round 3, following 1 bfn and 1 mc.

At the moment I am waiting for af to appear. Seem to be about to ovulate according to opk. So guessing should expect af in about 2 weeks time.

Going for natural FET with progesterone support. The question for me is whether to add steroids too. A little scared of long terms risks so we will see...

@Russkispy @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted @Christabelle89
I remember from previous threads you were doing, or thinking of doing another round in Jan?

Everybody welcome to join, wherever you are on your journey. It's a tough business, keeping company helps. Good luck!

@sometimesalways
Sorry it hasn't worked for you 💐
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@sometimesalways so sorry about BFN! Have you tested again? I hope there's still a chance! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@sometimesalways just checking on you 🤞🏻

@Russkispy thanks for asking, I am ok... a bit numb and still bfn of course. I haven't even cried yet! This was meant to be our last cycle (no more ££) so I guess we might have to come to terms with DS being an only - he is of course a blessing and my joy and I should be happy and grateful with what we have. But it's a process. I think if I suggested it and we decided to borrow money DH might be up for trying again but I don't know if this is wise right now. But It's so hard to stop when we have 3 more embryos in the freezer!

How are you? I am so happy for you and hope it all goes well xx

@sometimesalways so sorry it's still a BFN guess you contacted your clinic and stopped the meds? I'm forever grateful I've got my DD who was conceived with a help of IUI. Then we started for a sibling and 2 years later, and using a DE as we really want another baby. And after all the losses, I still couldn't stop! I'm hoping and praying this time really works for us! But if not, I still have 10 embryos in the freezer and would get going till I have my very special rainbow in my arms. But you do what's right for you and your family! Again so sorry it didn't work this time.

@sometimesalways
We've said these embryos we have frozen will be our last once we have completed our final egg collection- that will hopefully give us 6 to transfer - we can't afford single transfers so are doing doubles. How much are your transfers? I do natural non medicated ones so each transfer probably works out about £1500?
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@Russkispy I keep my fingers crossed for you! As for us, I think we shall see how we feel once we have had the chance to process this one

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted thank you.. I get it. I did wonder if a potential next cycle - if we do decide to keep going - should be a double transfer. We shall see... although a natural transfer at our clinic is about double that incl meds! Perhaps the answer is to try a different clinic. 🤞🤞🤞 for you too

Really sorry to hear about your early test @sometimesalways. You're very calm and composed on here, as always, but I do hope you're feeling ok. It's strange how one can become a bit numb through IVF. I suppose we're always preparing for disappointment, but it's still sad each time. You're right to feel blessed with DS and you're also right that it's a process. Look after yourself - so long as you're happy and ok and can see a way through, then that's all that matters. Sending you hugs.

Oh thank you @mincedpea trying my best not to lose it with this whole process. It's too much some times.
I hope you're doing well

@sometimesalways
£3k per frozen transfer wow that is expensive! we definitely wouldn't be able to afford that either. As it is we ll have to put transfers 2 and 3 on the credit card if the first one doesn't work x

I know, I think our clinic is one of the more expensive ones - not being helped by the fact that we are in London and everything is expensive here anyway! Apparently has great success rates though which is why we chose it,.. Whereabouts are you?

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted forgot to tag again oops

@sometimesalways
I'm with Create Birmingham but they have a few branches and because I work in London several days a week I've had scans and an egg collection at their London clinic opposite St Paul's cathedral

Thank you @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted I will keep them in mind in case we decide to try out luck (or lack thereof) again

@sometimesalways that's a lot of money! Wow! And if you decide to do another cycle, maybe to try at a different clinic? Why can't things be so bloody simple for a change!

Honestly @Russkispy the money I feel I have 'lost' in this process... although I appreciate that others might have paid more and I shouldn't be complaining. And obviously I wouldn't even be thinking of the finances if I had a baby now.. another clinic might be a thought. We have a follow up at our clinic next week (have already paid for that as part of the treatment anyway ha) and I think we will discuss options and either continue or draw a line and move on after that.

Now happier news When is your scan for? Next week?

@Hufflepuff1 I might have missed this but how did your blood test go? I hope everything is ok!

@sometimesalways is there a possibility to transfer 2 embryos? My doc opted for 1 only. I'm ancient woman of soon to be 44 and she didn't want me to go through risks etc
Scan is booked 2 weeks today and I don't think pregnancy sunk in yet. I'm just getting on with my life. We've been in this position too many times and sadly ended badly. So right now, one day at a time! And hope for the best. Lost of meditation and positive affirmations in the meantime and the rest is up to the universe. Just hoping it's kind to me this time!

@sometimesalways I didn't have a blood test in the end, my GP said it wouldn't really show me if it's an ectopic pregnancy as some people have lower levels of hcg and still have a healthy pregnancy so I thought about it and decided there was no need for the extra stress tbh. It is what it is, I've gone through enough heartache to know that what will be will be so I'm just plodding along right now. I did however take another test and the test line was darker than the control line so I hope that means things are well. I have my scan next Thursday so we will see what happens. In the meantime I'm starting a new job on Monday so that will keep me occupied!

Thank you for thinking of me 💜 hope you get some answers next week at ur app x

@Hufflepuff1
I agree blood tests aren't really indicative of an ectopic- with both of my ectopics hcg was rising fast and more than doubling but both were live (had heartbeats)

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted exactly so I just thought there's no point in adding another factor for me to obsess over or get my hopes up because you just never know. Just taking each day as it comes and hoping for the best. 👌💜 How are you doing?

@Hufflepuff1 I agree too, this sounds like a sensible approach and if the line gets darker then that's good news! Great to hear you're doing well x

@Hufflepuff1
I've been doing OPKs to try and figure out when I might ovulate naturally and finally got a peak last night over a week later than I would normally

I'm hoping that means I should start my period 2 weeks from a today - I'm a serial planner and just want to have a rough idea of dates for scans collection and transfer in my mind

I'm hoping the clinic will be quieter as any successful transfers next month = Xmas baby but I'm passed caring about that! 🤣

@sometimesalways and @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted how are you doing/feeling?

I'm still here and haven't joined any pregnancy or other related clubs. Well, said hi to one group as was tagged into it. It's still early days for me! And waiting for my 1st scan on 25th.
Feeling tired all the time. And nauseous here and there.

@Russkispy
Just trying to decide whether to start next cycle next week given the virus - Create have said it's business as usual but they won't charge for abandoned cycle and will do free freeze all's if I was to get sick/have to isolate during treatment

Didn't know where to go. Looks like I'm losing my baby. Started bleeding and pain today. Why should it all be good for me.