July/August IVF/ICSI/FET

[TinyPaws]

Hi everyone,

Thought I'd start a thread for those of us undergoing fertility treatment in July/August.

I'm (hopefully) having a FET late July/early August, anyone else want to hop on this thread for the ride?

OMG YAYYYYY @Marmite83 !!! That is so so exciting. Let us know after you see the clinic, but given it’s test day, that sounds pretty cut and dried :D
Absolutely thrilled for you 🎉🎉🎉

@Marmite83 Yes!!! You’ve broken the bad luck run! That is fantastic news! Best of luck with the blood test. 16 days later, that is not the HCG shot! I’m delighted for you!!!

@Marmite83 that’s absolutely amazing news. Congratulations!! That def won’t be the trigger xx

@Marmite83 oh that's wonderful, congratulations!! We all needed some good news. Definitely not the trigger shot. I am so happy for you!

(I chickened out and never tested this morning I am afraid. I am not too scare to! Haha
but tomorrow is otd so I will have to)

Not to jinx anything too early, but I was just thinking we need some kind of alumni group from this experience, so those who (everything crossed) go onto have babies can share a baby photo in nine months. I feel so invested in your (possible) babies that I’ll feel a bit like a proud auntie.

Hi everyone, can I join in please? I’m currently in the 2ww after a FET last week. I’m 8dp5dt. Planning to hold out until OTD on Saturday and I need some moral support!

I don’t feel like it has worked and am feeling really down about it all. Trying to stay positive but it’s hard.

Congratulations @Marmite83 on your positive test! Will have a read back through the thread now and see what stage you’re all at.

Welcome @elleceedee and good luck to you on your tww.

I’m 1dpt. Trying to turn off my emotions to the whole thing today as cried a fair amount yesterday. Just await on the call from the clinic with the update on my two remaining embryos to see if they were able to freeze anything. Yesterday they doubted there would be anything to freeze.

First time I'm posting on here - I always figured mumsnet was for mums and, not being one yet, it wasn't for me.

Our journey:
3 years trying
1 failed ICSI round (2 frozen embryos)
1 attempted FET with a natural cycle but had to be cancelled as I ovulated on the Tuesday.
Started oestrogen tablets for medicated FET today. Slightly baffled that it's medication for menopause but I've got faith in the system!!

I've been a bit lost in it all if I'm honest, not many of my friends have even tried to conceive yet so it's difficult for them to know what to say. I started a blog recently, not particularly for anyone else but more to help me process and get my head around it. alittleblobofhope.home.blog if anyone's interested.

Good luck to anyone going through this at a similar time.

Welcome @fingersforevercrossed and good luck with your FET.

I just had a call from the clinic to say we have nothing to freeze. They confirmed yesterday’s embryo was an expanding blastocyst. Apparently when they’re expanding they don’t grade them as B it’s only A or C. Mine was a C. So not off to an amazing start but who knows what will happen.

Welcome new joiners :)

@elleceedee - my OTD is also Saturday, so we can be test buddies. I had a fresh transfer last Tuesday morning.

@Peanut1980 so so sorry you didn’t get any Frosties. Everything crossed for the one that’s gone in. Remember grading doesn’t really matter, they all say that poorer graded ones can take and AA’s can fail.

@Marmite83 how did the official clinic test go?

How is everyone else doing?

@Peanut1980 good luck with your embryo! Here’s hoping it’s a good sticky one, lots of lesser grading ones make it. Sorry you didn’t get any Frosties though.

@Marmite83 congratulations!!!! That’s brilliant! A lovely positive bit of news for the thread!

@sometimesalways good luck for tomorrow. everything crossed.

@Caityprice how’s the 2ww going for you? You’re so good holding out and not testing!

Really sorry for all those that have had bfn this week, it sucks. Really really sucks. There are no words to adequately describe it.

I’m on day 5 of stimms today, feeling so much less positive than my last cycle. I feel rough and bloated already, my anxiety is sky high. Super sorry for myself today, kinda looking forward to work on Thursday just to take my mind off everything.

@Peanut1980 fingers crossed for you!

Looking forward to being around people who actually know what we're going through!

@Brambles7 sorry you’re having a rougher time of stimming this time. I wish there was a magic way to know the outcome of the process, and then it wouldn’t be so hard to go through the horrible side effects and anxiety! Keep breathing, and enjoy something nice? Like a good trashy movie or magazine or an ice cream. My husband bought my favourite chocolates for me throughout stimming, but I was allowed just one chocolate after every injection to make them last 😂

The TWW is killer. I just absolutely fell to pieces ten mins ago sobbing at the end of a movie that hubby picked because he thought it would be all action and nothing girly or involving kids. How wrong he was - I can cry in anything right now! I’m basically emotional, cranky, nauseous, tired, sore boobed, distracted, impatient and anxious. Oh and how could I forget constipated from the cyclogest! But you know. Four sleeps to go...

@fingersforevercrossed it is very nice chatting to people who know exactly what you’re going through. No matter how well meaning my family or friends are (the ones we’ve told) they just don’t get it at all. In this thread, nothing is TMI, and no one will judge you for however you feel, or try and tell you unhelpful cheerful things about how great IVF stats are these days 😂

@sometimesalways
Good luck for tomorrow, I think it’s OTD?

Anyone else testing this week?

@Caityprice just 4 sleeps! Sorry you’re feeling the 2ww - it’s an absolute killer. And those hormones!! I hope that they’re all good signs for you though. Funny how the hormones just make you cry at anything & everything! I hope your hubby gave you loads of hugs.

We’re sitting on the sofa watching Friends episodes tonight to cheer me up. And trying to chug back the water which I know does helps. I sailed through the first cycle with hardly any probs. Not so this time!

@Fingersforevercrossed its always good to talk through things with people who know what it’s like. I don’t think ivf is something anyone can understand unless they actually do it. This forum has been a lifeline for me, even though I mostly just lurk it helps me feel less lonely.

@Caityprice Four more sleeps! I'm super emotional too, I think it's the hormones. My partner has been playing/singing songs to be and I keep feeling myself welling up.

@elleceedee Welcome! Fingers crossed for you, you never know until you test.

@Fingersforevercrossed Welcome! Here's hoping this cycle is your cycle.

@Peanut1980 Sorry you didn't get any to freeze but glad you've got the most promising looking embryo safely on the mothership.

@Brambles7 Sorry you're feeling anxious and bloated. Hopefully work will give you something else to focus on.

I haven't had any further bleeding and tests are getting slowly darker. I still can't quite believe this might end in a baby. Official test day is Thursday. Tomorrow is the due date of the short-lived pregnancy that resulted from our fresh cycle last November so it's an emotional time!

Thanks so much everyone, you've all been so lovely, this thread has been an a bit of a lifeline. I still can't quite believe it and pretty terrified it won't work out but I guess time will tell.

@Caityprice, clinic confirmed the bfp following my blood test. They also said my progesterone is a little lower than they'd like so I have to start taking crinone as well as cyclogest, one in each hole, twice a day, lovely! I also have to keep taking the Inhixa injections which I didn't realise. Have a blood test on Monday to check if my progesterone levels are better so fingers crossed.

@Brambles7 water is the best thing. Every morning during stimming I would wake up feeling horrendous, drink a litre of water and feel way better. Bloated and uncomfortable - but better!

@tinypaws only two sleeps for you!!!! Everything crossed that line stays strong and dark!

@Marmite83 - amazing!!!! Although two pessaries every time?!?!?! I’m dying just thinking about it. At least you can concentrate on that BFP with every, ahem, insertion!

@Caityprice @Brambles7 thank you! Yes tomorrow is otd. I am not feeling hopeful. My premenstrual cramps are getting worst and very familiar, I don't remember getting anything like this with my first pregnancy. I am convinced it hasn't worked this time, call it a feeling... I am actually scared of testing. But will report back in the morning.

@Marmite83 that's amazing!! Send me some good luck (even if it means more pessaries ha)

@TinyPaws you are almost there! And all sounding so positive, hang in there

I've got everything crossed for you @sometimesalways. Sending you lots of luck (and hopefully not so many pessaries!)

Thanks for the welcome, it’s really good to be able to chat to people going through the same thing.

@Peanut1980 sorry you didn’t have any embryos to freeze but hopefully the embryo you have on board is getting cosy! I find the whole grading system used by clinics completely baffling and it seems so subjective. Grading is really not the be all and end all of predicting a successful outcome anyway so I wouldn’t worry about your C graded embryo. Good luck with the 2ww!

@sometimesalways good luck for OTD today, hoping the cramps etc aren’t a sign of your period coming and you get a positive.

@Caityprice glad to have an OTD buddy! My transfer was on Monday last week. I feel like I’ve been through every emotion possible since transfer - from being absolutely certain it has worked and looking at baby stuff online etc to being in floods of tears thinking it will be a bfn. So unlike me to cry and so poor DH doesn’t quite know what to do! I haven’t got any tests in the house as I know I’ll be tempted to test if they’re in the house...just got to be patient!

@Marmite83 congrats again! I winced when you said about two lots of pessaries - I’m on cyclogest three times a day and that’s bad enough! Good that your clinic are monitoring your progesterone levels.

@TinyPaws that’s great that you haven’t had any more bleeding and the lines are dark - sounding good for OTD tomorrow! I understand it’s difficult thinking about what would have been milestones from previous pregnancies, especially during the 2ww when emotions are all over the place anyway. Can I ask when you started testing? Did you get a positive straight away?

@Brambles7 stims is tough, just keep drinking loads of water (I see this has already been suggested!) and be kind to yourself.

I’m feeling really down this morning, wishing that I had a test in my house to put me out of my misery. I’m starting to regret not testing and feeling stupid for feeling positive that it might have worked because today I just don’t feel that it has at all. What a rollercoaster!

Best of luck today @sometimesalways

Thanks ladies.

Fingers crossed for @sometimesalways 🤞🤞🤞

@elleceedee you’re so close to your test date. For my last pregnancy I test at 7dp5dt and got a faint positive. I’m rubbish at surprises and always test early. I test today at 2dp5dt to check if the trigger has gone and it has. So if I do cave before my OTD and get a BFP then I know it’s not the trigger. So I guess my advice would be if you want to test then do it BUT if it’s a BFN then understand that’s it’s still got time to change. It’s a tough journey so do whatever eases the ride.

I’ve just weighed myself. I’ve put on 5 bloody lbs since starting this cycle 😩😩😩 I’m a complete gym bunny but have knocked that on the head for this cycle based upon advice from my consultant. Plus I’m on steroids 🙈

Oh thank you all so much! Sadly it was a bfn. I am so annoyed with my body, and disappointed. I am going to have a nice cry to get it out of my system.

I am going to call the clinic and book a follow up. We need to decide if we want to do this again...

I’m so sorry @sometimesalways. Big hugs to you. Have a big cry and let it all out. It’s so tough xxx