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July/August IVF/ICSI/FET

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TinyPaws · 27/06/2019 15:08

Hi everyone,

Thought I'd start a thread for those of us undergoing fertility treatment in July/August.

I'm (hopefully) having a FET late July/early August, anyone else want to hop on this thread for the ride?

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Dlpdep · 11/08/2019 21:02

@TinyPaws I was just reading back over your messages and we are in a very similar situation right now. My poke around was just as interesting as yours! The things we do.

confused107 · 12/08/2019 06:34

So this morning is OTD and it's officially a BFN. I'm feeling ok, I'm grateful that I tested early and had the weekend to comprehend the result.

DH has been amazing and booked for us to go away the next two weekends. To woolacombe this weekend to camp with a nice group of friends. Bless him he spent hours yesterday trying to find Friday to Monday flights for somewhere sunny for the BH but couldn't get anything so he is taking me 'to a nice hotel in Blackpool' he ha suggested lots of fun and eating and drinking what we want and just spending time together. Hell we might even DTD for fun!

I don't know how you all feel, but this was our first attempt at IVF and I feel like Ive lost myself a little in the process, didn't want to tell friends so I've kind of avoided them, stopped drinking so just didn't go out, I have even cut down on things I would normally do all the time like getting my nails done and my hair blow dryer as I was spending so much money on acupuncture, vitamins, personal trainers you name it. I think even work has suffered as all I have thought about for months is getting pregnant

I'm grateful that my marriage has proved good. If anything we are stronger than ever. We have had some frank chats over the weekend about what we really want and how we might feel in five years time if we give up now and don't have a family, or the affect it could have on us physically, emotionally and financially if we keep going.

Apart from thinking about something else for a while we have no firm plans yet. The only factor identified in our fertility was my low AMH, so we would like to test this again to see how it's dropping and how much time we have. If I'm being honest, I'm not sure I can go through this all again just for another stab in the dark so we want to hear from the clinic what we could do differently for a better result before going again. We would consider donor eggs if that's our best chance

Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks to you all for your wonderful support over one of the worst times of my life. We haven't told anyone in real life so having you guys has saved my sanity. I wish you all the luck and baby dust in the world. I hope to read lots more positive news on here, and in the nicest possible way never see you on another infertility post again! Xxxxx

sometimesalways · 12/08/2019 06:53

@confused107 I am so sorry to hear that. It's such a stressful process and so so tough not to get the desired result. Going away is a great idea. Take your time to check options. Maybe get a second opinion from a different clinic too?

I have a feeling that I will be following suit with a bfn. I just don't feel pregnant at all and lots of pre period cramping. I am flying back to uK today and even though OTD is Wednesday 14th, I might test tomorrow morning...
@TinyPaws so glad to hear things seem to have stabilised. Keeping fingers crossed for you. I have had sore breasts and cramping but I think both those are due to progesterone and af coming.

Marmite83 · 12/08/2019 07:35

Thanks @TinyPaws, glad things seem to have calmed down for you.

I'm so sorry @Confused107, sounds like you're dealing with it well though. And bless your dh for booking a couple of weekends away. Don't think my dh would think to do that.

Fingers crossed you're wrong @sometimesalways, we can be testing buddies tomorrow if you do.

I had an awful tummy again last night, just after inserting the progesterone pessary so hoping enough of it got into my system. I always get a bad tummy just before af is due so really hoping that's not why. Still not feeling very hopeful for test day tomorrow, hopefully just a self preservation thing.

Dlpdep · 12/08/2019 07:55

I’m 100% out as well. The witch arrived in force last night. I’m happier in one sense because there is no ambiguity.

@confused107 I’m really sorry to read your update. Your DH sounds lovely and getting away will do you good. It’s a shit time but boards like this one are so amazing because we are all going through the same thing at the same time and understand the emotions like no-one else.

We are long overdue some good news here. Best of luck to everyone testing.

Caityprice · 12/08/2019 08:48

Oh @confused107 and @dlpdep I am so heartbroken for you both. I agree this thread is due some good news and I’m so sorry it couldn’t have been for either of you. Life is horrifically unfair.

Big hugs.

sometimesalways · 12/08/2019 08:57

@Dlpdep oh no, that's crap. I am so sorry, goodness this is all very tough. Will you try again? I am thinking of trying a natural cycle if I can, if this one fails. On top of everything I just hate taking all those drugs

@Marmite83 good luck for tomorrow! Here's hoping for some good news

It is horrible that there are no rules and no guarantees with this ivf business. You do everything right and still don't know if you will get a result...

sometimesalways · 12/08/2019 09:35

When are you due to test @Caityprice ? Sorry, I am sure you said but I forget!

Marmite83 · 12/08/2019 09:35

So sorry to hear that @Dlpdep, better to be out of limbo but still heartbreaking. Good luck with however you move forward.

Caityprice · 12/08/2019 09:37

@sometimesalways on Saturday. Five whole days! Fingers crossed for everyone else testing this week.

Dlpdep · 12/08/2019 09:47

I’m just waiting for the clinic to ring back but I’d say it will be wait a cycle and FET for me. I’m not sure I was on enough progesterone support. But if it didn’t take I don’t know that that would make too much of a difference at this stage.

Peanut1980 · 12/08/2019 11:40

@confused107 @Dlpdep I’m so sorry to hear your news ladies. Big hugs to you both and best of luck with the rest of your journey xxx

orangefolly · 12/08/2019 12:30

Oh no @dlpdep and @confused107 so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourselves Flowers

@peanut1980 are you having your ET today?

I'm just on the ferry on the way back from a long weekend in France, lovely catch up with friends and actually got to drink wine because it was a freeze all cycle. Aunt Bitch is here, so hopefully hormones are normalising. I got a call from the clinic in France and got the most wonderful news: our genetic testing came back and 4 of our embryos came back genetically normal and another inconclusive. Twice as many as I was hoping for! This gives us loads of chances so I'm really pleased. Going to wait a cycle so we have a stress free holiday and then do FET.

Peanut1980 · 12/08/2019 13:04

@orangefolly that’s great news! Well done.

I’ve just got back from my transfer. It was emotional! I have three at blastocyst stage. One better than the others. They advised on two so they left my husband and I to have a ‘chat’ for which I burst into tears. Not because of how my husband feels but more to do with the decline of the embryos. Anyway, they actually don’t think the other two will make it to freezing and she said she didn’t think transferring two would give us that extra 10% chance. So we agreed on one and it’s back in there. Test date is 23rd August. I was feeling so much more positive about this cycle but I feel it’s just highlighted the issue with my quality of eggs.

orangefolly · 12/08/2019 13:16

Oh no @dlpdep and @confused107 so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourselves Flowers

@peanut1980 are you having your ET today?

I'm just on the ferry on the way back from a long weekend in France, lovely catch up with friends and actually got to drink wine because it was a freeze all cycle. Aunt Bitch is here, so hopefully hormones are normalising. I got a call from the clinic in France and got the most wonderful news: our genetic testing came back and 4 of our embryos came back genetically normal and another inconclusive. Twice as many as I was hoping for! This gives us loads of chances so I'm really pleased. Going to wait a cycle so we have a stress free holiday and then do FET.

Dlpdep · 12/08/2019 14:16

Clinic rang back and agree that it is likely to be a no. They want me to continue with the Crinone and test on Thursday anyway and then arrange a follow up appointment based on the results of that. I spoke to them about my concerns that o didn’t have enough progesterone support and they advised me to raise that strongly at the follow up though the Crinone 8% once daily is normally enough. There is a possibility that it could be ectopic or that there is pregnancy tissue somewhere it shouldn’t be.

Peanut1980 · 12/08/2019 16:22

I’m sorry @Dlpdep. I hope there isn’t an ectopic or more complications for you.

@confused107 I can totally relate to your post. I feel like I’ve lost some of myself in the process too. For the past 3 years of trying. Planning anything from starting a football team to planning a holiday is all overshadowed with what if I’ll be pregnant or where will I be in a cycle. We make so many changes to our lives and put so much on hold. This is our 2nd cycle as as heartbreaking as it is I very much doubt we’ll do a 3rd. If it’s egg quality as they suspect there’s nothing I can do and I’m not interested in donor eggs. I want to get back to being me and enjoying my life. Felt like I’ve just been going through the motions for so long. I will always be thankful for my DS.

Feel so emotional today 😢😢😢

Lola124 · 12/08/2019 18:11

Hi ladies I’m sorry to read that it hasn’t worked for some of you I can’t imagine how your felling I know I’m in a state and I haven’t even got to that part yet . Iv been for my 2nd scan today 7 days of gonal f 250 and my ovary is still hiding although she said it is accessible but the follicles are not that big so may be no good the other one has quite a few but one in particular has shot off so I may loose that one unfortunately my lining is thicking but not where it needs to be yet and hoping the rest of the follicles catch they have just upped my gonal f to 300 my question is can they just all is a sudden grow quick ? Iv got a scan on wed again I felt like one nurse was positive and saying that it’s coming along nicely and we may up meds and the other one was saying well if they don’t reach we’re we want them we can cancel and start again ??? Like it’s easy and cheap iv been so upset today and spent the day in bed with Tears and chocolate feeling like it’s over before it’s began?

Peanut1980 · 12/08/2019 18:27

@lola124 I’m sorry to hear you’ve been so upset today. They increased my gonal f for my first cycle and it did the trick. When are they next scanning you?

Peanut1980 · 12/08/2019 18:29

Sorry I’ve just seen you’ve got a scan on Wednesday. Fingers crossed for you. Let us know how you get on xx

Lola124 · 12/08/2019 18:47

@Peanut1980 thankyou hopefully they will have a little growth spurt .

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TinyPaws · 12/08/2019 21:05

@Dlpdep Ah so sorry AF seems to be here. I hear you about the progesterone support - surely you shouldn't have started bleeding so early? How long is your luteal phase normally? Glad that you have frozen embryos, hope you're looking after yourself. x

@confused107 So sorry it was a BFN. I totally get what you mean about losing yourself in the process - this past 2 years of investigations, treatments and miscarriages has almost destroyed me. I think most of us would willingly do whatever it took if someone could guarantee a baby at the end of it but unfortunately nobody can do that. Your DH sounds like a star and your plans for the weekend sound perfect. Obviously I hope you get your much longed for baby but more importantly I hope you have a happy and full life whatever happens. x

@Caityprice Good luck for Saturday!

@orangefolly That's great news! Amazing to think the beginnings of your future family could be in that freezer.

@Peanut1980 Sounds like a stressful day but glad that you've got one on board - that's the main thing at this point! I guess if either of the other two make freezing it'll be a bonus.

@Lola124 Fingers crossed the increased dose prompts a mass follicle growth spurt! Did they tell you how many millimetres the follicles are measuring? I think it's fine for your lining to be not quite there yet at this stage as you've got more days of stims to go. Hoping for some good growth by Wednesday.

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Marmite83 · 13/08/2019 06:30

4 is great news @orangefolly.

I hope you get a clear answer soon @Dlpdep and really hope it's not ectopic.

You've got one on board @Peanut1980 and that's the main thing. I've got my fingers crossed for you.

OTD for me today, POAS this morning and I'm in shock. Two dark lines!! Just praying it's not hcg left from trigger but surely it wouldn't be such a strong line 16 days after the trigger shot. Have to go to the clinic for the blood test this morning so just praying that confirms it. Don't know what to do with myself, just keep staring at the test stick.

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TinyPaws · 13/08/2019 06:39

@Marmite83 Big congratulations!!!

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confused107 · 13/08/2019 06:55

At last some good news! Massive congratulations @Marmite83, it gives us all hope xx