Anyone else just starting their journey ?

[TTC73]

DH is going for his sperm sample to be tested today and hes so nervous and the GP wants me to have some blood tests done and swabs at a later date. So nervous of what to expect and terrified of the possibility of IVF I've heard its so painful ?
We've been trying to have a baby for over 3yrs with 2 chemical pregnancies so far

Here, my dh gets upset when we do talk about it (because he's sad that we have to). Unfortunately he also gets upset when I talk about my career (because apparently I'm not planning how to fit a baby into my life!). If I had spent the last 2 years letting opportunities pass by, I'd be miserable and we'd be poorer! It's a fine line... one small thing at a time seems to work. mostly.

Hi, so our GP rang us yesterday as yet again his SA came back with no sperm at all so taking it as it is him now. We are already seeing the fertillity consulted in a few months but she still want us in for a chat about options to make sure we are both ok. Been really lucky... Think we have actully found a really good doctor. Think we will probably have ICSI going by what our appointment at the woman's health clinc said but DP is very stressed with work and has quite bad OCD at the mo, so we will see what his bloods come back with. He is however really laid back about the news at the moment, I'm stress out more.

Have my sister's baby news celebration meal today and to top it off AF arived yesterday so feeling generally crap all around! Tempted to book half day in work today and just shoot off and take the dog on a nice long walk.

@miss83 I hope it's a relief to have some answers. Great that you've got a good doctor! It's hard to believe any man could be so laid back about such a result... maybe it's manifesting as extra stress at work or not sunk in yet? A great idea to get out for a walk... I hope the rain holds off for just long enough for you!

@Miss83 so sorry the test showed the same again. It's a lot to take in and you must be reeling. Thank god for ICSI. Hope you get your half day & get through the dinner ok. Mind yourself

@EstrellaMay yh everythings all out in the open with us now and i feel relieved i do love him to bits! @SpringLake exactly ttc is my no1 priority but it does feel like ur lifes on hold works prob how u distract urself and keep busy x @Miss83 hope ur doin k hun thats a lot of shit uve got to deal with ur right tho thank god for these procedures it can still happen . Have a few glasses of wine during ur dinner and hand hold with OH my heart honestly goes out to u x

Thanks everyone. Took half day, went and got my dad's puppy on the way home so my house in currently crazy... Just as I need it to take my mind off things. I'm going to take both dogs up my mums for dinner where another three dogs awaits us as my mum has two and my sister one so I won't have to sit down much... I'll have to keep an eye on the dogs, excuse to leave the room. Sadly can't drink as oh doesn't drive so I'm des lol. I'll prob have a few when I get home though!

He's good at hiding things, but at the mo he's just saying nothing we can do about it right now, let's just chill until our appointment in October... Easier said than done. Never mind, the weekend now.

thisisouryrfx18 I try and be very open with oh.... Find if I keep things it it really bugs me and he knows something is wrong so I just blert out how I feel all the time now.

@Miss83 aww puppies are such a nice distraction when im down i always think thank god for my little pooch, i have to get up and ready and out the house for her sake. Otherwise id prob spend most of the morning mopeing round the house if i dnt have plans. Thats it look forward to a little drink after it all u deserve it x

Hows everyone today im finally into my fw i figure we may aswell keep tryin up to my gynaeo appt still living in hope i ll get pregnant and not have to go..yes i am delusional

I get it thisisouryrfx18, even been told OH has no sperm in his SA's I'm like.... Maybe it's stress and if we just still try you'll never know. Think it's normal to always have that glimmer of hope. And you never know if you have no answers yet it's always worth a try. We just can't give ourselves a break lol. Bet you can wait to get the appointment done and get your results. Time seems to go slow when you want it to fast and fast every other time lol

@Miss83 exactly if we dnt have hope what do we have..how was ur dinner? I hope it wasnt too bad. Yh i cant wait for gynaeo even tho i know its prob bad news im just soo sick of living in limbo nearly 3yrs ttc i still cant believe it sometimes

thisisouryrfx18 the meal was better sweet.... They popped open the champagne and toasted the news, which was nice but really hard at the same time.

Once you get answers you can move on to the next phase.... I find all the tests and waiting lists for the tests such a downer. Hopefully it won't be bad news for you!! When did you say your appointment was?... Next month?

@Miss83 i know exactly how u feel i have a family member whos pregnant but whats even worse is shes not fit to b a mother shes had her other kids taken off her feel like offering to adopt this one lol i keep trying to convince myself when my sister has kids al b happy being the fun aunty..yh my appt is the end of august and its dragging in worried about what internal scans/x rays theyl have to do ive heard women on here saying its not pleasant but i have no choice uuughh

@Miss83 meant to say when r yous goin ahead with the ICSI? Or is it a case of another waiting list?

Yeah, I am really not looking forward to all that stuff.... I'm not very good with people going 'down there' I go for my smear but that's bad enough. Hoping it'll be female examiners as I don't think it'll feel very uncomfortable with any males at this stage. I maybe called from mine next month... Just waiting for a letter so we maybe getting them done at the same time

No still waiting for 100% confirmation on ICSI but the woman's health unit said that as my DP had nothing in his sample that would more than likely be the route. When he was a child he had an Undescended testicles and had to have an opportunity to fix that and a hernia. This operation can cause blockages so they seem to think this is the cause. Our GP rang him this week wanting to go in for a chat about it (even though we have already been referred) so I told him to ask if there was an op they could do to unblock. The clinic mentioned nothing about this... Only ICSI.

My sister already has one, she's three and bloody lush. She makes me what one even more. She didn't try on ethire time.... It just happens. She's not the best mum.. my mum has her loads as she 'cant cope' and she'll be even more dramatic now shes pregnant with number two saying how she'll need slepp ect. Everyone else does it... I'm sure she can. She can't even clean the house or take a shower without shipping her DD to my mums.

Hi everyone.
I tested on Friday (14 dpo and 16 dpt) and negative. Tested again yesterday, negative. But my period hasn’t come. Wondering if it’s because I was on the progesterone pessaries? The doc didn’t mention these delaying my period but looks like that might be the case according to google... Anyone have experience of this?
Thanks!

@Miss83 it might b a gd thing if its a blockage he has i know that sounds warped but at least he d b producing sperm and as u said there could b an op to correct it fx..so i take it ul b gettin scans etc done aswell just to rule out u dnt have any issues aswell?

@Miss83 also i was worried about seeing a male doctor its awkward isnt it? I googled mine and thank god its a woman lol i thought if its a guy i ll die from embaressment but cant afford to wait even longer for another appt so ill have to bite the bullet, goggle urs when ur letter comes in that way u can ask for a woman or at least b mentally prepared x

thisisouryrfx18 thanks, yeah I will Google... Put my mind at rest. Yeah, all my blood work has come back fine but they just want to scan to check all is ok in there and they want it done just after my period has ended. And also has to be done by October so that only gives me next month and September. I have to wait for a letter off the radiology department and then call to book it in at the right time.

Hopefully it is just a blockage, if there is no sperm then we had a big decision to make on our hands. Glad you have a lady.... Realllllly hope I do to... But like you said you just have to get on with it, as horrible as it is.

Do you have any idea what they may offer you yet? Or have to wait for all results to come back first?

@Miss83 theyr being vague with us atm like i said my bloods are fine his SA came back normal so unless i have blocked tubes or cysts im confused as to why its not happening. That being said i think im going to fone my docs to c if my bloods can b repeated, after all it could b a case of me not ovulating every mnth u think they wouldve had the common sense to do it without me asking tho

Hope someone can help u @Booksand stuff x

@thisisouryrfx18 being unexplained after trying 3 years must be so frustrating! Since you’ve already TTC that long they should refer you for ivf straight away though once all the tests are done if they come back clear is that right?

@Miss83 so sorry to hear about your DP’s SA. I’ve heard people have had great sucess with vitamins in getting sperm count up and from what I understand he doesn’t need much for you to have ICSI as they individually select them I think. Hope they give you some answers.

@GiraffeMomma sorry to hear about your tube. Hope things went well with the GP.

@TTC73 fingers crossed for success with the clomid!

@Booksandstuff no experience sorry but hope you get answers soon!

AFM I’ve got my hycosy scheduled for next month now and seeing consultant in October. I just had a 22 day cycle with spotting on day 21, it’s usually 26 days so no idea what happened. The Chinese medicine doctor I’m seeing looked quite concerned about it.

@kikisparks i think so, well i hope so surely we ve been through enough. I feel as if its never ending like i said cant wait til i go and c this gynaeo, itl prob the usual tho asking questions taking our history and then another wait on another appt for a scan why does everything take soo bloody long