Trying to conceive baby#2 following ivf treatment for #1

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I thought I would start this thread as I can't see anything similar. We underwent many rounds of icsi and following a couple of bfns, and an ectopic pregnancy we were finally blessed with our beautiful daughter last year.

We recently started thinking about baby no 2 and had 4 frozen embryos of which 2 had been tested and found to be chromosomally normal so are meant to have a better chance. We didnt have the other 2 tested.

A couple of weeks back we had our first fet with one of the tested embryos and got a bfp super early at 4dp5dt. Sadly by 8dpt the line was barely visible and resulted in a chemical pregnancy. I've been feeling really down about it as this was meant to be a super duper embryo with no genetic problems which they said was the main reason embryos fail.

I thought it would be easier trying for #2 and of course it is in a way as I realise how lucky I am to have had a baby but I can feel the infertility fog starting to descend again as I realise although I've had a brief respite I will never be like my fertile friends and I do really want another baby and a sibling for my little girl.

Im feeling a bit negative at the moment. We will probably go back for the other tested embryo in the near future but I can't see how I would ever get lucky enough to get 2 bfps in a row. These things just don't happen to me so just not too hopeful about it at all. We said that if we used all of our frosties with no success we would be happy with what we have but already I am thinking should I do more fresh cycles. I will be 39 soon though so time isn't on my side for that.

Anyway just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation and would like to share the journey. Please come and say hi.

@NoCupcakesOrCocktails - I felt so low about it before going into our round last year so I get where you're coming from. Big hugs ❤️

I feel calmer this time. This is round number 3 trying for number 2 and will have to be our last shot at it. We're having PGD testing so it will be a longer process this time but I just can't have another MC, it broke me last time.

I'm also 40 now 😭

It's lovely to hear from you Twinkle, and good luck for your next round.

I'm still feeling pretty blah about it all NoCupcakes, I had a scan this morning and go back again tomorrow. The doctor thinks they'll probably do the retrieval on Friday. I hope it's all going well for you?

Thanks for the well wishes Chocolate and Jen, and good luck with the upcoming scans.

Hello everyone,

I wonder if I can join you? I am delighted to read this thread and see that lots of you have been successful or are currently pregnant - many congratulations.

I had a beautiful DS in 2018 after a very long infertility journey. He was born after our 4th fresh cycle, and we are lucky to have 2 frozen blasts.

We a due to start the FET process this month/next month. I feel excited but also apprehensive, as the past year of not thinking about infertility has been bliss. I know how lucky I am already.

If anyone is still on this thread, or anyone else new is lurking, please let us know how you are doing. I could do with a few friends!

Welcome @RunForTheHillock and good luck on your FET.

Who are you cycling with?

Hi.. I've been lurking a bit. I'm not doing FET yet but I have a 16 month old DS from our first (I was very lucky) round of IVF and 10 frosties waiting for me. We are currently trying naturally for a bit as I want to give it a go before shelling out for FET but I'm realistic about our chances as I apparently don't ovulate (despite a very regular cycle). I'm 40 this year so I anticipate we will start a frozen cycle either late this year or early next year. I had a good read through this thread the other day and was so glad to see some success stories. Good luck to you ladies still awaiting your bfps - I hope you are fortunate before I join this thread in earnest!!

Welcome Run, and good luck with the upcoming cycle. Your comment about not thinking about infertility being bliss made me smile - I was totally the same! If we're lucky enough to have DC2, that would be it for us and I can't wait not to have to worry/think about all this crap.

Welcome to you too Glasto! 10 frosties is great, and good luck with your natural ttcing.

I hope you're both doing well nocupcakes and twinkle?

I'm currently in the 2ww so wishing time away...as usual.

Hi 👋 Twinkle, Glasto and Genghis, and everyone else,

I am in Scotland, so am doing my cycle up here with the same clinic as my fresh round when DS was born.

Glasto - super to have 10 Frosties!

Genghis - 2ww misery hope you are keeping yourself busy. I tended to just sit and watch rubbish box sets on Netflix and second guess every twinge. I hope if/when I get to the next 2ww, the non stop 1 year old will keep me busy!

AFM, appointment on Monday at clinic, currently day 3 of cycle so hoping to have my endometrial scratch and downreg this month - eek.

Hi Ladies
Hope you don't mind me jumping on here.

In the middle of my 2ww and find its all getting a bit too much!

After 4 years of infertility I am lucky enough to have my 2yo DD from my first round of IVF (Pcos) and was very lucky to get pregnant on my first FET.

Last year we decided to start trying for no2. We had one cancelled cycle due to me not responding to medication and then had a failed transfer before Christmas. I went into the one at Christmas quiet relaxed and am finding after the failed transfer this cycle has me very anxious. Already feeling like it's failed.

How did your appointment go Run? Good luck starting!

Sorry to read about the cancelled cycle and failed transfer Wishing. When is your OTD? 2wws are horrific.

Hi,

Welcome wishing - I had multiple transfers before I was finally successful and each one of them left a huge, gaping hole in my heart. I found it almost unbelievable when I was finally successful. The anxiety was unbearable - I understand exactly how you feel.

AFM, the appointment went well and will start down-reg later this month. The consultant was very enthusiastic (possibly over the top) about our chances. We have 2 frozen blasts, a 5AB (same as DS) and a 3BB. We are going for an eSET of the better one (fingers crossed 🤞 it defrosts ok).

If this first FET is not successful then we will consider doing a fresh round next. I am 37 And can feel the months ticking by.

Genghis - how many days until test date?

Thanks Genghis and Run. The days are going by very slowly. But trying to keep busy and distracted. OTD is next Monday, when is your test date Genghis?

I know we read into every little twinge and pain we get but I just really feel like it didn't worked again. I can't remember what it was like symptom wise during my sucessful transfer on DD. Don't think this negative mind set is going to help. I need to be more positive!

Glad the appointment went well Run and everything is crossed for you. It's nice that the consultant was so positive but I get what you mean about being over the top - you need to protect yourself from getting your hopes up (well, I do!)

Good luck for Monday Wishing, have you done any test yet?

My update is that I got a bfp, which is great news but I feel very anxious about it all, especially since I had some spotting on Friday. It was brown (sorry, tmi) and not much so hopefully everything is ok (for now). I go for my repeat beta on Monday so currently wishing the weekend away.

Absolutely brilliant news Genghis. A very tentative 👊. And keeping everything crossed for you. Xx

That's great news Genghis! Fingers crossed for you for Monday.

Yeah I ended up caving this morning. The anxiety just became too much. But we got our BFP!

I didn't get to test first thing this morning so maybe the line would have been darker if I had? I will test again tomorrow and on Monday. Hopefully the line will continue to get darker (I've attached a pic hopefully it uploads, still feel unsure as it's so faint)

Amazing news @GenghisKahnSchmitz and @Wishing4number2!

😊😊😊😊😊

Delighted for you wishing!

Twinkle how are you?

@RunForTheHillock - I'm doing ok. Back from Reprofit last night. They collected 7 eggs, 6 were mature and 5 fertilised. Lets see how many make it to day 5 which will be Wednesday. Then they're going to be PGD/PGS tested - can't remember which one is which! - then transfer hopefully once we know the outcome of the testing.

That sounds really positive twinkle. Does that mean transfer would be an fet? Keep us posted on how it goes this week xxx

So pleased for you genghis - everything crossed for tomorrow's beta. Early days are so terrifying - no helpful advice to get through but thinking of you!

Great news on your positive Wishing.

That's fab that so many fertilised Twinkle - hope you have a bumper crop on Wed and they can crack on with testing. Hope you're not too uncomfortable post egg collection xxx

Thanks both.

Yes this will be a FET hopefully in next couple of months.

I felt horrible after EC, really sore, this time was the worst time I think ☹️

That's great news Twink and a great result from your EC.

Good luck tomorrow Geng.

Thanks for your congratulations everyone, I really appreciate it. My hcg has thankfully more than doubled, and no more bleeding so far!

Congratulations Wishing, wonderful news!!

I hope you're feeling better Twinkle, and well done on the five fertilising, fingers crossed for Weds.

Hi sorry I've not been on in a while. Things haven't been straightforward (as always )

@GenghisKahnSchmitz that's brilliant news!! Congratulations! Glad to hear the bleeding has settled. When is your scan booked for?

@twinkledag  yay for the 5 embryos. Fingers crossed they develop well and for the PGS/PGD. Hope things are settling down after EC

@Wishing4number2 and @RunForTheHillock welcome! Congrats on the BFP Wishing

I'm a few days after transfer. Already starting to feel low and anxious. I hate the 2ww. I had a week of bleeding. Started 4 days before ET. This has happened with my past 3 FETs and they can't find any cause for it. It's finally stopped yesterday. I can't help but think it's never going to work for me as there is clearly something wrong somewhere. I had my last 2 blasts transferred so I'll be doing a fresh cycle if this doesn't work

@GenghisKahnSchmitz - fantastic news on the HCG doubling. Here's hoping it continues to rise and rise. Good luck my dear.

@NoCupcakesOrCocktails - I'm so sad to read your update. What could this bleeding be? Has anyone given you any idea why this is happening? Sending you a big hug ❤️

As for me, I don't have 5 embryos anymore... I have 6! One was a bit of a slow goer but it's progressed over the weekend and 6 are now at the right stage for Day 3. Really happy but know this is just the start of the journey so not getting too excited 🙃