Missed miscarriage

[Monkeygirl1978]

40 yr old female
Lucky to get 5 embryos
Fresh transfer failed, no implantation, just bled on normal period date
Now we’ve just been for our viability scan having had a positive test at 2 weeks, and a good serum bHCG on bloods sent at the weekend. Had been having pregnancy symptoms but these stopped this week. Viability scan sadly showed this little tiny scrap, the sonography thought about 5 or 6 weeks of pregnancy where i should be 8 weeks, no heart beat. All they could say is come back in a week but I know it’s died.
My partner is trying to be very positive and optimistic but I knows it’s gone, and I am so disappointed and tearful. I am also scared as the clinic didn’t really say what’s going to happen - I guess I’ll start bleeding at some point? Or I might need some sort of procedure. I wasn’t really able to ask anything sensible and I feel a bit foolish for not knowing. I wanted to go swimming to help take my mind off it but I don’t want to bleed in the pool. Just really wish I’d have had more prescence of mind to ask

[Monkeygirl1978]

Sorry to hear that. It is tough. I’m doing ok on the whole, thanks for asking. It is a sad, frustrating disappointment. It’s made me reflect really, I thought I was prepared for IVF to be expensive, fraught with disappointments and failures, and that we may not get what we hope for. I didn’t think it would take a toll on my health, and feel like it was risking some of the really good things we have in our lives. I feel like I underestimated the whole thing really, and before we started trying i told myself at least if we tried and failed we’d know we’d done what we could. Now I kind of think if we hadn’t tried then at least we’d have the ‘what if’s’ and that would somehow feel more positive..

Still I guess it’s not over until we say it’s over.

You be kind to yourself

[Peanut1980]

Oh I’m pleased you’re doing well. I totally here what you saying. I had a big sob and cuddle with my hubby after I made the post. We’ve had sex since the miscarriage but hadn’t cuddled. It was very emotional and he’d told me that he’d missed me even though we hadn’t been apart. I feel I’d taken every for granted with the ivf treatment. I’m back at the clinic on Thursday for a consultation on what happened and what we’ll do for the next cycle. Hopefully a trip to the dr tomorrow and an appointment at the clinic this week will help with closure and moving on.

How many cycles have you signed up to? We’ve paid for two cycles. Had our first and hopefully have the 2nd in Feb.