The TMI April onward IVF thread

[AliceAbsolum]

@hopingforbabyd @pleaseletitbeme @phreedam @westywoo @mouse1234567 @viletta @hoping1 @twiglet2353

A bunch of April IVF ladies onto another round. Graduates and waiters we like hearing from you too.

I'm so sorry to hear that @mouse1234567. Take time xx

I had one egg collected, but a phone call later to say it wasn't mature enough. Bit gutted but also was aware the chances were slim. Hope everyone keeps going strong x

@WorriedButterfly Oh I'm sorry that must be so dissapointing. But at least you know you did what you could. What's next for you?

Yeah I needed to do it. I don't feel too bad today, sure it will catch up with me. Not sure what's next, clinical review on Tuesday, not sure whether to give it one last blast, on Monday they seemed pretty positive it was the wrong dose and I could do better next time.

@mouse1234567 I'm so sorry.. let us know how you get on. Your hcg was so good.. do you have anything in the freezer? Give yourself lots of rest. Hugs xx

@mouse1234567 so sorry to read your update! How are you doing? Thinking of you.

@WorriedButterfly sorry to hear about your only egg. Hope you had a good follow up meeting next week.

How's everyone else doing?

AFM, am flying to my clinic tomorrow and transfer is on Saturday. Can't believe we're almost there! It's been a journey and a half with failed IUIs, IVFs with my own eggs, trisomy in 18, 3 MCs. Big sigh 😔

@WorriedButterfly I am sorry to hear your update, did they alter your dose from last time? I hope you get some answers from the review meeting

@mouse1234567 I am really sorry to hear your update too, sending hugs xx

@Russkispy fingers crossed for a smooth transfer and a speedy tww!

@Russkispy good luck with your transfer today! When are you flying back?

Here i am, lovely ladies. All went well! Lining was 9.28. Blast thawed out without any issues. Planted in a perfect place, my doc held my hand and said a little prayer, then had IV drip and acupuncture. Loaded with drugs and on my way to the airport. Again. Haha was told to do HCG on 28 and 30 October but dad is coming next week and it will be tricky for me to go to London. So will do FRER and HCG after he leaves. Let’s just hope it’s all good news at the end!

That was a little angel above my bed at the clinic, translating - I’m your guardian angel 👼

It felt a little weird during transfer. I know it’s not 100% my blast but it had my name on it when the embryologist dished it out and inserted into a catheter. But it’s my baby! All being positive, will carry and nurture it for 9 months! There’s no fear or worry but just want it to be BFP and consequently a healthy baby. Or two. Hmmm

Congrats @Russkispy really hope your tww flies by. Your doctor sounds lovely! Safe flight.

@Russkispy Sounds like an idyllic transfer! Congratulations on being PUPO. Wishing you a very speedy 2ww with your embryo which is very much yours! Families and love don't have to have anything to do with genetics. Have you read "three makes a baby - parenting your donor conceived child"? It's a good read.

@mouse1234567 How're you doing? What was the outcome of the scan?

I'm nearly ready to fly tomorrow. Got a cold and it's still forecast thunderstorms all week, so trying not to angry and self pitying about that.
Ovaries are quite painful which is great! Hopefully the stims and dhea are doing their thing. Weirdly enough my skin is quite dry 🙄

I was problem solving future possible problems yesterday (rarely wise) and was looking into surrogacy. DH isn't keen on embryo adoption, so perhaps straight/traditional surrogacy is an option. I'm waiting on some compensation which might cover the cost.
I don't know. No real point thinking about it at this stage.

@AliceAbsolum I have everything crossed for you. How irritating with the cold-rest up today and hopefully it will passes soon. When is EC? Know what you mean about looking up other options -I had a look at some adoption insta accounts and def would consider surrogacy -although itsso spenny isn’t it!

I’m getting on ok -pretty much confirmed miscarriage tho as my doubling rate of HCG is 5.2 days in week 5. Have to wait till the scan on a Friday which is annoying as I would like to come off the meds and speed it along. Slightly fearful of the miscarriage to come -just want it done really -also quite a bit further along than last time and that still took a month so god knows how long this will go on for. I’m worried early miscarriages is going to become a pattern for me -but trying to be positive. Booked an appointment at a private clinic to discuss next cycle and looking at access fertility options. Think I might look into miscarriage tests -can’t imagine I will have another transfer until after Christmas so will try and use the time for investigations. Quite nervous about now having to pay (so grateful I had two NHS rounds -I know lots of people aren’t so lucky). It’s an extra element of stress isn’t it! I am excited tho that I can get an appointment quickly and out of work hours when you are paying! And that I can ask more questions and have s more personalised treatment.

Hope everyone is ok.

@Russkispy glad to hear you had such a lovely transfer! Hope all goes well for the next 9 months! Xxx

Last night I was sat in an uninsured very expensive hire car in a side street of Nicosia, injecting myself while watching DHs phone battery die without a map. The bloody car hire doesn't cover you across the border in northern Cyprus! 😩

It's currently thunderstorming and I've cried thrice. IVF abroad is 😭

But clinic was great, very efficient. I've got 3 follicles so probably get 2 eggs, a bit of a shame but not a surprise. I should think we will probably just transfer the donor ones as clinic prefer day 5 transfer even on a tandem cycle, we shall see.
EC booked for Thursday morning. Might go for a run, cba.

How's everyone else? Xx

@AliceAbsolum i though I was reading a plot to an action movie! Hope the transfer goes well and you have stress free journey back home.

I'm traveling to Czech next week for ERA, probably in my own so we don't need to worry about leaving the dog. Not looking forward to traveling to Bristol-Prague-Brno and right back but booked all week off so will be chilling and enjoying time with friends. It looks like FET is going to be in January for me, plenty of time to loose some weight. I'm 28 BMI at the moment which is the heaviest I've ever been in my life!

@viletta That's a journey! Although I really disliked Stansted to Brno too. Hope it goes quickly.

Ladies!! Have you been watching "Alex Jones - fertility and me" on W this evening?! My goodness, I absolutely felt so proud of each and every one of us on this forum and those who are going through and have been through IVF and all the horrible bits in between. Wishing those in the tww a speedy couple of weeks and to keep the faith xx

@AliceAbsolum oh dear, hope there have been no more hire car disasters or thunderstorms!!

Best of luck for EC tomorrow, let us know how you get on xx

How are you doing, ladies? I am listening to a fertility podcast and there is an interesting episode about mental health during IVF and how important it is to take care of ourselves. There is a higher risk of post natal depression after IVF apparently as the women power through the tough journey of IVF and finally let themselves relax mentally when the baby comes and sometimes the mind catches up on all the stress we went through. Are you guys doing anything for your mental health? They suggested councilor or time for yourself such as reflexology, acupuncture, etc.. I feel like I'm quite faraway from this. What are your thoughts?

EC is done. No idea how many they got because they haven't let me know. Embryoscope was full so we couldn't have that. Not best pleased. But the procedure went OK and I can look back and say I did all I could to have a child with my dna.

Look at my meds protocol! I was surprised when they brought it all in. Last 2 times I was just on half the amount of progesterone. Weird.

How can I lie down for 30 min mid morning and mid afternoon?! (progesterone)

@AliceAbsolum well done! Yes, exactly! How are you supposed to do that?!
Progesterone makes me high for a short while, would love to lie down till it passes but how when at work!

@AliceAbsolum hope you get an update on the eggs soon! I was in that dose of progesterone (plus injections - my levels were low!) during FET. They allowed me to do it in 2 doses though, 2 at once in the morning and 2 at once at night.

@Viletta interesting - I can see how that can happen. I have to admit I'm not doing anything in particular at the moment, I'm just focussing on starting the next cycle

@AliceAbsolum I'd try to sit down rather than running around then.. I had my progesterone last time at 11 in the morning and 11 pm. So had to do it at work in the morning. Glad to hear all went well! Hope this time it'll be a success!

I'm just going to shove 2 in when I get back from work about 4.30pm, I can't live my life around pessaries!

@viletta I have ptsd and I'm a mental health professional so I put my mental health first. I'm lucky enough to have the reserves to do this currently, but that comes with reducing stress levels at every available opportunity.

Roller-coaster today. Found out my egg didn't fertilise so that's it for my DNA. But 10 of the donors did, so that's brilliant.