Anyone waiting to start IVF/FET in 2020?

[Lemongrass1]

As it says on the title really! Wondering if anyone else twiddling their thumbs and wanted to keep each other company?
Me- 40, was TTC for 4 years (unexplained infertility)- short protocol in 2018- fresh transfer resulted in an ectopic pregnancy followed by a successful FET later in the year. We have 8 frosties which we hope to use in another FET starting Feb/March 2020. First consultation next month. Feels so daunting to be starting the process again! X

Thanks @Rubyredwren and @Mischali... at the hospital waiting now, but told I am bottom of the list so will be a long wait. @Mischali** my clinic said they wouldn’t release me unless I had someone with me (my ER will be under general anaesthetic ) hoping yours isn’t the same but would be worth checking so there are no surprises for you. I have told my boss and family re IVF as for me personally I would find it too stressful navigating around it, and I couldn’t bear the smiles at me not drinking (I found it so hard when TTC that everyone permanently thought we were pregnant when I was not drinking in the 2WW/ for fertility reasons). However those I have told we have said we go into it with low expectations (to take the pressure off and also with my low AMH it’s pretty much true).... anyway....

Sounds like you are almost there @Rubyredwren! Good luck with all of the arrangements @Mischali* and @Minster2012*

@Mischali so turns out it’s not general anaesthetic at my clinic, it is sedation - sorry I gave you the wrong info (so maybe you would be fine to drive after all) - best to check though.

@Tryin4no2 I wasn’t even allowed to make a cup of tea after sedation 🙈
Hopefully your clinic won’t mind @Mischali. Or could get a taxi... although that’s more money added on.

How is everyone feeling? I’m getting so much anxiety just now. It’s about loads of things, but also how I will cope if I don’t fall pregnant? Or even if I do fall pregnant. I’m due back to work soon after maternity leave. So, it’s possible everything coming at once, and I haven’t been well. I’m going to download that mindful app!

Hope everyone else is ok x

@BeHereNowx32 it’s tough thinking about going back to work after maternity leave on its own (although I found the reality quite a bit better than I had built it up to be) - you have a lot going on - try to be kind to yourself and maybe try to just take each step at a time. That was working for me for a bit (just focusing at the stage in front of me)... Given my low AMH I feel like I am just doing this to rule out it working (so that in 10 years I don’t look back and think I should have tried). However, at other points I think I will always look back and wonder would another round have made the difference....so I’m not sure it will actually give me closure anyway.... lucky I will be sedated in a bit so I can stop thinking about it!

@BeHereNowx32 I’m going a bit crazy waiting for ET on Friday tbh, let alone then going into TWW. I’m going to struggle to keep busy the second week with toddler as all our usual activities that keep us going (& stop him whinging & needing to be carried around) stop for half term. Which is very annoying as we really want to wait the full time

Currently sat having my hair done though & going for a very drastic change to pink & purple not blonde to take focus away from other things!! Also had a lovely breakfast of smoked salmon & scrambles eggs & avacado as wont be able to have soon

@BeHereNowx32 - it sounds like you're getting anxious - do try some mindfulness or yoga maybe? I know how you feel with the anxiety - I think my DH is just convinced that this FET will work just because the last cycle worked, but I'm already convinced that it's not going to! I worry about how I'm going to cope of neither if these two embryos are good because this is really out last chance, but I just keep telling myself that it doesn't matter - we have two gorgeous babies and I just need to focus on being thankful for that. I'm not going to return to work so that's at least one less stress I have - need to hand my resignation in next week! On the plus side I'm 5dpo today and so far AF hasn't shown up so I'm really hopeful that 4 day luteal phase is going to improve 🤞
@minster2012 the hairdo sounds fab! Do whatever it takes to take your mind off the TWW - it's the worst part of the whole process!

Ha ha the TWW isn’t til after Friday! But hey ho!

@Minster2012 just 2 more sleeps :) @Tryin4no2 how did it go? X @BeHereNowx32 anxiety does such a number on our health- bodily, mentally and emotionally the meditations that have been mentioned on here have helped me, I haven’t tried the fertility yoga yet but have had a little time to go to gym (very light exercise atm), mostly walking on the treadmill but it helps calm my nerves. Idk. I was ok today but bawling my eyes out yesterday- went to work at the new shop a bit and went out for lunch just to get out of my head and it helped. I think all the suggestions everyone has made sounds tremendously helpful. I know how you feel hun, hugs x
I will find out everything regarding ER at my appointment tomorrow... I have to be fine to drive at 16:30 in any case to fetch my son from school! Feeling a bit screwed!

@Mischali 2 more sleeps til a million more sleeps 😂🤣no I’m kidding, I mean til the dreaded lots more sleeps til finding out (that’s if we don’t get bleeding and so know in the mean time 😔)
But I’m a firm believer in mind over matter and so for you too, like me, I HAD to drive today with my eye so I did. And it was fine.
I HAVE to take my son tomorrow to my appointment and then onto MIL which is about 2 hours worth but hey ho has to be done so it will be done
We are strong women
We overcome

@Minster2012 you are a warrior! How is you eye?
Not only did I brush ds teeth and brush his hair in the parking lot this morning, I had to mop up a thousand milk spills (bottle) which he was flinging around in dr office over all the plastic vagina/uterus models AND he fell off his chair with a muffin clutched in his hand right as I was getting my cetrodide injection tutorial. Muffin crumbs spraying. Toddler screeching. My pants are down and my stomach is bleeding (because I twisted during injection when he fell). This alllll in front of an open waiting room filled with all the fertility patients. I seriously only realized my pants were still undone after soothing him, trying to mop up muffin pieces, trying to remember which meds bag to grab, oh lol! If I have no more kids he will still be absolutely worth being my one and only it just made me appreciate the moment!!
Everyone , I’m thinking of you and appreciate the support tremendously.
So my cd 9 follies: 12/13 at an average of 15mm. Including 3 on my surgery-damaged left ovary. Dr says it’s great considering my age and medical history. Started cetriotide this morning, what a stingy horror. ER most probably on Monday. Then we will see how many eggs and if there are any quality ones.

Oh and about driving home. My dr said it’s sedation (dormicum) not anasthesia but I will be asleep for the procedure (will wake up at 9). Lawfully he’s not allowed to let me drive but he said I can drive after 1pm as long as I don’t tell him about it lol. So we’re considering logistics and it looks like dh will drop me off, drive the hour back to drop ds off at preschool, drive the hour back to make sperm deposit and take me home, back to work, I get ds from preschool at 16:30.

@Mischali LOL that sounds like most of my life!! Hilarious I hope you are ok!

I just got a big lecture for taking my DS in for my 8.15sm progesterone blood appointment despite there being no one else in “we don’t allow children in as it might upset ppl & he might hurt you or be uncontrollable” I literally just had to say yes I’m really sorry trust me I didn’t want to bring him but I’ve had appointments every day this week so had to call in favours & this was the one we actually couldn’t. I figured 8.15am was the best we had no choice. 🤷‍♀️Oh well it’s done now, he happily munched a banana whilst my blood was taken so let’s hope I don’t have to go back for more progesterone later 🙄

I do totally understand the potential issues but we too struggle

Best wishes everyone n specially to @minster2012 for tomorrow..will pray for u..😊💕

Thank you very much @BOBSS how are you feeling?

@Minster2012 m feeling good..n coincidentally taken haircut after 3days of transfer..to feel good n distracted 😀😎

@BOBSS excellent!! It’s a good distraction!! Hope it makes you feel wonderful!!

@Minster2012 good luck for today!
@BOBBS sounds like you are coping with the tww well so far? Will you be testing early at all or only on your otd?
@CritterTamer how is that luteal phase so far?

@Minster2012 best wishes for today!

@Minster2012 - good luck for today!
@Mischali - I'm 7dpo today and no sign so far so I'm really happy that things are improving, thank you!

Thank you ladies! A horrible night not really sleeping last night & crampy but guess excitement mainly to blame, seemed weird last time DTD for a couple of weeks til we know too 😂😂

@CritterTamer that’s really good!! Yay from continued progress x

@Mischali hi..m trying my best..to be occupied in something or d other..I won't be testing early..as m on hcg injections every fourth day..31jan,4,8,12 Feb.. so testing early won't give me correct result..dts y otd is on 16th.. let's see😊😊
Your ER is scheduled on Monday right??

That’s positive news @CritterTamer! The waiting is hard @BOBSS, you are doing well to keep busy! Found out this morning that of my only 3 eggs collected only 1 has fertilised (day 2) so being realistic it doesn’t look that likely to get a blast... with these numbers not sure if it’s worth doing a second round.... 😔

@CritterTamer that’s good news!
@BOBSS ok that’s understandable, I just don’t understand why they are testing on the 16th if you are still getting an hcg injection on the 12th? I suppose they take those levels into account?
@Tryin4no2 sorry to hear that you didn’t get some better news. I hope that one embie surprises you! Xx
@Minster2012 waiting to hear from you.
Yes ER is scheduled for Monday so far; but will find out for sure at my appointment/scan tomorrow morning.

Hi! Sorry been chilling! So had ET this morning at about 11.45, I think all went well, our embryo thawed well though was 4CB 🤷‍♀️So prob not ideal but the embryologist seemed happy. So weird to think I’m now PUPO!! my dogs are looking at me like “why aren’t we walking again?!” But they’ll have to wait for OH to get back again!

@BOBSS what are the hcg injections? I thought the point was the body would then start to produce hcg if you are pregnant? We just wait now along with taking the meds! & I’m trying to check what I can & can’t eat having checked all my long list of medications with my team earlier 🤦🏼‍♀️