October 2019 cycle Buddies

[Pigeon84]

Hi all

There was already a thread for people cycling in October that i wanted to join but canny find it anywhere.

Im about to do my 6th (jeez) cycle of ICSI.
I already have a 4 year old DS from cycle number 4 and we decided we would try for a sibling.

Im currently just about to ovulate (getting the flashy smiley face on OPK) then i will start stimming on my next period at the start of October.

I had an awful cycle last November (my 5th) where i only got 2 mature eggs and non fertilised. This was because the wrong dose of drugs were given at the start of stimming.
So, with this slightly in the back of my mind, im still optimistic for a better cycle this time

Congratulations @LucyLucyT, how beautiful!, wow you have been through the mill. Nice to be home now so you can recover, get some rest, take care

@LucyLucyT

🎀 Congratulations she is absolutely beautiful 🎀

It’s a rough ride but the feeling you have now you just carnt explain can you.. the journey hey!

doesn’t matter everything you went thru when your baby is home in your arms... enjoy life hun now.. carnt believe it was me this time last year in hospital a full week cos inducing wasn’t working.. now I have a 12 month old madam and wouldn’t have it any other way x

12 month ago and now (always taking my phone off me hahaha 🤭👶🥰 x

Congratulations @LucyLucyT! She is beautiful. Shame about having to go through c section but hope you are recovering well.

How are you finding first few days/nights? I barely slept, he has jaundice so doesn’t want to eat much..got my milk and boobs absolutely killing me as full of milk he is not drinking they are leaking..can barely touch them..

How are you at 41trying? Have you had your scan?

Lovely pics @shazzz1xx

Aww lovely @shazzz1xx thanks!

@fool11 well she lulled us into a false sense of security on the first night as was really good but the last two nights she's decided to cluster feed from late evening until about 3am. Sometimes she's so worked up she won't latch on.
My mum and dad visited yesterday to meet her. I was in a bit of a state as convinced myself that she wasn't getting milk from me as wasn't passing much urine or stool however through the day this all changed and improved. My mum (retired midwife) checked and she latched on beautifully yesterday but like I say when she is all worked up and rooting like crazy I find it more difficult. I believe this is quite common at the 4/5 day point as they are trying to stimulate milk supply but I'm very tired! Hopefully it'll improve in the coming days.

Are you going to express to get some relief? I think if you are over engorged it makes feeding more difficult xx

How are @LucyLucyT? How is the little one? I’m so tired, feel I have no time for anything, didn’t even shower yesterday which is bad..last few days were busy, he has a jaundice but luckily it’s improving. Had a visit from midwife, she was very militant like, felt like I’m not doing things right, that’s why he was looking weight , she wasn’t nice at all..but yesterday another one came and was lovely, very reassuring and he is doing much better. Breast feel much better now that he started to eat..although they want him to feed for 20min but he keeps falling asleep so it’s a bit struggle. How is your little one feeding? Are you doing some kind of night feed or just on demand, when they wake up, every 2-3h? And he hates nappy chang, Omg he screams like crazy.

Having another visit today, they taking bloods for his test, will be interesting...

Have u decided on a name?

Thankyou ladies.. hope all is going well.. I carnt wait till Thursday my ikkle bubba is 1 then 😳

Little monkey into everything... loves cupboard doors at the moment.. I sit hear thinking I carnt believe I was in hospital been induced this time last year.. crazy so lucky for ivf to work, so lucky. x

Hey both,
@shazzz1xx are you having a little party or something? Guess it's not easy at the moment!

@fool11
Yes also exhausted but I probably have it a bit better than some! She cluster fed loads until the early hours on Monday and Tuesday night but the last two nights it's been better and she's fed every 2-3 hours.
She seems to be clustering again this morning, I've been feeding her since about 09:30 with just short breaks in between. It's like she's fighting going off to sleep! Mind you she's just fallen asleep latched at the moment, maybe this will finally be nap time?!
People say to sleep when they sleep but I honestly wouldn't be able do anything but be a milk supply for her if I did that. I managed to get about 6 hours on and off overnight which could be a lot worse.
I do find latching difficult, sometimes it take several attempts but I'm gradually learning.

Sorry you had a bad time with the midwife but glad you then saw a better one. You are doing brilliantly, breastfed babies tend to lose more weight but it'll pick up as you find your way. Keep going x

I'm definitely going through baby blues at the moment, tearful on and off, she's amazing but feel like I'm missing my relationship with my partner already but know it'll get better.

I had to go to the midwife led unit for her 5 day check as they were short staffed. I was surprised she only lost 6% of her weight, I thought it would be more. She had her heel prick test and a good kick and scream!
I had my stitches out (I had one long one that went all the way through the wound) it doesn't look too bad but I'm full of wobbly bits because of previous weight loss and now obviously pregnancy. I never wore bikinis before anyway! Just don't like the way my tummy hangs down so much, hoping it'll tighten up a little in time.

I feel terrible but we still haven't got the name sorted, there seems to have been no time! My partner's mum visited yesterday and she was here for several hours which is difficult, but she had to travel nearly 3 hours to get to us because of traffic on the journey. I found it tiring though.

@LucyLucyT

Yeah having a buffet with the works at my mums we have probably gone over board with presents but we always were going to lol.. this is what it’s all about lol.. you will never recover now you will be forever tired lol it’s hard work and now I carnt even turn my back as she’s always into something now she crawls and pulls herself up on everything
but couldn’t imagine life without her.. isn’t it lovely not having ivf hanging over you now.. unless you decide to do it again lol xxx

I’m trying to do 2-2.5 h where I can, problem is he eats for few min and falls asleep, so keep waking him up all the time..midwife wants him to feed for 20min which is a struggle..I fed my first 18 times a day..midwifes kept saying do on demand..it was awful..I haven’t slept for months and months..
I’ve been with my partner for 15y and after having our first wanted to divorce him within 2w...hormones all over the place, overtired etc..it’s hard..but it does get better (but had a word with him...we got through it)..
It’s harder now as when he falls asleep my 5y needs some attention too so no down time for me...but they are so worth it..so grateful the ivf worked for us, at my age, we are so blessed to have him.

He had his 5d prick test today, he was very good, I started to feed him and he didn’t even notice. Screamed like crazy when they weighted him as doesn’t like clothes off..

I know what u mean about MIL, it’s exhausting..in a weird way glad we can be shielding and not having visitors.

I would like to be shielding but we kind of gave in a bit with it. His mum is sensitive about things as it is. It's because my partner's brother and his wife were not very keen to let her visit when they had children a few years ago (when she had traveled to Israel to see them!) So feel we are now having to make up for that experience and manage her anxieties which I could do without.

I didn't mind my parents coming as I know they have been shielding. His mum says she has been really careful etc. Wish I could be a bit stronger about it but it's difficult saying my parents can visit and no one else....argh!

Sorry you are having a hard time with the feeding. Does skin to skin help wake him up? It's difficult with the jaundice as well I imagine.

I honestly don't know how you do it with another child! I'm lucky my partner is being amazing, so pleased he has another two weeks off after this week as well.

Enjoy the buffet @shazzz1xx

Maybe your partners brother had reason why he restricted her visits...but yes u can’t let your parents visit and not his..

Skim to skin makes him more comfortable and he could sleep like that for hours.,.

It’s a battle, sometimes feel really bad as don’t have time for my dd, so trying to squeeze in as much as I can. My husband is great and helps with everything but it is tough, many time’s I feel I must be doing something wrong as other mums looks after kids, house etc and still have time meet with friends for coffee ...I never had time for that..

Oh well, another night ahead..hope we will get some sleep 😄

How was your night last night @fool11?
My little one slept reasonably well but I was hoping I might get her to nap a couple more hours this morning so need to have a snooze at some point later.

She's still clustering, but luckily seems to most be from morning to early afternoon.

Really hoping to get out the house today, planned to yesterday but it didn't happen in the end. Where does the time go?!

Don't feel bad about your DD, soon you'll be able to spend more time with her x

It was ok, got about 2h if sleep , could be worse..but do feel tired..no chance to nap during the day, was hoping to have a nap this morning but he’s been up and crying most of the morning, just feeding him and hoping he will sleep for a bit, so I can have some lunch and strong coffee, really need it.

Are you doing the bcg vaccine for the little one? When u say cluster feed, how often do u feed her?

How was the MIL visit?

are u using some app to track the feeds?

I think I need an app because I keep forgetting which side I fed on last!
BCG is only available for people who come from at risk countries nowadays or in certain parts of London (I work with a TB nurse and hear her explaining this to lots of people!)

So with the cluster feeding, within a few minutes of her coming off she starts lip smacking, chewing her hands and rooting again and wants to feed again straight away. She does it for a good few hours each day at the moment.
At some point in the day she will have a couple of 3 hour sleeps.

Finally left the house today, my partner and I went for a walk with her in the pram, was nice to get out!

MIL was okay but she stayed a bit longer than I would've liked, it's tricky because she had a delayed journey getting here and wanted to wait for better traffic to go home, but I found it a bit tiring after a while.

Same here, keep forgetting which one I did last and at what time he ate. I’ve downloaded free baby tracker, it’s ok, you can select left or right, pause, add notes, does also nappies and sleeps, only annoying things is that the screen doesn’t stay on..

How are you doing@LucyLucyT? How is the little one? Sleeping at night?

How was your scan @41trying? Hope you are well.

Hey @fool11 we're doing okay thanks. She still does little cluster feeds most days for 3-4 hours but in between that she is settling better. Last night she slept well and actually went nearly 4 hours at one point. I know that's a little long but she definitely makes up for it the rest of the day!

How is it going for you? xx

Just checked in again, congratulations guys!! So cute!! Its so nice seeing that it can actually work and you guys have babies now! its giving me a little more faith in my upcoming cycle!

Thanks @Mseddy!

It's hard work that's for sure, I knew that was the case but don't think you ever realise how hard it is until you are in the thick of it! My little lady likes to feed a lot, I'm trying to work out whether she has reflux, hard to know what you're doing when it's your first!
Although I moan, she is lovely and I know it gets easier with time and we figure each other out a bit more.

Best of luck with your cycle, really hope it's successful for you.

Thank you &Mseddy. As @LucyLucyT said it is hard work but would not change it for anything. Still can’t believe he is here and how lucky we were. Hope all goes well for you x

Have you decided on a name @LucyLucyT?
My first had a reflux, we had a scan to check it when she was I think 3w old..it’s hard work , even without reflux. We’ve been busy last few days, had to go for check ups and also had midwifes visiting as he hasn’t gained weight since he lost it after birth..I’m BF and looks like he doesn’t eat much, he keeps falling asleep after 4-6 min and struggle to wake him up. Tried to express some milk but barely got anything. For myself yesterday nature bind silicone pump to catch the let down milk, hopefully it will improve. Midwife thinks he might have posterior tongue tie so might need to see consultant. Feeding is a struggle. Had to top up with formula so he is not hungry. Otherwise he is great, I’m just so tired. Not complaining ,it’s what we wanted and it was actually much harder with my first..hope you are keeping well x

@fool11 sorry to hear the BF is not straightforward at the moment. Even though I worry I'm doing something wrong all the time, I think I am actually doing okay with it really. It's not just she sends to have periods every day where she wants to eat all the time.
Trying infacol to see if she winds better, not sure it's made much difference yet but will try it for a few days before deciding whether to continue or not.

I saw these things called Medela cups which you can put on the breast you are not feeding off to catch any other let down.
I'm not really getting much in the way of overspill as such, only very occasional which I'm pleased about so far!

Yes she does have a name now! Her name is Erin :-)

I'm doing okay, still up and down emotionally at times but definitely think I'm improving.

Hope you don't have to wait long to see if he has a tongue tie.

xx

[quote LucyLucyT]@fool11 sorry to hear the BF is not straightforward at the moment. Even though I worry I'm doing something wrong all the time, I think I am actually doing okay with it really. It's not just she sends to have periods every day where she wants to eat all the time.
Trying infacol to see if she winds better, not sure it's made much difference yet but will try it for a few days before deciding whether to continue or not.

I saw these things called Medela cups which you can put on the breast you are not feeding off to catch any other let down.
I'm not really getting much in the way of overspill as such, only very occasional which I'm pleased about so far!

Yes she does have a name now! Her name is Erin :-)

I'm doing okay, still up and down emotionally at times but definitely think I'm improving.

Hope you don't have to wait long to see if he has a tongue tie.

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"It's not just she sends" is meant to say: It's just she seems!

That’s a lovely name @LucyLucyT! Really like it. My hormones are over the place too, I get terrible night sweats too, I wake up all sweaty , my pjs wet.
Found a specialist tongue tie midwife , she is coming to see him today, have to pay private as on nhs it would take ages. I’m absolutely exhausted from last 48h, been just feeding, expressing and trying to catch the let downs , non stop. Not having much luck with expressing, getting tiny amounts after his feeds, like 5mls etc leftover, don’t know how to stimulate it more that there is more, there just don’t seem to be enough. They are coming to weight him again today, will see what they say. So tired from this BF palava, have no time for my daughter and feel really guilty about it. Gonna give it few more days , expressing and if it doesn’t improve will have to stop..can’t go like this for a long time.

Glad to hear you are all well x