Anyone else just starting their journey ?

[TTC73]

DH is going for his sperm sample to be tested today and hes so nervous and the GP wants me to have some blood tests done and swabs at a later date. So nervous of what to expect and terrified of the possibility of IVF I've heard its so painful ?
We've been trying to have a baby for over 3yrs with 2 chemical pregnancies so far

@TTC73 i know it feels like having a baby should be the most natural thing in the world so why is it soo bloody hard..dnt blame urself tho sometimes our hormones/bodies just need help. Im guilty of doing that too its hard not to isnt it? As long as u get ur baby at the end of it who cares how we all get there x

@TTC73 that is good news, really. fx for you - I hope the hormones are the fix you need!
I have my first appt coming up and I guess getting a nil result (no problems found) is my biggest fear. I could stand it if there's a problem that needed surgery or injections, but I'm morally stuck if it comes down to IUI or IVF. Been doing too much reading and they both include purposeful selection. Not sure I can square it up... feels rubbish. My DH would be devastated. He's doing well at staying upbeat. Maybe I could find a way around my dilemma. I'll avoiding thinking about it for now. At least until after we know more :(

@SpringLake that was my biggest fear aswell going into investigations but i have a tiny bit of comfort in the fact that most fertility problems lead to ivf, i know that sounds weird but it feels gd that at least i know i have ivf as an option. I thought with unexplained infertility they couldnt do anything to help you conceive. Feel free to private message me if ur nervous and want to talk x

It is hard getting your head around unexplained, I felt like I needed a problem but I'm ok about it now. I'm done with ttc and I just want to be pregnant so IVF it is. Thankfully I won't need months of treatments to fix endo or pcos before I might need IVF anyway. Although we do have one last crack at ttc before IVF if we start in October. We have our IVF nurse appointment on Monday, I think it will feel very real then.

When they told us we could have IVF we felt it was an amazing gift after having all the tests and they wanted to move quickly I was so grateful and still am as much as it’s hard. I start again in Sept 2nd cycle Xx

@LillyLeaf i want to just get on with it aswell but the waiting list for my area can b up to 12mnths long v depressing..do any of u ladies that have done ivf inject urselves or do u go to the hospital?

Hi all, Im new to all of this and Im so confused I have unexplained infertility, we tried for 3 years all the exams done and all good. I was overweight so worked hard this past year to loose the weight but the changed the rules where I live and now you cant be over 39 for free IVF with the NHS and I just turned 40. So Will have to go private.

Im at the stage of looking for a good private clinic in London or in Bedfordshire. So if you have any recommendation...

@MrsCCP that seems so unfair, I'm so sorry. If you can afford to go private it does take a bit of stress out of the process. I've felt very stressed dealing with the nhs. My NHS waiting list is very long so I'm going private.

We have our first nurse appointment today with the clinic. I have no idea what happens in this, maybe more tests? I think they explain the whole IVF process. It feels very real now. I've been doing a 'Mindful ivf' app to try to relax and my first acupuncture is next week.

I watched an IVF documentary last night called 'one more shot' it was a hard watch but good, it's amazing what people will do to have a child.

Hope everyone is ok

What channel was the documentary on please? Sounds a good thing to watch Xx hope your appointment goes well every area does things differently so I hope they answer what you need Xx

Sounds like that would be good to watch. Let us know 🙂

Check on youtube for the documentary

I just watched snippets of it on youtube i totally relate to them..the part were he says this has changed me and made me hard and angry i feel the exact same made me sad..i dnt want to b that person😢😧

Just got back from my HSG x-ray and it wasn't the best. But it's done now. Only had 4 women in the room and they were all lovely, one of the nurses held my hand and tried to help me relax. Have anti biotics to take for the week now to make sure I don't get an infection and had to take some pain killers as the cramping is really bad.

At the end the nurse who did it told me if I'm ovulating (which I am) it's a good time to try for a baby as the dye can move things along, but I didnt tell her no point as OH seems to not be realising sperm lol. So glad it's done, have our first appointment with the consualtant on 1st November.

Think I'm going to have to watch that documentry. Watch a lot of videos on YouTube.

I watched it on Netflix.

I had my fertility clinic appt last week. Apparently since my birthday is the cut off (and is only a few weeks away) they're happy to label me as unexplained and refer immediately for one round of private IVF. No waiting. Not even to think it through! We need to decide on Weds. Ultrasound is booked for then... and they want us to sign up in the same hour. Not sure it's fir us though, was so hoping they'd find something to 'fix'. Found an IVF clinic open day to go to, so we're rushing to get to that. Documentary sounds good. Might search for it later tonight.

@SpringLake wow that was quick. It's hard to get your head around IVF that quickly.

@Miss83 it's good that it's done, you're moving forward.

My nurse appointment was good, just filling in lots of consent forms like what to do with left over eggs or embryos, and what happens to frozen embryos if your partner dies! It's a lot to think about, I've never even had a BFP and I had to decide what happens to my imaginary embryos 😁. The nurse showed me the injections, but said they can go through it again nearer the time. It felt VERY real seeing them even though I'm not too bothered about injecting myself. I tried to keep it all light hearted so I didn't burst out crying. The nurse was nice and kept saying it's exciting, I suppose it is but I can think of other reasons to be excited.

So probably the beginning of October we'll start and mid Oct start injections, unless a miracle happens this cycle

@Miss83 u know what its still worth a shot hun u never know i had a friend who got pregnant while waiting for ivf right after she had some dye put through to check for blockages. I was just thinking i fot these were the kind of stories ppl made up to give infertile ppl hope but i swear it happened! Hope ur having a nice relaxing bath and chilling out after it, glad the nurses were nice to you it does make a world of difference when ur dealing with compassionate ppl x @SpringLake thats a lot to take in over a short period time but if i was u id honestly jump at the chance..i just want to start ivf and c if it works im tired of waiting and putting my life on hold. Im not underestimating the rollercoaster of emotions btw @LillyLeaf i feel like ttc this long makes u soo up and down doesnt it? Id feel the same excited but scared, but its definetely a gd thing ur starting nxt mnth..not gonna lie im jealous i cant start just now lol

So this finally happened

@TTC73 thats great hun ur making positive steps in the right direction

@TTC73 that's great step forward. fx for you!

First ever positive OPK!! I could cry right now

Not sure why my phone keeps reposting it it keeps saying unable to post

@TTC73 are you in a bad signal area? In any case, it uploaded fine! It looks just the same as the strongest OPK line I've ever had :) congrats!

Im a bit confused as to why its so strong as its 2 days till ovulation unless clomid has messed my days up its definitely a bfp though DH couldn't believe it

@TTC73 that's great!

I'm having the opposite problem, I usually ovulate today or tomorrow but I haven't had a positive opk this cycle, our bodies like to be annoying sometimes.