New year, new 'starting the journey' thread

[CloudSway]

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here

@Kelly199 thanks for being soo kind😚its soo true im alrite once i get up and out the house its just gettin up thats the hardest part! Lol missing my dog when i had her she kept me going i had no choice but to get up.. everything just seems pointless atm x

@2fingers22018 I'm on here to chat whenever you need 😘
I know what you mean. It is just the thought of getting up and doing it. Just do what you feel though.
Aww I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you must feel. I completely understand what you mean as they're just there when you're feeling shit.
Hope things will start to get better for you.
What's next for you know? Have you heard anything else? (Sorry if you've already said, last I remember is about the protocols) xx

Just checking back after a few days offline and so happy to see your news @squirrelnutkins1! Congratulations! And don't feel guilty.

Sorry you're feeling low @2fingers22018. Will they do your scan anyway?

We went to the fertility clinic today. All our results clear so think probably is just partner's ED issues. We are going to keep trying for 6 months and go back. She said we get 3 rounds of IUI and then one of IVF if we need it.

@Kelly199 thanks for listening x its alrite its hard not to get muddled up with whos who on here isnt it lol our tests showed theres nothing wrong..unexplained infertility so we re on a long waiting list for ivf @veeboo gd that your tests came back clear but sometimes it leaves you more frustrated doesnt it wish there was a magic pill we could just take!😔

@veeboo echoing @2fingers22018 really. Glad it's clear, but it is annoying that you're not told something that they can fix!! This is prob a stupid question, but have they said there's anything they can do/any advice to help with ed?

@2fingers22018 I know, I do get confused sometimes lol!
Just impatiently waiting then! Such an annoyance. Have they given you a rough timescale? X

Sorry about the bold lol

@Kelly199 6months give or take but i was told the last time it was a year long waiting list..soo frustrating and depressing feel like lifes just passing me by. My OH was trying to convince me to go a run with him today i cba i feel sorry for him im not fun to live with atm

Thanks @kelly199 @2fingers22018. To be honest I feel glad because we knew it would be the ED. it's good to know there is nothing else and I can encourage DP to try and get some support. They referred him to a clinic that give physical health and counselling support. That's one of the reasons we are going to give it 6 months. I've basically said I don't want to go through IUI unnecessarily. They also gave us some syringes so we could self disseminate if we end up in a situation like we did this cycle...sorry if too much info!

@veeboo no such thing as tmi on here lol thats gd that he feels able to use the syringe technique might take some pressure off fx x

@2fingers22018 I hope it'll be sooner than you think! It's horrible waiting all the time for something. I'm sure he understands why though. Fingers crossed it'll be much sooner than expected! Differs with different areas I think. Do you know where you're being sent? Is that who's told you the waiting times? Just thought if it wasn't them, maybe you could call?

@veeboo glad they're giving him some support. I suppose he feels terrible about it, bless. Hard on you too obviously with everything going on. Yes, understand about the IUI. Fingers crossed you'll have your positive before it comes to that. Anything that'll help! You could try that and see how it goes for you. Anything is worth a try. Perhaps he will feel better with that too knowing there's something you can try. Good luck xxx

Well I don't think he feels comfortable but we talked about how we'd rather do that if needed than miss a month if the alternative is IUI. Will just keep trying! Can I ask how long you've been trying before going for treatment?

@veeboo yeah, I know what you mean! Just do what you both feel is best.
Yeah no prob..I have been actively ttc for just over a year (last feb) and been on contraception for 3 years. Went to docs in Jan this year (private and nhs) as figured something was wrong x

Off contraception rather lol x

@Kelly199 yh 6mnths is for our area sadly @veeboo i know comfortable is prob the wrong word but its the lesser of 2evils if u know what i mean..weve been ttc for 3 1/2 yrs now. We started the ball rolling with tests about a yr ago, i put my head in the sand for a looong time before we got help.

@Kelly199 my OH is understanding but i feel like the poor guy needs a break as much as me,i try to keep up a front for him but this past wk has just been too much

@2fingers22018 shit that you have to wait. I wish I could make it easy for us all.
Yeah, I know what you mean. Sending hugs ❤️

@Kelly199 thanks im having a major pity party today hugs back❤

@kelly199 aww thanks for your lovely reply! I think once I get he first one done it will be ok (she says lol) x
@squirrelnutkins as Kelly said please don’t stop commenting on we are all here through the good and the bad times so we are happy to hear updates x
@2fingers22018 sorry to hear you are feeling down. Did you manage to find your energy to clean the house! Big hugs to you x

@2fingers22018 nobody is judging you for it either. Hope you'll feel better ❤️

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF yes, I hope it will be! ❤️

@ChloH99 I'll catch up on other posts later but while loading the dishwasher I had a thought! When I originally went to the docs about us struggling, I checked the website and picked a gp with an interest in Gynae/fertility. I had to wait about 3 weeks for an appointment but it was worth the wait to see a lady, for starters and one with that interest x

@2fingers22018 I had a pity party on Sunday. I was just completely fed up. Don't beat yourself up, it will pass. I took a social media break for a few days which helped too.

@squirrelnutkins1 fab thanks! I'll have a look and see if I can find one at my docs! X

@CloudSway @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF @Kelly199 thanks for the lovely messages, so nice to feel like there's so much support here ❤️ think after a few more days thought we are going to definitely have a bit of a break! OH is in the army so trying to get tests done through their medical centre is a lot harder than just me going to my gp unfortunately! Guidelines for nhs are that tests can be carried out after a year, I think my gp just isn't very helpful but we are now thinking about going to an initial private appointment where I could self refer to an nhs fertility clinic if possible, I know a few girls from work that have done similar xx

@squirrelnutkins1 congratulations by the way! 💖 such an exciting time hope everything is going okay xx

@ChloH99 that's ok, always nice to have some support from people who understand ❤️
I'd definitely recommend doing that. At least you can have the initial tests done x